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Are you for or against gay marriage?

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mai said:

the2real4mafol said:

But how would you know if they are loving parents or not, unless they are allowed to adopt. There are probably gay couples out there that would make better parents than a heterosexual one. If you see that the kid has bad parents (gay or not), they should be treated the same as anyone else would. And how exactly are they disadvantaged? It shouldn't matter who there parents are, as long as they are happy and have a good life. But it's like people think i'm in a so called "disadvantaged family" because i'm in a single parent family. I'm nearly 18 now and have never needed my dad, and i'm fine. I think you are far more disadvantaged if you have 2 abusive parents than 2 loving gay parents to be honest. I can understand that society cares about the children, but it shouldn't bother them who there parents are, as long as you can tell that they are fine. People just need to be more tolerant to these people

Err, so the reasons why social workers might consider it harmful for homosexual family parenting a child aren't obvious to you?

Check this btw:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1325635/Christian-couple-doomed-foster-carers-homosexuality-views.html
Disturbing, isn't it?

Seems like a perfectly reasonable grievance if being homosexual can count as a disadvantaged family, than being objectly against it would be one as well.  



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Andrespetmonkey said:
Player1x3 said:
Andrespetmonkey said:

It certainly didn't end slavery or pedophilia. 

Of course it did Andre :)

http://medicolegal.tripod.com/catholicsvslavery.htm

Oh, my apologies. So because a Christian institution was against slavery, slavery didn't happen when christianity became dominant in Europe. I guess the Atlantic slave trade is a total myth then. 

I think you didn't mention pedophilia for obvious reasons... and ironically you linked me to a Catholic institution.  

You'd have to be very naive to think it stopped homosexuality among leaders and generals. All it stopped is it being publicly known. 

Good enough for me lol :P

"quite a few problems" is a vast understatement, but don't interpret that as a bash against christianity, I recognise that the actual religious guidance/philosophy isn't strictly at fault. Corrupted leaders as you mention, for example, are a big part of it. 

I agree





You need to make your posts more clear, so I can see what was your post and what was mine. I didnt even see what you said until i read the page again

Oh, my apologies. So because a Christian institution was against slavery, slavery didn't happen when christianity became dominant in Europe. I guess the Atlantic slave trade is a total myth then. 

You didnt really read the whole page, did you? Atlantic Slave Trade had little to do with Europe. The slaves were caught / sold by Africans to Americans on West/Northern African soil and were shipped to American continent to work for colonialists. Christianty had little to no influence in North/Western Africa and couldnt stop slavery there. Atlantic slave trade was out of Roman catholic jurdistiction. And slavery in America was absolutely nothing like the one In Ancient Europe before Christianity. Slaves back then had it a lot worse. What I said was that Christianity ended slavery in Roman Empire and mainland Europe, or has at least decreased it almost completly. Let me copy paste some points from the article that point towards that

 

Then comes the New Testament era. Indeed, long before the U.S. experience, the Roman Catholic Church was an anti-slavery leader, and essentially ended slavery in Europe "before the middle of the fourteenth century," says Francis Hargrave [1721-1841], in Somerset vStewart, 20 Howell's State Trials 1; 98 Eng Rep 499 (KB, 1772), pp 33-34 (1772). See also the Catholic Encyclopedia, "Slavery and Christianity."
 
  • 441 A.D. (censuring slavers)
  • 549 A.D. (church buildings as refuges for escaping slaves)
  • 566 A.D. (excommunication-of-slavers proviso)
  • 583 A.D. (church issuance of freedom papers)
  • 585 A.D. (use church property to free slaves)
  • 595 A.D. (freeing entrants to monastic life)
  • 616 A.D. (liberty restoration proviso)
  • 625 A.D. (ban new slaves, use church property to free current slaves)
  • 666 A.D. (ban shaving slaves)
  • 844 A.D. (use church property to free slaves)
  • 922 A.D. (defines slave-trade as homicide)
  • 1102 A.D. (ban slave trade)
And theres waay more where this came from :) You can clearly see that Christian Church had a lot to do with ending slavery in Christian Europe. And we should thnak God and his apostles that it was brought to our continent. It did waay more good than bad :) 
As for pedophilia...it wasnt brought there by Christianity, nor it was a christian problem. If pedophilia was actually supported by christian message and The Bible then you'd have a point. Even so, pedophilia among catholics is a farily new thing and its still very rare. It was a non issue before because priests were allowed to have wives before. So its more of a corrupted priest's problem that they cant contain thier lust than Christian, really.

 



MrBubbles said:

ps. all christians are idolators and are going to hell

Moderated,

-Mr Khan


hope it was worth it :)



Majora said:
Player1x3 said:
Andrespetmonkey said:
Player1x3 said:
Andrespetmonkey said:

Do you know how many ancient societies allowed pedophilia by modern standards? A lot more than those that didn't, not that that's to say it makes it morally right, but to say they weren't exactly low on the morality spectrum. Anyway, this is irrelevant to my point, which is that the acceptence and documentation of homosexuality is not an exclusively modern phenomenon in the western world. My point has nothing to do with rights and wrongs.


