| Navane said: You guys are right, I just need to trust her. I still feel pings of insecurity when I'm around her, but after just letting go of feeling like I need to be in control I feel better now. I was feeling like since I was the man I had to be the one controlling the relationship but now it doesn't matter anymore. Thanks for the help guys, appreciate it. |
There should never be only one person controlling a relationship.
In a couple, there's two persons, and both should have their say. Otherwise, it's like the one in control is asking for the other to forfeit their life to their partner, like your life is worth more than hers, or that she has to live hers through yours... and this just isn't right. It's a partnership. So cherish her views and inputs, and don't treat her like you have to be better and smarter than her.
If you're insecure about her, it's probably because some part of you thinks she's too good for you. She's not. She's just as unique and awesome as you are.
BTW, going to a stripper's club isn't all that bad for some. For some people, it's just about having a good time. But seriously, would you go out with a stripper? Why do you think she would? You see hot girls and hot males everywhere. At the mall, in the subway, on the street, on TV... Why would seeing strippers change anything? It's not like she can't see those kind of guys anywhere else. Let her have her fun with her girls. I'm not into that kinda thing myself, but I know a few couples who are open about these kinds of things and have a healthy, fruitful relationship. Trust is key, as was said a few times.
