Thanks.

You marry with someone, you don't force the person into it by using such low ways. I would advise against a marriage with someone that have a low morale. And I would advise against a marriage after such a precedent of enforcing the other one... that will not end with a marriage, that will get worst.
But in your case, clearly when you say "I don't have fund or time", you set it as a low priority, you set her as a low priority. Depending of the way you say it to her, your situation, and how much she made clear she wanted to marry, that can hurt. I mean if you come back from a drink party with friends, driving your brand new car you just bought and tell "I don't have time or money for your bullsh*its about marriage", she's fair.

I think people are reading into this wrong and with anger. It sounds like OP has been in a relationship with the girl for a while and the girl likes the OP enough to want to get married. Women like to have security and marriage is one way of getting it. To her it may feel like she is being used for sex and this is to see whether OP is willing to commit. However, OP has massive financial commitments and cannot propose a he is worried he won't be able to afford it.

I'll say the same thing I said to my dad when he got remarried and two of my very close friends. You are an intelligent human being so speak to her.

Tell her what the situation is and that if you had the money or she were willing to go get married in a court then you can do it, but anything expensive and you cannot afford it.

I'll be married 5 years come October and I was in a similar situation. Me and my brother were buying a house and had tons of expenses. 2 months prior my mom passed away and that brought on tons of expenses, including having to look after our sister. I told my wife to be at the time the same thing, if you really want marriage, this is all I can afford. If you happy with that and are considerate enough to understand my circumstances then it's doable, if not, then it's up to you, you can walk away. Wife chose to get married in the cheap and paid for most of the expenses herself.

Communication people, it makes life so much easier.

PS I'm a Muslim Asian and it's a rare thing for women in our culture to accept these things and then for her family to do the same.

She bought her own engagement ring, she paid towards the grooms side of the wedding day too and her sisters paid for the honeymoon. She also accepted having a smaller wedding (we only had about 350 people at the wedding).

:^)

She's horny too so it's not like she's immune to the "embargo" herself.

literally tell her this and that love her but you want to marry her (if you do) but you'll only pop the question when the time is right. Then leave it a while and I'm sure she'll cave....

Don't feed into the idea that sex is somehow necessary for your relationship to function (even if you feel it is :p) 

Banned for this?! Apparently it was horribly "sexist".

On this site it's not allowed to express the opinion that giving sex is the woman's job and being a provider is the man's job?!*

I know it's illegal to criticize moderation here, but this socialist feminism control of our society is going too far.

Anita Sarkeesian would be proud.


* it's not my opinion, but that's not the point.

EDIT: please don't reply to this post. I know moderation shouldn't be discussed here, and the topic is off-topic, so I can't reply if you reply.

Please use the offical channels to criticize moderations. This is not the place for that.

As for the critisism itself. I'm not even a part of said society / culture. And I know very little of that "feminism control" over the west (?), I also had to Google "Anita Sarkeesian" to know who she is. In addition to that, I come from a culture that is usually accused of objectifying women, and not being feminist, which is why I find your comment a little bit ironic. The truth is, objectifying people is wrong and not acceptable in any shape or form.

If you have anything else to say or discuss, please PM me or one of the head mods. Don't continue this here.

No but sounds like you do,  using your phone and driving at the same time :P