You wrote an entire essay because someone stole you're toys...
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I'd suggest to confront him, but without any hostility. Try not to say "I need to talk to you" or anything like that beforehand, or else he'll be preparing or remembering excuses for that moment. When confronted, the gestures he makes with his face and body will be a clear indicator if he's hiding something.
| Ryudo said: He's not a friend then |
He never was. He is talking about a firend.
...whatever that is
“It appeared that there had even been demonstrations to thank Big Brother for raising the chocolate ration to twenty grams a week. And only yesterday, he reflected, it had been announced that the ration was to be reduced to twenty grams a week. Was it possible that they could swallow that, after only twenty-four hours? Yes, they swallowed it.”
- George Orwell, ‘1984’
My brother had a friend that would always steal his stuff when they came over, but this was back when they were like 10. We never really confronted them about it because it just makes things messy, they just kind of grew apart as he realized that it seemed his friend was just using him for his stuff. This friend of yours sounds like a similar kind of situation, but in adult form, which truly surprises me. I could not picture any of my friends in their 20s stealing stuff from my house, they have jobs, they make money, and they are good people. As people have pointed out, it could be an addiction of his, and if that's the case, he needs help. This is one of those situations where, since he IS a friend, you have to at least talk to him first. If he truly is a good friend, he will tell you what he has been up to and why. If it is because he needs money, find out why, especially if he has a job. If it is because he can't stop, make him get help, if it is because he wanted them, tell him to eff off, because I'm sorry, but that is no friend.
That's my advice, in my personal life I have a very small circle of friends that I actually hang out with in a social manner. Only a couple do I have over my house, this is because the others have questionable habits or personalities that I have personally picked up on that I am not sure many notice. It is "normal" to everyone else, but to me, their behavior is destructive, or just plain annoying. I hang out with them at work, or will talk to them in stores, or on Facebook, but will NOT invite them to my house. You have to be able to discern, so that is my second leg of advice. Good luck! I hope you figure it out, keep us updated please!
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| Redgrave said: ...Fuck him... |
Damn. It was an elaborate porno script all along.
Redgrave said:
...Fuck him... |
...only to then find out he was a she. Continiue anyway...
| RubberWhistleHistle said: hey guys, im going to try to keep this as short as possible, but i want you guys to know all the details. so i have this friend, who we all call chav, and i would say he is my best friend. he comes over probably 2 to 3 times a week and we like to drink beer, watch baseball, and play video games. since baseball season started, we usually use the xbox one to watch the games, and then we keep the wii u on so the amiibos can fight. its basically me and my wife who live here by ourselves, and this guy is the only friend i have who ever comes over. and no, he isnt my only friend because im just a rotten asshole like most of you might guess. i am 26 and finishing up three degrees, so i dont hang out with a bunch of friends like i used to. so thats all the backstory, now here is where the weird stuff starts kicking in. we are bored one night (this year) and we are figuring out what game to play, and i was like, "well i still have mario 3D world i still need to 100%" i look for the game and its fucking gone. i immediately knew what happened. i knew he stole my game. fast forward to this morning, and i have a wild hair to count my amiibos. 4 are missing, and i knew that he took them out of my house. ok, so you might be wondering, how can i be sure it was him aside from the fact that he is the only other person who ever comes over? well, i have another good friend who has a group of friends who gets together and plays mario kart wii at least once a week. chav is someone they invite over because he really likes mario kart. well one time, he took a wii, metal gear solid 5 (it had literally just come out that week), and a 360 controller with black thumbsticks. he comes in the next morning and sells it at the store i work at. my friend had told me that he suspected chav of stealing these things, and i confirmed that i had all the things that were missing. so clearly he does this kind of thing. so what should i do guys? first of all, what do you think i could do to get my game and my four amiibos back? i really would like to have them. just so you guys know it was samus, luigi, kirby, and yoshi. nothing that is really a big deal, considering i have all of them. three out of the four of those i know he doesnt have, so thats a possbile motive. anyway, what should i do? :/ i know a lot of you would suggest to never have him over again and declare ourselves as not friends anymore, but i think close human relationships are a little more complicated than that. first of all, i kind of feel bad for him. i think he has a problem, and i do genuinely care about him and would like him to not be like this anymore. also, i would like to have my stuff back, so any ideas on how i could go about that would be appreciated. this sucks so much ass. |
Well.... I guess he's not your friend and likely never was if he is willing to steal stuff of yours. It's not like you guys are 5 and he doesn't fully grasp the concept...
What can you do? Likely rarely have him over, or if you do, ensure he is always supervised. Of course you are going to need to confront him on it and see his reaction on it as well, he might make the decision for you. I get that you consider him your best friend, but that doesn't mean that he considers you a good friend, or friend at all. If he is a kelpto then he does need help, but it's still weird that he would be willing to steal from "friends" as in most circumstances these people will try not to steal from people they are close to.
The great thing about the complexity of human relationships is that in many cases the best ones are the easiest. Close friends do seem to be a dying breed though as today's society is so distant and relies on social media which actually cuts people out more than it invites people in. Also, through all that, some people loose the ability to interact with others in meaningful ways.
As I said, you should likely talk to him about it, but before you do, ENSURE that HE is the ONLY one that has been to your house.
Best of luck.
Gotta figure out how to set these up lol.
call him out on that shit and never invite back into your house unless he returns them or pays you back the full amount of the 4 missing amiibos. and if he sold them tell him the friendship is over, I had a friend who did this; let him borrow 3-4 games which he sold after beating them, I cursed him out(almost fought...just shoved each other around) I eventually forgave him(took awhile) but to this day I never lend him my games or invite him to my house(well at least upstairs to my room)
No true friend steals from you. Either confront him or let it be and dont ever have him over.
I have 12 and leave them displayed out in the open. Not a single one has gone missing with all the friends I have over. Trust is a big thing and you'll learn real quick the ones you cant. Thats shitty and im sorry you lost them :(
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Well if he just borrowed them but doesn't have the "balls" to ask you, confront him and tell him to give it back, and just ask next time for them. But if he's really that desperate for cash and selling them or simply just stealing them because he doesn't want to pay for them, I'd just cut ties with him. I would have no interest in socializing with people like that, and quite frankly these people could be or become dangerous.
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