Why are all the good women taken?

[toadslayer72]

I haven't read all of the replies but I'll give you my take. For one, it's all about the confidence, I know that's easier said than done but confidence in general is attractive to women. I think that a sense of humor is the best personality trait but I'm sure that's debatable. So you have to go about gaining confidence in baby steps, little things to build upon. I can't say what they would be for sure but I can say that if you are expecting for it all to happen at once then you are setting yourself up for disappointment. I know some downright homely looking dudes that have pulled some fine women, both physically and/or personality wise. They are confident people though and they expect to be able to do this.It only takes a few good experiences and the confidence starts to snowball. I've always been told that I'm very attractive but it took me a long time before I became real confident. I've always had it easy though because women have been pretty obvious about liking me. Even still I'd be insecure at times. In fact it always seemed that whenever I was the one that really liked someone initially, it never worked out the way I wanted (except for with my wife). I realized that whenever I really liked someone, I would act different and not be my normal self.

Also, I think taking things personally is the wrong way to go. You are right in saying that there is someone for everyone and that includes you. This self deprecating attitude is not going to do you much good, unless of course you use it as a humorous tool.

When you finally do get over the hump and get a girl (which I'm certain you will) understand that it doesn't get any easier. Relationships are a mother fucker and really take work if you are up to the task. Keep in mind though that even though you are 31, in relationship age, you are a noob. There will be many a pitfall to deal with, or not. Being as old as you are works against you in the sense that you are used to doing what you want, when you want with whomever you want. That shit is gonna change if you get seriously involved. And please of all things, don't be a pushover. It's good to be flexible and willing to compromise but by all means, keep your nuts intact. A nutless man is a man that will be taken advantage of.


Lastly, this may reek of desperation but you may want to consider looking into some pick up artistry. It seems funny and all but a lot of that shit is legit. Whether you are some dude bro looking to up his pussy count or just some regular guy looking to gain a little confidence, many of the principals are real and they work. Check out the book The Game. It's some good fun, most likely embellished, story telling but with many truths within.