I like the option to play as females. It's fiction. Taking liberties is the whole point of fiction.
But, come on. EA's statements and handling of the entire release have been nothing short of abhorrent. What PR is "If you don't like it, don't buy it"? A lot of people who were fine with the game are put off by that attitude. "This company wants me to give them my money? No thank you. They're rude."
That is a valid point. How they have handled the PR has been questionable.
The problem is that it's based on a real event. If EA/DICE wanted to make their own original modern shooter with a cricket bat-wielding prosthetic-armed woman, there wouldn't be nearly as much backlash. Granted, there might still be some sexist assholes ripping the game a new one, but nowhere near the level of scathing BFV received, I wonder why.
Operative word is here 'based'. "Based on a real events" means that the real event is the starting point for whatever story or design they choose to make. Not that it reflects said real events as accurately as possible.
That said, we are talking about a game where you can be revived in MP... real it isn't.