It doesn't matter how you sugar coat it, OP, you basically agreed on a relationship consisting of nothing but sex, thus you were not in a "closed relationship" or a relationship at all, you were fuck buddies, nothing more.

Honestly it just sounds to me like you got the feels but were too much of a p.. cat, to be in a proper relationship, and clearly she wasn't happy with the situation and either wants more 'fuck buddies' or something along those lines.

Now, if you have a written, legally binding contract saying she cannot by law cheat on you, then by all means get your panties in a twist about it, but when she agreed to sleep with you and only you, she was not agreeing to sleep with you and only you, she was just telling you what you wanted to hear, and you were stupid enough to believe it.
She feels no attachment to you, and you, through your reaction to finding out shes cheating or attempting to, shows you do, so just give up and move on, have the balls to be in a real relationship if infidelity is an issue for you, if not and you're only interested in sex, then you've no right, what so ever, to complain about her and any guy she sleeps with other than you, only being interested in sex too, "promise" or not.

Seriously, don't try to paint the picture of her being some sort of whore, because you're just as bad as each other, and calling her your "girlfriend" as in the title, shows just how clueless about your own situation you are, because sex and sex alone does not constitute a relationship, nor does it make her your girlfriend.

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weird conversation... and you will be fine, she is just human... forgive her... and ask who was the one that gave her the o word. Finger crossed

There is no such thing as "I'm not going to be your boyfriend but you can only sleep with me".


You weren't her boyfriend. You didn't have a legit relationship.

She can sleep with whoever she wants.

Also, shame on anyone here calling her a slut or a whore. The guy wasn't her boyfriend. Just because he slept with her doesn't give him some sort of ownership rights. He seems to have been doing the same shit as she was, which was sleeping with someone who is no more than a friend or aquantance. Don't paint him as some saint.

I would break up asap. Because things like this aren't gonna go away. If she has these thoughts now, imagine when your married, it wont change.

You should seriously consider breaking up with her. People in committed relationships do not have those kinds of conversations with other people. And she kept it from you. She is hiding this and probably other information from you. Just having that conversation is wrong and a betrayal of your trust. It was wrong and selfish. However, is there somethingn in your relationship that you arent fullfilling for her that set the stage for this conversation? Nothing in this is your fault, but her needs may not be met and it would set the stage for her to have this conversation, which is wrong. She should not be lying or hiding anything from you...she should sit down and talk with you or break up with you or you guys should go to a counselor. this conversaiton (and cheting) is never an potion and is always wrong. Does she show any kind of remorse for what she did?

Also, she should be willingly giving you access to her email accounts, facebook, texts, etc. If she is not, then she is hiding something from you...gauranteed. She betrayed your trust that you gave her. She has proven she cannot be trusted. And you have every right to not trust her. She must be an open book to gain back your trust. Otherwise this relationship will be unhealthy for both of you. Better to just end it and move on, IMO.

Even though she did nothing physically she did mentally, so yes.

kick that chick to the curve...

what 14 pages! So any update OP?

Pretty much sums up everything I was thinking. Absolutely agree. Don't bitch if you didn't have the balls to be in a real relationship in the first place.