I'd prefer a game to look last-gen and be 60fps than have all the modern graphics bells and whistles but be 30fps.

in order of importance: 60fps > resolution > graphical effects.

Once it's hitting 60, and resolution is high enough to not be a blurry mess (at least 1080p) then focus on pushing visuals.

On PC and PC Handhelds I have used 50fps as a sweet spot sometimes as that still feels smooth to me but gives me more room to push higher res/settings.

Always performance. Always.

But lower frame rates don't bother me. We all played OOT, 007, and Perfect Dark back in the day, and we all gushed over them. I literally remember zero people caring or even talking about it. I certainly didn't. And to this day, when I hook my N64 up and game on my CRT, I can't tell at all.

Still, on my PS5? I'll take performance because well... graphics have stalled anyway. Might as well go performance in that scenario.

Depends - and if the game allows for choosing refresh rate, I often chose 50fps as decent frame rate that allows for better visuals than 60fps.