No, but I'm actively looking for a girlfriend, preferably one who enjoys gaming.

I have a girlfriend. Love that crazy lady.

nope but i got internet and porn lol...



edited by Barozi

currently single, broke up about 7 months ago...

Uhm...Why is "I am GAY!!" an option...gay people can get a bf/gf too >_>

   No one is too ugly to have anybody. Seriously, even the ugliest of guys can (and do) get girls, it's a matter of being confident, finding the right one and treating her well.

Anyway, I've been with my gf for 2.5 years now, and we are gonna marry next year. Our relationship has been hard because she's Japanese and she needed a visa to come to the UK (I'm Spanish but live in London with her). So for 9 months of these 2.5 years we were having  a long distance relation, and it's fucking annoying. Not recommended. For the last 1 year and 5 months we've been living together uninterruptedly. Everything should be easier when we marry.

Before that I had spent one year without a gf, with only a couple of one night stands.

If you're asking me, then yes, being apart made want to be with her. But it was also annoying and stressing, there's a point where you stop feeling you are with her, it's some face on a computer screen with no effect on your everyday life.

When we started our relation her visa was about to expire. So she went back to Japan. For three months I couldn't see her. Then I went to Japan for two months on holidays/visiting, and it was awesome. Then I came back and she was meant to come with me in a couple of months, but there were some complications and it took her six whole months. That was really bad. Six months is the absolute limit you can keep a relation like that. After that it's like you don't have a relation anymore.

Anyway, it depends on your personality whether you want to spend time with her or not. Some people like spending more time with their couple than others. My gf for example needs quite a lot of space to be alone. She doesn't even meet friends often (almost never in fact), but she likes spending time home alone or going to cafés alone, etc. Me, I like spending time with her, but I respect her opinion so I have no problem.

So being apart for long doesn't guarantee wanting to be with her forever. You want to spend more time with her at the beginning, but when you get used to the relation it goes back to normal again.

Maybe you didn't like her much, or maybe you're just like that. You should be able to tell though. If you have your doubts then there is probably someone better I guess.

I agree that looks have very little to do with it. I'm not an ugly person.

The problem is that I can't be confident, because I'm mentally handicapped, so simple tasks defeat me, I may never be able to live independently,  and  I know from experience that I will find a way to mess up 95% of the things I attempt in life. Nobody wants to be with a 10-year-old in an adult's body.

It's more a matter of not being able to handle everyday tasks.

For instance, if I had to meet someone in the city for a date.  Public transport timetables, locations, it's all just overwhelming and confusing. Not to mention I have high anxiety almost all the time, so being in crowds or in unfamiliar places make me incredibly nervous.

Being my partner would be like dating a child, as I need to be guided through so many things normal people can do without thinking. Nobody would want to deal with that when there are plenty of fully functional men to go around.

And I wasn't speaking figuratively, I have actually been diagnosed of having the mental age of a 10 year old in terms of problem solving and reading social cues.

Hmmm... I still think you have chances if you're straight forward about your issue. Blind people get girls, obese people get girls, etc. Guys with issues can find a girl that can see beyond these issues, IMO. As long as you make clear from the beginning what your issue is, of course. Just say it and explain it first thing, people will accept you as you are as long as you show them you accept yourself as you are, it's just psychological. If you have problems reading social cues perhaps she'll take all the steps.

I don't know, I just think being negative is precisely the worst thing you can do to get a girl. Cheer up, be confident. Within your limits, because of your mental age thing, fine. But at least don't tell yourself you can't.