RolStoppable said:
Barkley said:
Eh? Insulting someone but saying that they can change doesn't affect the insult in the slightest, if anything it emphasizes that you think they have a personal problem. No one is forever stuck in their ways. Offering your help to rectify a flaw in their person that you percieve is patronizing and potentially even more insulting.
It may not be an exactly suitable example but saying "You're stupid, but that can be changed, I can help with that." Is still very insulting.
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Except that it isn't really an insult to begin with. If we asked Peh now how he would describe himself for believing what he read earlier, he'd say gullible because that accurately describes the situation. If you believe something simply because a lot of people say it instead of doing a fact-check on your own, then you are gullible. What people say could be right, but it can also be wrong. It doesn't hurt to do your own research and form your own educated opinion. The majority of that effort will come from the person himself, but if there's no knowledge of where information can be found, then I am going to help if I can help.
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You're not here to tell people they have a problem in their personality and that you're going to fix it. |
It's what I do. I am going to help people who have potential and those who I want to stick around. You aren't going to stop me.
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I have no issue with people helping other people out, but you cannot do that by questioning their mental state first and then offer help second.
I once saw a teacher asking a fellow student if he has ADD (Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) infront of everyone else in the class. Meaning, she was asking if he was mentally retarted while in reality he wasn't. She made a short observation and concluded that she cannot explain his behaviour, so she asked him that and offered help and treatment. For someone who thinks he doesn't have a disorder like this or any other, this was pretty much insulting to him. Especially doing that infront of everyone else in the class instead of asking him personally.
I'm not going to add anything more to this, because it goes off-topic. But please, stop talking about me. It feels really arkward when 2 people argue about my mental issues while I am watching.