Well then, we should be glad Christianity ended stuff like that in the Western World :)

I'm not one for oppression and persecution of innocent people, but you can be glad at whatever you want mate.

Im glad it brought end to slavery, pedophilia, animal/human sacriface, homosexuality among leaders and generals, paganism and idoltary.  Altho, I admit it brough quite the few problems as well, mostly coming from the corrupted leaders


You're glad it brought the end to homosexuality amongst leaders? Be glad all you want - it still happens. Just now it's not talked about publicly. And who the hell are you comparing fucking animals and kids to two CONSENTING men/women having sex? 99% of gay people just like 99% if heterosexual people find that abhorrent. Evil comes from within, not as part of a sexuality. The mind boggles with people like you.

Not in my country thank God :D I couldnt care less if Scandinavians or Dutch have a gay president or military general as long as my people's country doesnt :P Thats just my personal preferance, you dont have to feel insulted by it. And where did I compare homosexualty with anything in that post and when did I call it evil ??? I think your progressive prejudice and bigotry sense is tingling



Dodece said:
Player1x3 said:
Andrespetmonkey said:
Player1x3 said:
Andrespetmonkey said:

Do you know how many ancient societies allowed pedophilia by modern standards? A lot more than those that didn't, not that that's to say it makes it morally right, but to say they weren't exactly low on the morality spectrum. Anyway, this is irrelevant to my point, which is that the acceptence and documentation of homosexuality is not an exclusively modern phenomenon in the western world. My point has nothing to do with rights and wrongs.


Well then, we should be glad Christianity ended stuff like that in the Western World :)

I'm not one for oppression and persecution of innocent people, but you can be glad at whatever you want mate.

Im glad it brought end to slavery, pedophilia, animal/human sacriface, homosexuality among leaders and generals, paganism and idoltary.  Altho, I admit it brough quite the few problems as well, mostly coming from the corrupted leaders

The age of enlightenment brought an end to legal slavery, and it has made it illegal to murder people on relgious grounds. It has attempted to address the real problem with pedophilia. Namely the misogyny that allowed perpetrators to get away with their crimes, because they alone had legal rights and legal standing. It also promoted equal treatment under the law of people of all faiths, and of all sexual orientations. I also must say this Idolotary isn't even a crime under Christianity. Christians do worship physical representations of their God, and other key figures in their faith. They even worship relics. You are probably thinking of Judaisms prohibitions.

Christianity on the other hand has actively supported slavery, and indentured servitude. Actively promoted practices that involved the sacrifice of individuals in the name of its god. Promoted misogyny that gave victims of pedophiles no legal standing. Didn't stop homosexuality, but just drove it underground. Hasn't even put a end to other faiths. Basically Christianity hasn't been any kind of force for good. That the Age of Enlightenment brought. Once that broke Christianities strangle hold. Things started to get a lot better for human dignity.

I don't know if you are being serious, but if you are I feel truly sorry for you.


No, i am the one who feels reeeeally sorry for you.

Where to even begin?

The Church initially accepted slavery as a social institution in antiquity and even into the Early Medieval period. Some Catholics such as Saint BathildeSaint AnskarSaint Wulfstan and Saint Anselm campaigned against slavery and the slave trade. By the end of the Medieval period, enslavement of Christians had been largely abolished throughout Europe, although enslavement of non-Christians remained an open questionAlthough Catholic clergy, religious orders and even popes owned slaves, Catholic teaching began to turn towards the abolition of slavery beginning in 1435 and culminating in three major pronouncements against slavery by Pope Paul III in 1537.A number of Popes issued papal bulls condemning enslavement and mistreatment of Native Americans by Spanish and Portuguese colonials; however, these were largely ignored despite the threat of excommunication. In spite of a resounding condemnation of slavery by Pope Gregory XVI in his bull In Supremo Apostolatus issued in 1839, the American Catholic Church continued to support slaveholding interests until the abolition of slavery.The Church has maintained its teaching against slavery and continues to campaign against it in whatever form it takes around the world.

Early Christian thought exhibited some signs of kindness towards slaves. Christianity recognised marriage of sorts among slaves,freeing slaves was regarded as an act of charity, and when slaves were buried in Christian cemeteries, the grave seldom included any indication that the person buried had been a slave.

John Chrysostom (c. 347–407), archbishop of Constantinople, preaching on Acts 4:32-4:33 in a sermon entitled, "Should we not make it a heaven on earth?", stated, "I will not speak of slaves, since at that time there was no such thing, but doubtless such as were slaves they set at liberty...

Nevertheless, early Christianity rarely criticised the actual institution of slavery. Though the Pentateuch gave protection to fugitive slaves, the Roman church often condemned with anathema slaves who fled from their masters, and refused them Eucharistic communion.

