1. Boost your confidence. You're a single man with your own place and no baggage (kids, debt). No reason for you to be single.

2. Get out of the house. Go places you don’t normally go. You need to be around new faces. The current people already have you pegged.

3. Don't be afraid of rejection. You're going to be turned down....a lot. Don't let it discourage you. Think positively.

4. Leather pants. Don’t even think about it.

5. Lower your standards. Nothing wrong with dating a girl that works as a cashier or something. It's just dating, not buying a house. You just want someone to spend time with.

6. Calm down. "Hey, I'm oldschoolfool. You want to see a movie Thursday afternoon?" That's it. After a while, you can get creative with your approach but that's all you have to say. I always put women on a pedestal but it's not that big of a deal.

7. If all else fails, become a cop.

But really, you can ignore everything I posted except this: Be confident and don’t stalk a girl for six months before asking her out. Just ask her. All she can do is say "no".

Cause guys like me take them from losers like you... I'm actually serious this time.. them having a boyfriend doesn't mean you can't try.. sure some guy may punch you in the face but when that happens you know you're on the right way with girl..

I haven't read all of the replies but I'll give you my take. For one, it's all about the confidence, I know that's easier said than done but confidence in general is attractive to women. I think that a sense of humor is the best personality trait but I'm sure that's debatable. So you have to go about gaining confidence in baby steps, little things to build upon. I can't say what they would be for sure but I can say that if you are expecting for it all to happen at once then you are setting yourself up for disappointment. I know some downright homely looking dudes that have pulled some fine women, both physically and/or personality wise. They are confident people though and they expect to be able to do this.It only takes a few good experiences and the confidence starts to snowball. I've always been told that I'm very attractive but it took me a long time before I became real confident. I've always had it easy though because women have been pretty obvious about liking me. Even still I'd be insecure at times. In fact it always seemed that whenever I was the one that really liked someone initially, it never worked out the way I wanted (except for with my wife). I realized that whenever I really liked someone, I would act different and not be my normal self.

Also, I think taking things personally is the wrong way to go. You are right in saying that there is someone for everyone and that includes you. This self deprecating attitude is not going to do you much good, unless of course you use it as a humorous tool.

When you finally do get over the hump and get a girl (which I'm certain you will) understand that it doesn't get any easier. Relationships are a mother fucker and really take work if you are up to the task. Keep in mind though that even though you are 31, in relationship age, you are a noob. There will be many a pitfall to deal with, or not. Being as old as you are works against you in the sense that you are used to doing what you want, when you want with whomever you want. That shit is gonna change if you get seriously involved. And please of all things, don't be a pushover. It's good to be flexible and willing to compromise but by all means, keep your nuts intact. A nutless man is a man that will be taken advantage of.


Lastly, this may reek of desperation but you may want to consider looking into some pick up artistry. It seems funny and all but a lot of that shit is legit. Whether you are some dude bro looking to up his pussy count or just some regular guy looking to gain a little confidence, many of the principals are real and they work. Check out the book The Game. It's some good fun, most likely embellished, story telling but with many truths within.

Look at yourself and see what you don't like if you were the girl and change what you can without completely changing yourself.

And be confident.

Yeah, be confident and NEVER EVER be too nice. Girls will think you're a pussy, and fuck what people say girls don't like sensitive guys (but don't be an asshole either). Be a man, and by that I mean be in charge and when you ask someone out just put it out there. Not your dick, but you know don't make it sound like your asking for permission. Make it sound like you would like to go out, and if you get turned down make it look like it's no big deal (you have other shit to do anyway).

A little liquid courage goes a long way. And never tell a girl that you look like Frankenstein, because if you say that then she might see it too.

thanks everybody,this thread has made me feel better. I'll take all these comments under consideration.

Remember, what you have been doing up until now hasn't worked the way you'd like so in order to change that you are probably gonna have to, actually change.

@oldschoolfool

Once again stop acting like you look ugly or something...because you don't

I remember your pic n if you lost a bit of weight, built up a good body n put some effort into how you looked, you'd look nice!

Everyone has the ability to look nice if they try to....for some its easier because they do have natural good looking ness....for some more difficult....for a very small minority its impossible.

Im kind of in the same boat as the OP 30 and consistently single. Every girl Ive hooked up with has been one or all of these 3: A stupid drunken whore. Every girl I know(within my group of friend/acquaintances) has fucked like 5 dudes I know and call me jealous but I cant deal with being with her while every where I go she runs into someone she hooked up with. I dont need a virgin by any means but someone who I dont view as a whore. I dont know how to meet new chicks and neither do my friends. Chicks usually pursue my friends(being in bands and the like) but not me so its harder. Most dudes I know that get lots of chicks are scummy lying/game playing shitbags and I cant bring myself to do that to other people. I dont even know where to start when it comes to approaching random new girls but all I need is an introduction from a friend(All I need is "Hey CDiablo, this is _____") and I can do well for myself.

It leads me to believe that the only future relationships for me involve setteling for something I am not really happy with. Only advice I can give is if you want to get more chicks aim young, older chicks are fucked in the head.

Hey Diablo, look at the advice I posted. And then think about your comment where all the assholes and douche-bags get all the girls. Follow my advice, trust me. You may not want to be a prick, but you definitely don't want to be a nice guy. Nice guys finish last.

Take it from me, I'm a pussy (you are what you eat) but I never let a girl know that. Girls want a challenge and what they can't have. I don't know why, but they love playing games.