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luigiman5555 on 02 March 2013
happydolphin said:
luigiman5555 said:

So you agree that there was a chance she would've slept with him if he had shown up? That's still cheating. She told me very clearly the week prior that she still didn't want to kiss other guys. She told me that she still only wanted to sleep with me and everything seemed fine. She also told me that I was the best guy she ever slept with. Now I think she was just manipulating me because she wanted to sleep with a bunch of guys inclduing me. All she had to do was break up or convince me to be in an open relationship with her if she didn't want to be in a closed relationship with me anymore.

I have only bad advice Luigi, but what I do try to offer is information if I can so tread lightely with me.

Yes, she was clearly going there with the intent of cheating, had the guy been really mr. perfect (sweet and sexy).

You have to ask yourself the question. Why would she tell you nice things and tell you everything was fine when it wasn't? What do you have that she wants, and why is she lying to you?

You're asking me why she didn't break up or try to convince you, there ARE reasons, we just don't know what they are.

Baalz thinks she's too pussy, I can't buy that. You guys have been together for 4 years. Either she wants to keep the relationship, might hope for engagement, thinks you're good, enjoys the intimacy, but something is wrong in your sex life and she is not comfortable mentioning it, otherwise she would have asked you about open relationships. She probably assumes you're against it and feels uneasy talking to you about it.

Imho there is a communication and sexual disconnect.

But there's never an excuse to cheat. If there were problems then she should've been honest with me about them. Do you think I should still forgive her?



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JWeinCom on 02 March 2013

Ho fo sho.



happydolphin on 02 March 2013
luigiman5555 said:

But there's never an excuse to cheat. If there were problems then she should've been honest with me about them. Do you think I should still forgive her?

I don't know dude, do you love her? If yes you'll forgive her whether you break up with her or not. The key here is that your forgiveness is not binding to your pursuing her. You could very well forgive her sins and move on with your life. Whether you pursue her or not, forgiving her is the way to go. If moving on, it will help give you closure. If trying again (which I doubt you will), it'll help you look for the root causes of the issues rather than just judge.

If forgiveness is what you're struggling with I would change my polemic in a flash and stop talking about the pragmatics of this.

Indeed, yes you must forgive her. Nobody in this world is perfect, not you nor I, and not her.



happydolphin on 02 March 2013
pezus said:

He didn't.

HIM: Beautiful girl like you should've been snatched up a long time ago. Wanna make out sometime this week?

There you go. Though he did later ask about open relationships, we don't know what direction that meant (on his end or on her end).



Nem on 02 March 2013

She was obviously stringing him on (unless she actually went to the date).

With that said, i would make it perfectly clear to her that that kind of behaviour is not ok and if she thinks you arent good enough for her then its best to end it there before someone really gets hurt worse (if i really loved her that is).

For the record, personally i would leave her. Can't stand people like that. Unless i have complete confidance that its just blabber talk for confidence boost. But still, i never enjoy it.



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NYANKS on 02 March 2013

First, who talks like that? That has to be the most rude and direct conversation ever lol.

Second, if you have real proof Falcon Punch her out of here, get someone better.



__XBrawlX__ on 02 March 2013

Why are you asking us. Ask her why she would make the plans, and go there, if she wasn't planning to sleep with him. It's bullshit man, and 4 years or not you need to make some quick decisions. Why would you trust her word if she's talking to guys behind your back in the first place?



 

 

 

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StokedUp on 02 March 2013

listen matey,
ive been with my girlfriend for 11 years, im 29, and if i saw that conversation and it was 100% definite that it was her, i'd kick her out my life straight away. The fact shes even answered with "maybe" to the question "are we going to make love at my house" is enough to get rid.



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badgenome on 02 March 2013
luigiman5555 said:

How can a great relationship include cheating? She even said she was only going to sleep with him because he asked her to BEFORE saying she wasn't really going to sleep with him. I can't trust her ever again.

Well, then you should probably just post some naked pictures of her in this thread and dump her.



NiKKoM on 02 March 2013

Daaaammmniitt.... I waited at the wrong Starbucks!!



 

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