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Jaywood2010 on 04 February 2013
TeddostheFireKing said:
What happens when you ask your friend out and they say no? They may not be the same around you anymore, its a tough call :(


Would you prefer to be her friend or her boyfriend?  Be honest with yourself.  IF she is a true friend and rejects you then you two will go right back to being normal.  Just act like it never happened and treat her like you would any other friend.  And that is a mistake i see many guys making anyways while we are on the subject.  Many guys get put in the friend zone because they are way to nice to them and are always agreeing with them etc.  When in reality you should be treating them lik any other friend, joking around and picking on her.  That is called flirting.  This may sound weird but it is 100% true.  You basically flirt with your everyday friends.  Take me and Green sky for example right now.  Do you see how we are playfully joking with each other?  That is basically playfully flirting even though it is not my intentions, you do the same thing with a girl and they love that kind of stuff.  




       

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crissindahouse on 04 February 2013

no clue why some people have so big problems with that but there are also people who fear to fly even when they know that it's safer as driving with a car or people who are scared of some new virus even when they know the chance is higher to fall down the stairs and break the neck...

so, many people fear something but you can't just say them "but it's safer/better for you as what you do every day" and everything is fine for them then. 



Mazty on 04 February 2013
JayWood2010 said:
Mazty said:
JayWood2010 said:

I hear this same answer from guy after guy.  They tell me that they don't have the confidence to ask a girl out that they like or that they are afraid that she won't like you.  But here is my question, why be afraid?  You can't possibly be anymore single than you already are.  I also want to point out that if you are friend zoned that you most likely don't want to be in the situation so by not doing anything about it you are only hurting yourself.  Once again, you can't possibly be more single than you already are and we both know you aren't just looking to be her friend, so tell me your mindset behind this. 

True & I agree. But being British, the issue is finding someone worth anytime. Asking for someone that takes care of themselves physically, has confidence, ambition and hobbies I have found is akin to asking to touch the moon. 

Are you Northern or Southern? How are you finding the "female" situation in the UK?

I'm American and I live in a state that has low population with high obesity rates so i completely understand where you are coming from.  I have very high standards so living in a place like i live in can make it difficult at times, but it doesn't stop me either.

Your profile lies -_-

Yeah that sounds pretty bad. Still though in the UK if you have high standards, it is so grim I'd say move abroad. 



Mazty on 04 February 2013
Mr Khan said:
The logic here is true. If you're willing to abandon shame, then there's no real loss to trying the shotgun approach, unless you are so shameless that negative word of mouth spreads about you.


What does shame have to do with it? Surely it's to do with confidence and being secure in oneself so that rejection does not cause a problem for yourself?



Jaywood2010 on 04 February 2013
Mazty said:
JayWood2010 said:
Mazty said:
JayWood2010 said:

I hear this same answer from guy after guy.  They tell me that they don't have the confidence to ask a girl out that they like or that they are afraid that she won't like you.  But here is my question, why be afraid?  You can't possibly be anymore single than you already are.  I also want to point out that if you are friend zoned that you most likely don't want to be in the situation so by not doing anything about it you are only hurting yourself.  Once again, you can't possibly be more single than you already are and we both know you aren't just looking to be her friend, so tell me your mindset behind this. 

True & I agree. But being British, the issue is finding someone worth anytime. Asking for someone that takes care of themselves physically, has confidence, ambition and hobbies I have found is akin to asking to touch the moon. 

Are you Northern or Southern? How are you finding the "female" situation in the UK?

I'm American and I live in a state that has low population with high obesity rates so i completely understand where you are coming from.  I have very high standards so living in a place like i live in can make it difficult at times, but it doesn't stop me either.

Your profile lies -_-

Yeah that sounds pretty bad. Still though in the UK if you have high standards, it is so grim I'd say move abroad. 

Wow i never noticed that O.O lol  I never set my profile up on here so Ill have to fix that now lol Either that or i clicket the wrong united haha




       

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Jaywood2010 on 04 February 2013
green_sky said:
JayWood2010 said:
I make some in my basement every once in a while. Why? I'm not allowed to talk about it.

Exactly. We do not talk about...




       

JOKA_ on 04 February 2013

tl;dr verison:



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Mr Khan on 04 February 2013
Mazty said:
Mr Khan said:
The logic here is true. If you're willing to abandon shame, then there's no real loss to trying the shotgun approach, unless you are so shameless that negative word of mouth spreads about you.


What does shame have to do with it? Surely it's to do with confidence and being secure in oneself so that rejection does not cause a problem for yourself?

That negative feeling you get from rejection is shame.


Perhaps "embarassment" would be a better word.



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green_sky on 04 February 2013

Friend Zone is just a horrible place to be unless you are 15 and want to wait till marriage for serious relationship or something. All of us have our vices but damn i feel bad for some of these dudes. Guess if you are going to become Barney Stinson. You have to go through hell first. 

 

That god damn smiley face after mega best friends. Grrr lol. 



Mazty on 04 February 2013
Mr Khan said:
Mazty said:
Mr Khan said:
The logic here is true. If you're willing to abandon shame, then there's no real loss to trying the shotgun approach, unless you are so shameless that negative word of mouth spreads about you.


What does shame have to do with it? Surely it's to do with confidence and being secure in oneself so that rejection does not cause a problem for yourself?

That negative feeling you get from rejection is shame.


Perhaps "embarassment" would be a better word.

But if you are secure in yourself, you don't feel shame when you are rejected. Dissapointment sure, but not shame or embarrassment. 

If people are more confident and secure with themselves, then they'll be happier to approach women as they won't feel that rejection is a problem.