I started dating this girl two months ago. She has a good personality, funny, and isn't bad on the eyes either. Her only problem was that she has two kids: a 2 year old boy and a one year old boy. It wasn't till after the first date did I find out and I was hesitant but decided it wasn't going to make it a deal breaker. She said very clearly though that she was the mother and the father and no guy was going to change that. I took her word for it. After being with her a while I started doing minor stuff with the kids you know feeding them and playing with them, changing diapers and all that.

One day I stopped by her apartment and her one year old ran up and hugged my leg and said daddy. I looked straight up to her and she looked shocked. I asked if he said what I thought he said and she quickly said he didn't. Then the messed up thing was the kid’s actual father was sitting on the couch(I guess he was visiting). He looked at me but didn't say anything. So I said I was going to the bathroom and I haven't talked to her in about two and a half weeks. 

I think I'm more afraid of the fact that the kid called me dad then the actual dad being there. I'm not sure what to do. My friends are just being a-holes telling me I should have never dated her to begin with when I found out she had kids. Maybe they’re right and it was naïve of me to start this relationship without being prepared for this result. It's not like I don't still like her but I know after being called that I know I'm not mature enough to take care of another person. I’m not even sure if we’re still together since I'm afraid too much time has passed by for our relationship to be salvaged after something like that.

I’m not sure what to do at all.

Her having kids is not bad at all. The only negative is that having kids takes some time away from a person's free time and from a relationship.

The great thing about women is that relationships can always be salvaged. You can rekindle the flame even years later because they will always have a soft spot for you. You just have to play your cards right if that's what you really want. Me, I'm not fond of dating women with kids. Just a hang-up I have, but I know a lot of guys that date women with kids and they are really happy in their relationships. It's all about want YOU want to do.

How old are you?

I have a friend who is having a hard time with a woman with kids as well. It's not easy at all. In most cases they can be super protective of their kids.

so you mean to tell me that you just completely cut her off for 2 weeks after the "dad" thing happened??

you didn't even TRY to hit her up or anything??

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I'd say you made the right call. Get her out of your life completely, otherwise you will be going back to her at some point, either when you're lonely or shit has hit the fan in some way in your life, I guarantee it.

I find it alarming that she denied what the child said to him. It's true that he isn't the real father, but if the kids feels that way you can't try to change it. If anything I find her actions to be as bad as his. Two and a half weeks? That's a long time, and it might show that neither of you truly care for one another.

If what I learned from animal channel is right, you need to kill the kids first then she'll be in heat and you can copulate and have your own kids, problem solved

A. How old are you? If you are less than 21 you should have really avoided baby momma drama. If you are around 25 then dating someone with kids really shouldn't be an issue.

Why do I say these things? Well there should be priorities and I would say school is one of them. I'm not saying you can't have a successful relationship and go to school (Me and my wife both go to school) but women, children and school are all very stressful and take a lot of time. At 25 if you avoid women with kids you are cutting a lot of people off without giving them a chance. Also, 25 should be an age that most people have a degree and a career and really should be mature enough for things such as kids.

My wife is 21 (since september) and I have a kid who is 2 years old but my ex kidnapped him so he hasn't been an issue. I've been in and out of court for almost a year and a half now.

Also, before you even got involved you really should have done some soul searching. It's bad enough that when you enter a relationship it effects 2 people but at least they should be mature enough to handle when the relationship goes south.

If you aren't ready to be in it for the long haul then you should have cut it off immediatly. Children are resiliant but things like this can effect them to extreme. Letting the kids get attached and then cutting them off is really fucking shitty dude. I'm not saying that you had to make up your mind that "this girl is the one" from the first date. However, if you weren't looking for something to last like that then you shouldn't have gotten involved.