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Lonely_Dolphin said:
ruffy37 said:
terrible advices, this dude doesn't want to work, why you give him advices involving work? the best option is to move to a country in which you can live on welfare.

I'm already in the U.S., thing is I don't consider spending every day alone on the street doing nothing living. My mind wouldn't be able to handle that.

Then get a job so you don't end up homeless. Take that as motivation.

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What dat mouth do?

Twitter: @d21lewis

What you need to do is decide what's important to you in life. Seeing the world? Falling in love? Living comfortably? Being a parent? Only you can decide.

When you do decide, you have to ask yourself how hard you're willing to work for these things. Everything from having a relationship to looking good costs money. There are no free rides. You just have to hope you're lucky enough to find something that gives you a sense of fulfilment--a job you look forward to instead of a job you hate. Try lots of different things. You're not a slave. If you don't like something, quit and try something else. Sooner or later, you'll figure it out.

It just saddens me. My daughter is the same way. There just isn't really anything she's passionate about. I want her to live and be happy no matter what path she chooses and, even though I know nothing about you, I wish the same for you. Just don't give up. Good things will happen to you if you just keep moving forward.

And ignore my last post. Selling your mouth to the highest bidder is never the answer. You save that mouth for someone who truly deserves to know what it do.

Twitter: @d21lewis

Just keep doing what you're doing. Don't worry about it. It will all work out. Everything will fall into place when you just stop worrying. It sounds like a paradox, but that's how the universe works.

I suppose this is a joke thread but Ill butt in anyway. Life will only be satisfying if you make it so. If the traditional lifestyle of having a carreer/job/family (ewww kids) does not appeal to you, then you can always try making one of your hobbies your "job", in whichever manner or platform its possible. A friend of mine left her job as administrator because her youtube channel kicked off and now apparently shes making more money that way. Another friend of mine left her previous job (dont remember what it was) and joined a film magazine as a writer. Either way you gotta invest time and effort so good luck with that.

Alternatively just become a career criminal. Seriously nothing is as profitable as crime.

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Vote for Andrew Yang. You'll make $1000 a month for doing nothing. Granted, our economy will collapse, but at least it will allow you to indulge in doing nothing.

Self defense, man. You are trying to defend yourself from failure, but you don't need to do that.

So there is this indoor swimming pool in my hometown and it has a tower which you can jump off from three different heights (1m, 3m, 5m). Young me wanted to be as cool as all my friends who already jumped off the 5m spot. As I slowly walked towards the edge I felt my knees shaking in fear. Watching someone jump off it looks so easy, but standing there yourself is a completely different story. My toes touched the edge. I looked down and almost fainted because it looked scary as fuck, like ten times higher. What if I fell in a dumb way and hurt myself? What if the others laughed at me? What if I chicken out and climb back down, will I be a loser forever? My friends became impatient already and asked me to jump the fuck down now. In the end it took me several minutes to jump and I was really scared, but I did it anyway.

What I'm trying to tell is that sometimes you just need to act, even if you're afraid of the consequences. Because only then you will know what you like and what not, and only then you can expand your limits. After I jumped off that damn tower it suddenly lost every bit of scare, and so do many other things in life as well once you tackle them. I know this is not applicable on everything and anything, but on many things. This is in some way similar to what Darthmetallicube tried to express, I think. Just do something and learn from it. And also learn from failure. Everybody - boys and girls alike - is scared as fuck to approach somebody for the first time and just have a normal conversation that may or may not end in a relationship, but they say practice makes perfect for a reason. The more you do something the better you get. And yes, I believe that this is applicable to social skills as well. The more you deal with people the better you understand to behave among them. Nobody gets born as a social idiot. Everybody has the option to improve.

Pessimistic people often share a great fear of failure. It is okay to be a pessimist. I don't think pessimists are instantly bad and optimists are instantly good, but I think that pessimists tend to limit themselves much more than necessary. I see that in your posts as well, but I really don't think you need to do that. You're cool. Stop making excuses and gain some experience, no matter which kind.

Life is an RPG after all.

Gameplay > Graphics

Substance > Style

Art Direction > Realism

There are resources out there that can help point you in the right direction and give you ideas for a career that suits your personality.  My favorite is "Strengths Finder 2.0".  (You have to buy a book, but it's worth it IMO.)  There are also the Holland Codes which you can look at via a free online test.  Here are some links:

Sounds like you might need to seek counseling.

When the herd loses its way, the shepard must kill the bull that leads them astray.

zorg1000 said:
Sounds like you might need to seek counseling.

Counseling doesn't work in people with 0 motivation.