I go strip clubs and I'm married, I have no issue with her going but she doesn't like me going :P I just do it anyways lol

Been to strip clubs with my girlfriend (albeit, accidentally). While it was all-female, she didn't mind me ogling, and I don't care when she ogles other men.

I don't see why you think that she's going to immediately cheat, even if she was dissatisfied with you. Most people don't do that, because they appreciate the pain it would cause. I've gotta say, I've had numerous situations where I could have ended up cheating on my girlfriend. The thing that stops it is knowing how much it would hurt her, and I don't want to hurt her.

And I go three, four months at a time without sex due to the fact that we live on opposite sides of the rock. To say that I have times of sexual frustration is an understatement.

You gotta put your foot down, bro. The next time you see her, march straight up to her, grab her by the hair, look her in the eye, and say "if you get within 100 yards of any strip club ever in life, it's over. And by 'it', I mean you." Then you should wrap your hands around her throat. After you get a solid grip, give her a good squeeze so she can feel the power of your manly hands. Hold until her face becomes purple, then release.

This procedure works better if you have a beard, so work on that if you're clean shaven.

Don't worry about her getting upset or leaving. That won't happen. If you follow my directions carefully, she will respect you more after this, since it shows that you care about the relationship and you're willing to fight for it. Expect your relationship to be stronger and more passionate after this exchange. In the very rare occasion that she does try to leave, you must immediately break her legs to prevent escape and subsequent imprisonment from our anti-male justice system.

I would also like to agree with these posts. If she really loves you, you don't need to be insecure about your body. GIrls look past the physical aspects much more easily than guys do. Girls know how to find a good gentleman, they just don't always pay attention to those instincts. 

You guys are right, I just need to trust her. I still feel pings of insecurity when I'm around her, but after just letting go of feeling like I need to be in control I feel better now. I was feeling like since I was the man I had to be the one controlling the relationship but now it doesn't matter anymore.

Thanks for the help guys, appreciate it.

1) Was your GF slutty before hooking up with you ?
2) Do you have good financials ?

If answers are 1) No, and 2) Yes, then don't worry you're ok and you're even there physically and psychologically.

If just one of those answers are different, then you could have a problem.

No, and we're both broke dude. We're barely scraping by and are looking for a second job.

There should never be only one person controlling a relationship.

In a couple, there's two persons, and both should have their say.  Otherwise, it's like the one in control is asking for the other to forfeit their life to their partner, like your life is worth more than hers, or that she has to live hers through yours... and this just isn't right. It's a partnership. So cherish her views and inputs, and don't treat her like you have to be better and smarter than her. 

If you're insecure about her, it's probably because some part of you thinks she's too good for you. She's not. She's just as unique and awesome as you are. 

BTW, going to a stripper's club isn't all that bad for some. For some people, it's just about having a good time. But seriously, would you go out with a stripper? Why do you think she would? You see hot girls and hot males everywhere. At the mall, in the subway, on the street, on TV... Why would seeing strippers change anything? It's not like she can't see those kind of guys anywhere else. Let her have her fun with her girls. I'm not into that kinda thing myself, but I know a few couples who are open about these kinds of things and have a healthy, fruitful relationship.  Trust is key, as was said a few times.