Just be around girls and alcohol and it'll come naturally. But don't worry about it too much, aside from brodudes nobody really cares.

As for when it happens... As you've said you watch porn (I assume regularly so you're familiar with it), you know all those people that say it's all fake and you shouldn't imitate? Screw those people, as long as it's not violent or degrading porn, learn from it! My first time was awkward, I had no technique and no rhythm, this would not of been the case if I had learnt from the pros.

Honestly your 20s are what you make of them. You have the opportunity to be a confident guy with a good amount of money and constant sex, or you can be an unemployed awkward beta who complains on the internet. The second path can be tempting, but the first is always the better choice.

Edit: Sorry if this all seems like tough love, but you should be aware of what's ahead of you.

I'm so jealous.. When I was your age Girls weren't as slutty and trashy like nowadays.. It was so much harder when you had to clutter your way through 90's haircuts, clothing, beer and granny underwear... We hadn't pre mixed drinks like breezers, girls didn't go out in ultra shorts shorts, they didn't shop for sexy lingerie which they wear as normal clothing.. They didn't pick their eyebrows.. But boy do I respect that you are waiting for the one.. I could not resist the temptation if I was 19 nowadays..

Yeah I've been friendzoned a lot too.  But my overall life seems much happier now.  I'm not the looser I used to be, playing CoD for 4 hours straight.  I met this girl at work, we have so much in common.  We met 2 weeks ago and people asked us if we were friends since elementary school!!!  People at work want me to ask her out, but she has a boyfriend!  That's breaking my heart!  I promised myself that I would not interfer in their couple.  This girl is now a really good friend, but it's still hurting me.  I try to move on :(

friends with benefits is always risky imo, speaking from experience I girl and I had this same idea, we were friends since middle school but neither of us wanted anything serious, so we tried the "friends with benefits" and it was okay but when we started associating with other people, some tension drew between us and ended up getting in a fight(verbal) we're still friends but it was just and awkward experience...

just make sure feeling don't get too serious...I guess my situation differed since I actual knew the person for awhile. Best of luck though

Practice fingering your fist lots then when the time a girl comes on top of you just close your eyes and make a duck face and she'll never know because you were so good at fingering after all that practice that it should come naturally

Yeah and I appreciate the brutal honesty more. It's a great way to actually realize that life isn't so simple. Although second option appears a lot more easier, the first is my preferred option, hence why I am still continuing to study - job that is lol.

Stop worrying about it. Don't feel bad about yourself and don't think that there's something wrong with you. My honest advice for you would be to stop watching porn, and to focusing on improving your life (health, school, financial, family, etc.)

Keep your head up.

Don't beat yourself up, the right chick will come along and everything will be good, sometimes it just takes a little longer for people. 

But that doesn't mean you just sit there and don't do anything about  it, try to be as out going as possible, never say no to doing something with people (unless it's like snorting cocaine off a dumpster or something).

Funny thing, I lost my virginity exactly at your current age, years and months included.

Honestly it wasn't that awkward as some make it out to be (but maybe it is for young teens?).