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Is it over yet? It shouldn't take this much time to break up.. Or to leave a trail of cookies leading out of your house and when she is outside you lock the door..



 

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Just cheat on her with a girl that is fatter than she is. That way you will be the bad guy and her self-esteem won't be hurt.

Either that or she will end up eating more and trying to gain weight because she thinks you like girls bigger.



I've been in the same situation. Online dating and then the shock when you meet IRL.

I am bad at breaking up in a clear and polite manner though so I don't have any good advice.



NiKKoM said:
Is it over yet? It shouldn't take this much time to break up.. Or to leave a trail of cookies leading out of your house and when she is outside you lock the door..

Hahahaha!, sometimes you're the funniest on this site.



bananaking21 said:
call her fat and she will break up with you

This



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Do it at a mcdonalds. let them buy whatever they want. they'll be distracted. trust me.



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attaboy said:
I don't know why people got the impression that I have unrealistic expectations or that I don't know how to find decent women. I'm awesome! I didn't want her to be a model or anything. That doesn't even turn me on, anyway. I just want average, at least. It's just hard to break up with someone when they really haven't done anything wrong. She wants to meet my family, friends, etc. and I've been putting it off for about a week, now. I think I'm just going to do one of two things:

-not talk to her anymore and totally disappear from the earth
OR
-(thanks, xJBOwnagex) just say I was attracted to you but now, I'm not anymore. And, I think I will do it tomorrow.

Just don't BS. If you're concerned about coming off as shallow, don't be.

In the end, if you're going to have a physical relationship with someone and something like weight is going to be an issue as far as attraction goes, then it's not going to work out. Stay friends if you can, assuming you get along that well, but just let her know that the physical attraction just isn't there and that this isn't working for you, which is what sounds like is the truth. 



Nyleveia said:
 

Last i checked you could "give things a go" without resorting to sex, and again, last i checked, when you hit a point where youre saying "when we have sex i do it from behind so she doesnt look fat" youre no longer talking about a one time thing but basically youve reached a point where you know you are not attracted to the girl you are with but you are "making do" with what you have for the sex.

"shes been asking to meet my family and friends for a week",  so what do we read here? think about it, shes into the relationship and thinks it may work, where as he has, up until now, despite not being attracted to her, stuck with it regardless.

now we can read that two ways as you said.

either hes tried hes best to make it work and has finally thrown in the towel

or

he dragged it out because, even if hes not attracted to her, sex is sex, but now shes nagging to meet family and friends he wants to ditch her while he can.

His attitude about her meeting family and friends and his discription of their sexual relationship strongly suggests the latter, unlike you i dont see the point in giving someone the benefit of doubt with such matters especially when his primary reason for hiding his girlfriend from family and friends, and now dumping here, is focused entirely on something so dynamic as how fat she is - she was fat when they met, shes fat now, you can look at it as him throwing her a bone and giving her a try if you want, but thats what dating is for - believe it or not, relationships can and do exists without sex, he could have reached the current conclusion without going as far as he did, and the fact he didnt says a lot.

As for the latter, i said "IF" you were excusing such actions - you said yourself that you were not, thus the "fuck you too" doesnt apply.

As for the bold, Been happily married for a long long time thanks.


What OP did you read? I think it it obviously suggested the former.

Also. Dude. It's just sex. You're over-dramatizing it way too much.



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KungKras said:
Nyleveia said:
 

Last i checked you could "give things a go" without resorting to sex, and again, last i checked, when you hit a point where youre saying "when we have sex i do it from behind so she doesnt look fat" youre no longer talking about a one time thing but basically youve reached a point where you know you are not attracted to the girl you are with but you are "making do" with what you have for the sex.

"shes been asking to meet my family and friends for a week",  so what do we read here? think about it, shes into the relationship and thinks it may work, where as he has, up until now, despite not being attracted to her, stuck with it regardless.

now we can read that two ways as you said.

either hes tried hes best to make it work and has finally thrown in the towel

or

he dragged it out because, even if hes not attracted to her, sex is sex, but now shes nagging to meet family and friends he wants to ditch her while he can.

His attitude about her meeting family and friends and his discription of their sexual relationship strongly suggests the latter, unlike you i dont see the point in giving someone the benefit of doubt with such matters especially when his primary reason for hiding his girlfriend from family and friends, and now dumping here, is focused entirely on something so dynamic as how fat she is - she was fat when they met, shes fat now, you can look at it as him throwing her a bone and giving her a try if you want, but thats what dating is for - believe it or not, relationships can and do exists without sex, he could have reached the current conclusion without going as far as he did, and the fact he didnt says a lot.

As for the latter, i said "IF" you were excusing such actions - you said yourself that you were not, thus the "fuck you too" doesnt apply.

As for the bold, Been happily married for a long long time thanks.


What OP did you read? I think it it obviously suggested the former.

Also. Dude. It's just sex. You're over-dramatizing it way too much.

Double agreed.  In this day and age people have sex without being in love or even being in a defined relationship so acting like he just went along to get what he wanted...like this "why buy the milk when you can have the cow" attitude applies is old fashioned and not really relevant.  Putting so much emphasis on the fact that he HAD to have sex with her is nothing more than an asumption, and pretty far reaching at that.

The OP came on this site to post a problem he was having, knowing full well that there was a problem for both him and this girl (trying to spare her feelings).  The sex part was only to best illustrate the extent of unattraction he has been feeling.  He was asking for advice to get out of this situation so that he wouldn't be doing that.  Not to be judged.



Kwaidd said:

If you actually like this woman and she actually cares for you back and treats you well, don't throw it away.  Finding a long lasting mutually supportive relationship is not an easy challenge and hot body doesn't mean happiness long term if her attitude sucks.  Use this advice above, and put effort into a relationship that is worth working for.  If you work out, try to involve her as something you guys can do together.  Part of your daily routine...part of your relationship.  Road bike together, go for walks...not just the typical gym stuff blasted right into her face from the beginning...work it in.  Be involved with the cooking if she enjoys that, and find recipes together that are delicious and healthy...there are a ton of them out there these days.

Then, if you have honestly tried these options for a worthy amount of time and she is unwilling to put any effort forth, then you have a leg to stand on.  If she won't make any effort to become an active part of your lifestyle, then I would say you could reasonably tell her that the relationship isn't working for you and you'd be right to do so.

In the meantime, heed the wisdom found in the classic Spinal Tap song.  "The bigger the cushion, the sweeter the pushin'...the thicker the waistband, the deeper the quicksand".

Were you meaning to quote the OP and not me?

Because I'm in no need of advice on this.



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