Jackson Katz, a social researcher, asked men what they do on a daily basis to avoid being sexually assaulted. Then he asked women.

• Rape culture is when women who come forward are questioned about what they were wearing.
• Rape culture is when survivors who come forward are asked, “Were you drinking?”
• Rape culture is when people say, “she was asking for it.”
• Rape culture is when we teach women how to not get raped, instead of teaching men not to rape.
• Rape culture is when the lyrics of Robin Thicke’s ‘Blurred Lines’ mirror the words of actual rapists and was the number one song in the country.
• Rape culture is when the mainstream media mourns the end of the convicted Steubenville rapists’ football careers and does not mention the young girl who was victimized.
• Rape culture is when cyberbullies take pictures of sexual assaults and harass their victims online after the fact, which in the cases of Audrie Pott and Rehtaeh Parsons tragically ended in their suicides.
• Rape culture is when, in 31 states, rapists can legally sue for child custody if the rape results in pregnancy.
• Rape culture is when college campus advisers tasked with supporting the student body, shame survivors who report their rapes. (Annie Clark, a campus activist, says an administrator at the University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill told her when she reported her rape, “Well… Rape is like football, if you look back on the game, and you’re the quarterback, Annie… is there anything you would have done differently?”)
• Rape culture is when colleges are more concerned with getting sued by assailants than in supporting survivors. (Or at Occidental College, where students and administrators who advocated for survivors were terrorized for speaking out against the school’s insufficient reporting procedures.)

3. A judge who sentenced only 30 days in jail to a 50-year-old man who raped a 14-year-old girl (who later committed suicide), and defended that the girl was “older than her chronological age.”

4. Mothers who blame girls for posting sexy selfies and leading their sons into sin, instead of talking with their sons about their responsibility for their own sexual expression.

6. Supporting athletes who are charged with rape and calling their victims career-destroyers.

7. Companies that create decals of a woman bound and gagged in order to “promote their business.”

8. People who believe that girls “allow themselves to be raped.”

9. Journalists who substitute the word “sex” for “rape” – as if they’re the same thing.

10. Politicians distinguishing “legitimate rape” and stating that rape is “something that God intended to happen,” among other horrendous claims.

11. Calling college students who have the courage to report their rapes liars.

12. The ubiquity of street harassment – and how victims are told that they’re “overreacting” when they call it out.

13. Victims not being taken seriously when they report rapes to their university campuses.

14. Rape jokes – and people who defend them.

15. Sexual assault prevention education programs that focus on women being told to take measures to prevent rape instead of men being told not to rape.

16. The victimization of hospital patients, especially people with mental health issues and the elderly,  by the very people who are there to protect them.

17. Reddit threads with titles like “You just have to make sure she’s dead” when linking to the story of a 13-year-old girl in Pakistan being raped and buried alive.

18. Reddit threads dedicated to men causing women pain during sex (I’m not going to give the thread credence by linking to it).

19. Twitter hashtags that support accused rapists and blame victims.

20. Publicly defending celebrities accused of rape just because they’re celebrities and ignoring or denouncing what the victim has to say.

21. Assuming that false reporting for sexual assault cases are the norm, when in reality, they’re only 2-8%, which is on par with grand theft auto.

22. Only 3% of rapists ever serving a day in jail.

23. Women feeling less safe walking the streets at night than men do.

24. 1-in-5 women and 1-in-71 men having reported experiencing rape.

25. The fact that we have to condition ourselves not to use violent language in our everyday conversations.

We have a rape culture when the first thing we consider about the rape victim is why didn't they do something to prevent it and the first thing we consider about the alleged rapist is how this will impact his future.

Is your mind changed yet?

1) Do you have anything to back that up? It seems to me that your argument has largely become "I feel like that doesn't seem right, so it must be wrong", which honestly isn't much of an argument.

2) Just ignoring the fact that sexual violence is often unreported and pretending that those crimes didn't exist does not make your numbers any more accurate. You are ignoring the prevailing body of knowledge and literally everything we know about crime reporting which states that rape is widely under-reported, in order to twist the numbers to somewhat agree with you. Ignoring the majority of sexual violence does not make anything more accurate. While there may be some small portion of false reports in BJS statistics, there is no reason to assume that these outnumber cases which are unreported in BJS statistics or cases that occur before an individual turns 12, or even that these are statistically significant. If anything, these numbers provided by the NCVS are likely to be an underestimate, not an overestimate. To argue that we cannot use the best data we have is to argue that we should not be having this conversation because any alternative you present will be worse. Unless you have a more comprehensive estimate (using only reported crimes is less comprehensive, not more comprehensive), you are not adding to this discussion.

