Dr.Grass on 20 September 2013
| Angelus said: Most of this is advice is pretty obvious stuff, but then again a lot of men these days do seem to be clueless about how to interact with women. Must be the digital age.....I swear to god, unless it's through Facebook or whatnot, most guys won't even start up a conversation with girl they don't know. I think guys are slowly but steadily forgetting the art of flirting, and perhaps more importantly, body language. I always have friends asking me why I do so well with women, and they always expect that there's some trick to it, like a magic pick up line or very specific premeditated conversations that I plan out ahead of time. That's all nonsense. I always tell them one thing. Right now....you're scared of approaching them, it makes you nervous, you start over thinking it, and then you come across as awkward or weird. Approaching women should be something fun. Something you enjoy doing. I took one of my friends out to the mall once and told him I would give him 20 bucks for every single attractive girl he talked to and another 20 if he could hold conversation for more than 2 minutes, that way every girl he didn't approach would be lost money. That motivated him a lot, and sure enough, at first he was pretty bad, but the more girls he talked to the more relaxed and comfortable he got, and after a few hours he really got into and was pulling numbers left and right. He was so happy by the end of the day he even gave me my money back. So ya.....it's obvious, and guys who are good with women will always tell you this, and it may piss some guys off or annoy them because they're hoping for some big secret you'll lay on them, and they think "whatever asshole, that's easy for you to say when you're doing so well'.......but it really is that simple. Confidence. Detachment. It shows when someone is confident. They have a whole different body language then someone who isn't, and your conversation tone changes as well. Women notice that. And detachment...don't think of it as approaching girls trying to be all "uber cool" and acting disinterested in what she says. Just don't build her up on a mental pedestal before you talk to her. Don't stare for 10 minutes deciding what to say or whether you should talk to her at all. It's just one little conversation. A tiny part of your day that probably won't last more than maybe 5 minutes. There's a hundred other people you could be talking to that day. Some of them will be interesting, others won't. A lot of guys walk into a conversation with a girl like it's a job interview and the woman is their boss. They try to quickly prove their value to them. DON'T DO THAT! You have to approach them KNOWING your value, and the mindset that whatever conversation you have with a girl, they need to prove their value to you. /rant Congrats on the high life Dr. Grass. I dated a girl from Venice for a while whose parents probably had more money than god. It's certainly an experience. |
spot on.
I would be tempted to say that with enough practice any guy can get to this stage, buuuuuut... I have quite a few friends who are gamedevs, and amongst them there are some that try very hard and just come across as obnoxious. That's the worst right there. Chases away the girls SO fast.
And I don't blame them. I'd go somewhere else too.
Care to tell a little bit of the Venice girl and the high life you had with her? Sounds like she was more wealthy than mine.
