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kirby007 on 27 February 2018

I feel bad fol the oldel guy



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MarkkyStorm on 27 February 2018
DonFerrari said:
MarkkyStorm said:

I think it's something cultural, depending on the place you live. I'm from Brazil, where people usually are warm and receptive. Well, at least in Sao Paulo or Rio de Janeiro, where anyone could start talking to you, especially man-to-man and with subjects like beer, women, weather, politics and most common: soccer. I'm from Rio Grande do Sul, the southest state. Here, we don't usually start conversations with strangers unless we have to. We are more "closed".

Talking about warmth, then Northeast (Salvador is a hallmark) is probably unbeatable.

Yeah, I believe it. I just used the Sao Paulo/Rio de Janeiro example because people from other countries tend to known only these places. And also because I personally had never been to Northeast and was already shocked with how people in Rio de Janeiro like to be really close to talk and tend to touch each other so much more than down here. Here in Rio Grande do Sul, we even have the expression that "we don't show our teeth to anyone" to exemplify how we don't talk to or smile to strangers. 

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DonFerrari on 27 February 2018
MarkkyStorm said:
DonFerrari said:

Talking about warmth, then Northeast (Salvador is a hallmark) is probably unbeatable.

Yeah, I believe it. I just used the Sao Paulo/Rio de Janeiro example because people from other countries tend to known only these places. And also because I personally had never been to Northeast and was already shocking with how people in Rio de Janeiro like to be really close to talk and tend to touch each other so much more than down here. Here in Rio Grande do Sul, we even have the expression that "we don't show our teeth to anyone" to exemplify how we don't talk to or smile to strangers. 

I see.

My mother and father in law have been to Pernambuco last month and there were even people on the street inviting them over to have lunch.



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Slarvax on 27 February 2018

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arcaneguyver on 27 February 2018

That's one thing I've been continuously working on the last five years or so. Well, interacting with people I don't know, not just men. I try to gauge the situation to see if it would be more awkward to try to converse or to just stare at my phone & shut out the world like a little kid.

I find a good 'break the ice' conversation starter is "Superman or Goku."



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Errorist76 on 27 February 2018

I‘m usually very sociable and rather talk too much, than to little. I’m very open to strangers and mostly upfront..which is why I’m sometimes a bit too much for people, as my fellow Germans are not known to like much small talk. I‘m a fire dragon, I guess, and it shows. That said, sometimes I just hate people and prefer to stay for myself, depending on my mood.

Not a big fan of that American style “how ya doing” smalltalk though. I prefer deeper topics than beer and football.

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Razeak on 27 February 2018

I talk to people all the time, but when I'm in more populated area like NYC or even Cincinnati, not so much. I learned that while not unfriendly, it feels like people in cities are more wary than lower population areas. Even eye contact is different. This is all anecdotal though.



The_Yoda on 27 February 2018
spurgeonryan said:

I was at a Father/Daughter function recently. Only guys there at the school. Not one guy, except a few Russians said hardly anything to each other. Myself included. I know absolutely no one at my kids school.

 

Today I was at Costco. They were out of Relish, Deli mustard and onions at their restaurant. A ...well an Asian or Oriental? older gentleman asked if it was all out. He looked like he wanted to say more but did not and I could not think of anything to say to him, so I sat down and ate my hotdog in silence without even looking at him. Felt bad, I think he was there wanting to have contact with others.

 

Do you just start talking to people for the hell of it or do you just ignore others IRL?

This surprises me, given your sense of humor and demeanor on this site I had you pegged as the "doesn't know a stranger" type that can chat it up and find common ground with most any type of person.

 

As for me I normally don't have problems talking to anyone and am fairly outgoing, that said there are times I just don't really feel like it either.  

 

Errorist76 said:

I‘m usually very sociable and rather talk too much, than to little. I’m very open to strangers and mostly upfront..which is why I’m sometimes a bit too much for people, as my fellow Germans are not known to like much small talk. I‘m a fire dragon, I guess, and it shows. That said, sometimes I just hate people and prefer to stay for myself, depending on my mood.

Not a big fan of that American style “how ya doing” smalltalk though. I prefer deeper topics than beer and football.

Hmm Errorist, I'm a fire dragon too ... are you a Sag or Scorp (my guess).  Not that there is really anything to all that mumbo-jumbo in my opinion but I used to work with a guy that was into it. We would always try to guess our server's sign when we went out between shows. 



Gamer147 on 27 February 2018

Its cell phones. No one talks because of cell phones. I have been to several functions where cell phones are not allowed and everyone was talking with each other. Same group of people visited another public place and everyone was on their phones.



HandofPrometheus on 27 February 2018

I too find it easier to talk to women than men. However I'm incredibly shy and not talkative at all even around friends I'm naturally quiet.