ArchangelMadzz said:
WAIT. Halt the congratulations, there's no congratulations to be had here.
So, basically back in late July I slept with this girl (Omg a VGchartzer actually having relations?)
Anyway, she forgot to take her pill and now she's pregnant. Woohoo, anyway. So She's known for a few days and only brought it to my attention 2 hours ago and I'm a little bit jarred, well A fucking fuck tonne jarred.
We have been friends for a little while and just decided to have sex because well, I'm male she's female and we have needs, one time done and dusted. She's 20 I'm 21.
Now, I've just started college again the UK doing an applied science and medical science course in the hopes of going to university and spending 3 years there, but now I highly doubt I'll be able to do that and get my future and life sorted out because of this. My main concern is I don't see why she would want to have a child with me, why she would think it's a good idea that 2, 21 year old friends should raise a human being. The idea of having me as my dad would terrify me.
So we're currently talking and she agrees that it would ruin my life and it's not ideal at all, but is still considering to where she's at 60 for keeping and 40 for getting rid of it.
I don't want to pressure her into any decision I've only just made my case, she says she wouldn't blame me for leaving but there's NO WAY that after not growing up without a father I would have my child do the same, if she keeps it I will be there 24/7.
I'm just confused and frustrated and needed to vent to the one and only forum that I visit, thoughts?
Update:
I am pulling for the abortion angle, but I don't want to pressure her into the decision.
The main pro about abortion is that if you decide later to have a child you can, at any time. If you have the child and regret it that's pretty much it.
She acknowledges that we shouldn't have the child, and that it would ruin my future prospects and 2 friends who have no emotional attachment shouldn't be in charge of a human being as that's not good for anyone.
But she's still unsure on what she wants to do, so I'll probably get back to this in a few days.
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Keep us updated. Sounds like you do not want it at all. She probably doesn´t.
As a christian, I think abortion is a sin, but, as all other sins, it is forgivable when you repent, because of the Lord Jesus Christ sacrifice. Same with all other sins.
I hope you get out of this.