3) So, for my math to be correct, you have to assume that the best estimate available is accurate. I don't consider this to be an issue here...

4) Yes, there are high risk populations, but that doesn't really change anything. We are talking about the average person here. That means that some people will know more individuals who have been victimized and some will know less. Still, the number here is so high that such variation does little to really change the point.

So you will just keep making up things I say. O well.

you're missing the point. If someone had failed/failing kidneys, do you think the government could conscript someone to put that person on dialysis until a donor came around? Because the person with kidney issues is certainly a conscious human being, but I think most would say that the government should not be able to force someone to take that burden on their body even if it's for the betterment of another. 

Not voluntarily giving up a kidney and willingly killing a consious human being because its inconvenient are not even remotely the same. As for leaching the life out of someone. You do realise the female body is biologically designed to carry a child. It normally doesn't cause inreparable medical damage to a woman. Unlike abortion which is definitive.

You can't give someone the right to kill another human being once its consious. Unless said person chooses so. If you don't want to raise a child totally fine, plenty of people who. would want to adopt a child. Luckily where I live abortion after 22 weeks is actually forbidden by law. Since even if the woman wants to get rid of it the medical procedure is forbidden to execute by a doctor, unless there are very compelling nefical reasons. Although I guess you could cut it out after that periode and lay it in a couveuse. 

A foetus is an exsisting person just because it is in a womb and you can not see it doesn't mean it is non existant. A consious foetus is a lot more than just a bunch of cell that are building a person. A featus is in fact a developing human being and that person has the right not to be killed. The fact that you would regard a consious festus as a parasite and something that has no value at all, is pretty disturbing if you ask me. 

While I don't really like the idea of abortion at all, I would be willing to compromise if the system were designed in a certain way. This is just my personal opinion.

If the woman is not an adult, or is raped, or the man wants nothing to do with it, and she doesn't want it either, she should be able to choose to abort.

In the same scenario's, if the woman does want it, she should be able to choose to give birth and accept full responsibility of that child (with adult approval if she's not).

If however they are both consenting adults, and they both agree the point of the act is to create a life, if she changes her mind and no longer wants the child, but the man does, then she should have to give birth. The way I see it, that man owns the rights to his 'product' and therefore the rules that go along with that should basically be contractual. If he requires what comes of that 'product', a child, is to be given life, then it should be granted, or the contract would then be broken, and she should have to pay a price. That price should be enough that she has to think twice before trying to abort. The man would also need to accept 100% responsibility of that child.

This way woman should get their way the large majority of the time and in those cases shouldn't really hurt anybody else (but the unborn potentially). While there would need to be much more to this, as I most certainly haven't covered absolutely everything, I think it would please many more people than simply allowing woman to make the choice no matter what. I realize it's their body that holds the unborn, but that being wouldn't exist without that man's 'product'.

When the man can carry a pregnancy inside his body, he'll get the right to decide. 

I don't give any woman the right to decide what happens inside my testicles just because they carry potential life. 

What about woman who define themselves as men, who become pregnant?

You do. The fact you require consent, even though you could do with her as you please, means she has the right to control your body to a degree.

That's like saying when a woman can physically defeat a man she'll be given the right to decide, but until then, don't tell men what they can and can't do with their bodies, even though what they do with those bodies, may negatively impact woman. We agree that's not fair because men and woman aren't the same biologically, so the men are expected to withhold their physical strength to overpower a woman. Why is the fact a woman is different biologically in terms of reproductive organs, a good enough reason to negatively impact men then? If we all agree that men shouldn't rape woman because that's harmful to woman, then we should also be able to agree that woman shouldn't be able to kill the unborn because that's harmful to men.

This is part of the reason why I'm not entirely on board with abortion, yet would be willing to compromise to at least make it as acceptable for as many as possible.

I was kind of with you on the argument until you brought in the abortion thing to misrepresent the pro choice principle. It's not like you can't have an opinion on abortion, but the principle of self determination overwhelms your opinions on it. It's 100% a woman's choice how she intends to use her body and no one can impose the physical drain of carrying anything within her body against her will.

Her body, her choice, period. 

I don't want to start another argument here, but what you are saying only works if the girl is raped. When i woman is raped and gets pregnant am 100% on board with abortion. But when they choose to have sex they have to face the consequences, they know what can happen if they have unprotected sex, or even the chances of getting pregnant using condoms or pills.