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What are you famous for that encourages some people to go after you? I'm assuming you're famous in Britian or something because of your podcast on the BBC you mentioned, which is why I have no idea whats going on.

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Are you able to convey this to people in your community?
That may prompt more people to be more considerate of your situation and not put as much pressure on you or ease up on the hate mail. You may also get support from your community.

TheBird said:
What are you famous for that encourages some people to go after you? I'm assuming you're famous in Britian or something because of your podcast on the BBC you mentioned, which is why I have no idea whats going on.

Don't remember the specifics but I think he made a social media post or something that blew up in his country and meet lots of kind people.

Option your story to be made into a film.

Wait, that would just make things worse...never mind.

Please Watch/Share this video so it gets shown in Hollywood.

LordLichtenstein said:

I really don't want to get into the specifics as to why/how I became "famous" in my home country, what I want though, is to say that every since I did, my social anxiety has gotten much worse, to the point that I haven't left my apartment in nearly a month, with the exception of grocery shopping 1-2 times a week. I feel extremely isolated, both physically and mentally, because I constantly have to walk on eggshells - trying not to hurt or offend anyone. It is a frustrating way to live..

I have received an enormous amount of praise over the last 1½ year, not only from the people of my country, but the national and international media as well. And while it is humbling, it is also quite scary. E.g. after I did a podcast on BBC in March, I received a lot of nice and kind messages on Facebook, but also some negative ones, telling me to go "fuck myself", "commit suicide" etc. I know they are in the minority, but I still can't help but let it get to me. 

To be honest, I don't know why I'm writing this, here of all places. Perhaps I just felt like telling someone..

whoa you become a superstar??? may i have your autograph  

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Maybe Twitter can help. Lots of supportive people there.

Everything will be alright, Patrick.

If you demand respect or gratitude for your volunteer work, you're doing volunteering wrong.

Ignoring the hate comments may be hard, but it's the only thing you can do. Whenever you get upset about such a comment, try to remember this: the good outweighs the bad, there are way more people who admire you than people who hate you. Also, these hate comments tell more about the person who writes them than about you. Some people don't realise the consequences their words can have. They feel protected by the anonimity that they have on the internet. They are always trying to hurt others. Their hate is usually a lot less genuine than all the positive stuff that other people say about you. You're putting a lot of effort into helping others, and you can only be proud of that.

I'm sorry to hear that. I'm no profissional in any way but I've read about how exercises and meditation could help. The  anxiety is, in some sort, a lack of confidence.

You might try to start running in your neighbour twice a week to get more confidence; say 'hello' to some strangers while at it. I think it you will grow your confidence day by day, little by little and, in the end, you'll regain it.

Meditation could help too. It seems there are some researchs that corroborate that meditation is beneficial. I started reading this book: The confidence gap. Taking a class would be nice because of the new people you would meet.

In the end, what I really thing is that we overestimate the negative things people think of us. Most of the time they, in fact, don't care who you are or what you did. They can say something at the moment but if you don't  have an agressive response, they just let it go.

I wish you the best.

I know the reason you got famous goes in the opposite direction of having many people around you, so it's a hard situation, but if you really don't want it anymore just tell the media you also want to have a normal life, you are not well suited for being a star, that's why you even got famous in the first place.
The people that follow you because they respect your example will probably understand it and it'll happen less often.
Yes, you'll be attacked by some people, they'll call you horrible things, but bro, just don't give a fuck, you are being attacked by some for doing good for people, that should tell you that'll ever happen, being famous or not, some will always hate you, people are like that.
You have helped a lot of people with your example and the expansion of it, if what you want is some peace and a normal life, where people will wave to you and say nice things in the street here and there and not crowd you, just tell them that.
You got famous because you were honest about how you felt, just keep being honest, some may hate you for that now, but many will understand just like they did the first time.

Last edited by BraLoD - on 27 June 2018

I believe I know what you're famous for, and it was for doing something very positive and helpful to others in a similar position to you. That fame will probably die off quite quickly as far as major media goes, so what you're doing now is probably the best thing you can do, given the way you feel. But you shouldn't let it stop you doing the thing that brought you into the spotlight in the first place.

Regarding the negative comments. Happens with everything on the internet and to 'just ignore it' is much easier said than done. I think the best thing to do is block those people straight away - don't engage with them, and if you're not able to do that then I'd advise you to avoid those public social media places for a while until you're more mentally able to deal with their shit.