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There's this girl who my Mom likes, my Mom really wanted me to meet her because she's a gospel singer and my Mom ENJOYS her music. I didn't know her so I didn't want to. When I first seen her in person.... it's like I knew her before in another life. it was a weird fussy feeling inside my stomach. After the church we all had a gathering in the basement and played musical chairs and stuff. I sat right next to her many times but didnt have the guts to say hi. We were all laughing and having fun, but I wish I could've said something to her   

Then after that night I started thinking about her ALOT.... and somehow magicly had these feelings for her. Her smile, her personality, EVERYTHING about her is just PERFECT for me. Then a few weeks later, there was this song playing and Me and my Mom just entered the church, we were walking to find seats and we walked past HER.. We made eye contact and she seemed really interested, like she was trying to learn something... I just melted inside and had butterflies. I couldn't stop thinking about her for days. Next week she was sitting all the way on the other side of church and she looked over towards us and stared at us for a few seconds. I just pretended I didn't know she was looking. I got so happy she looked at me again.  

Now here I am.... she RECENTLY moved to the next state next to mine and I'm going nuts!!! i keep thinking about her, I go to the mall alot and see other girls but I dont want any of them... I only want HER. I listen too her music and go through her facebook. I want her so much....but she's probably busy with her life in the other state and forgot all about me. I just live my life thinking about her, not doing anything. Her family owns a church every saturday and I'm thinking of going there. But that'd be too pathetic to do. My Mom has her on facebook but I don't, because I dont want to say something stupid over facebook and let her see it.

I just want her to know me, see what I do in life, my passions and fears. But with her, I want to know so much about her, talk to her all night. Help her. Atleast be her friend..... but we haven't spoke before though. I'd actually cry if I heard she was getting married or something. Time is running out and I want to do something before she finds someone but I can't. Sometimes i think to myself that I had my chance and I blew it... so I should just look for someone else who lives in my city.    

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Just wondering, doesn't your profile say your canadian? Anyway, if you really want her, go! Look, in this scenario, you need to understand that you can do it! Look, I'm not guarenteeing things work, but understand that you can never hold yourself back. I've never been afraid of failure, and I believe everyone should have that same mentality. If it doesn't work, so be it. But you may also be missing out on the best thing of your life...

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Just talk to her.

Or don't.

It wont be a big deal to you by next month. You won't regret it for life, trust me. The only times in your life that you will ever regret anything with a girl, are the surefire sex chances you missed.

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Just go for it, don't give it to much thought and just do it!


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Friend her on Facebook and be like, "Hey, we met at that thing, I really love your music," etc. If she counts you out because of something on your Facebook then that means she's not right for you. When it comes to this stuff you've got to be real first and foremost or else people start taking action based on falsities. You can only present yourself as you and see if she responds--otherwise there's nothing you can do.

The only other advice I can give is, if she doesn't look like she wants to connect on Facebook and you've got no other ways to actually spend time with her, put her out of your mind. I've been in the "she doesn't even know I exist" crush-type position before and it only gets worse the more time passes. You psyche yourself out into thinking that she's perfect when you're really just filling in the blanks and constructing a fantasy image to obsess over. I'm not necessarily accusing you of doing that, but I know I've done it and it's a very common thing for people to do. If you can connect, go for it in whatever way you can. If you can't make it happen, you've got to let go, and the sooner the better.

Do or die


But take it easy first, say Hi to her and let her know you're the guy who sit next to her in the church or something similar like that


Try to find some articles she or both of you love to talk about 


It's really easy and not as hard as you think


Anyway, read this article if you want to know how to talk with a girl


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How old are you? xD

Anyway, that's a pretty nice thing, you got a "crush", can't really tell you to make a move or not, you decide it, but yup, you are pretty interested in her, it a nice thing, all that "only she matters" stuff.
You probably should let her know how you feel, specially if you thing she also likes you, but as I said that's your decision to make.

Good luck with whatever you choose to do, though, hope for the best.

Sounds like you are very young and very fixated on your first "crush".

Your next step should be to tell her that you love her and that you are ready to commit and have babies.

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