ArchangelMadzz said:
I actually never even went with the 'ruin my life' thing. She was the one that pointed that out first, and said that she knows I've just started my life in a new direction and this gets rid of that.
My main concern is that 2, 21 year old friends shouldn't be in charge of a human being. As far as I was aware I was having safe sex, turns out she wasn't taking her pill properly.
Just to anyone who's reading this of my age bracket, learn from me. Please.
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Oh wow ok, well if i misread the OP then sorry, but if I didn't maybe add that in there to clarify.
I know people who had kids at 17/18 and guess what they are far more scuessful in their careers than some that waited till their 30s. It is all about attitude and how you set yourself up with the challenges you have. Age alone is not an issue its the mental maturity of the person.
As for the rest of my post, to summarise, I don't think you can make a decision like this in a few hours (both of you that is), so it is something worth considering. You don't want to regret it later as sometimes this could be your only chance at a kid, you never know.
Stuff you also need to consider, is do you both see each other more than friends at all? or zero chance? if zero chance then I guess what kind of impact it will have on a child with parents seperated, and will she give you access to the child etc...
The child support comments are stupid in general so ignore them. You should pay up for a child you bring into this world.
I'm not against abortion but I think it is a waste to do it because so many people can't even have kids. I would disscuss adoption with her as well potentially, if you both agree you don't want the child. At least the unexpected pegnancy can bring someone joy in the world.