Since the Middle Ages, the Christian understanding of slavery has seen significant internal conflict and endured dramatic change. Nearly all Christian leaders before the late 17th century regarded slavery as consistent with Christian theology For example, the Protestant Society for the Propagation of the Gospel in Foreign Parts owned the Codrington Plantation, in Barbados, containing several hundred slaves; all slaves in the plantation were branded on their chests, using the traditional red hot iron, with the word Society, to signify their ownership by the Christian organisation - the Church of England has since apologised for the "sinfulness of our predecessors" with this instance in mind. Today, nearly all Christians are united in the condemnation of modern slavery as wrong and contrary to God's will.

It is contended that as slavery fell into moral disfavor, some Biblical translations began to translate references to slavery using softer language, and often replacing the word 'slave' with the word 'servant.' Others say the word "slave" carried with it a different meaning at the time the Bible was written, and that while the key aspect of slavery is ownership by another, sometimes "servant" better conveys to a contemporary audience what the text originally meant.

^^These are mostly from wikipedia, but lets go a bit deeper and look what more educate schooars and historians had to say about christianity and slavery:

http://medicolegal.tripod.com/catholicsvslavery.htm

This is probably the best source on the matter as it has sources from both historical texts, actual Bible and tons of schoolars and historians. I suggest you read it, as theres tons of information there.



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I really don't care that much, if they want to get married then let them. That is their business and I should have nothing to do with what they want to do with their relationship.



fordy said:
timmah said:

You're 100% wrong in your statement (as well as for calling me a lemming). If he believed that drinking alcohol was wrong and worked to ensure his children do not drink alcohol, that would not make him bigoted against people who do drink alcohol, your assumption is a logical fallacy. Parents try to instill their moral beliefs of right and wrong into their children, so if he believes homosexual acts are wrong, It is perfectly logical that he could teach his children that doing those acts would be wrong while still instructing them to treat others with dignity and respect REGARDLESS of what their personal choices are. He may not be acting logically when he 'guarantees' his child will not be gay, but it is a leap to say that is bigotry, it is not. I'm not saying for certainty that he is not a bigot, but that you do not have any real evidence to say that he is, so the jump to crying 'bigotry' is kind of pointless.

It's perfectly fine to disagree with people, but jumping to calling people bigots and lemmings is a pretty poor debate tactic, that's my point.

Explain what it is when you post an argument that's an exact carbon copy of one that I answered two days ago. Perhaps I should have just called you lazy instead, for not reading the entire thread before jumping in to attack?

When you can prove to me that a child being gay or having gay thoughts  is just as DIRECTLY harmful to oneself as alcohol (do not provide indirect examples either, because things such as social repression of homosexuality stem from arguments like you're trying to make. The ends doesn't justify the means), then I will agree. However, I think you're treading on a slippery slope here to say that homosexuality to a kid is just as harmful to them as alcohol, drugs, or anything else of the same matter.

Once again, WHY would a parent work to ensure their child isn't gay if their thoughts are that homosexuals are just as equal as heterosexuals? It doesn't make any sense at all. It's like saying "I love anyone, gay or straight, but my son better not become one". Love is proven by actions, not words, and these are not certainly the words of one who would consider homosexuality and heterosexuaity as any kind of equal, and this kind of "I'll tolerate it, but I'll refuse to believe it's equal" actions are where bigotry stems from. Once again, had he said that he hopes his child does not become gay, you'd see that there would not have been such a reaction as witnessed. I'd have thought his ideas were ignorant, but they wouldn't be hurting anyone. Where the line was crossed was an INTENTION TO ACT, by saying he'll be guarantee that his child will not be gay, and before you start any "he hasn't done anything yet" nonsense, consider why attempted murder and intention to murder are still classed as crimes, despite the action of murder not having been performed.

By the way, I love how you start the reply saying Im 100% wrong, but then go on to say that you cannot say for certainty, almost like that you cannot bring yourself to 100% believe your own argument. Cheers.

I posed a hypothetical as a comaprison and you go down that road?? Really? I think you may be not be seeing point I was trying to make as well as not understanding the term 'bigot'. If we follow your logic, it could be considered bigotry to teach our children that any behavior is wrong because somebody, somewhere might think that behavior is ok. If he taught his kids to treat homosexuals badly, or that homosexuals are somehow evil people, that would be bigotry. If he teaches his kids not to do homosexual acts, he's just attempting to teach them his views on morality (just the same as if he told them sex outside marriage is wrong, or any other moral belief).

I'm not presenting an argument that homosexuality is directly harmful, never said that, I was talking specifically about views on morality, never about levels of harm. I'm also not interested in forcing my own views of morality on you or anyone else. I was just saying that, if a parent tries to pass on to their child a belief of right and wrong as they see it, that does not make them a bigot. You clearly are very emotionally charged about this subject, so I'm not sure if it's possible to have a meaningful conversation with you.

Again: MY ONLY POINT WAS THAT THE TERM BIGOT WAS BEING MISUSED IN THIS CASE. Now that you've called one person a bigot, then called me a lemming and lazy... I'm not sure you have the ability to debate in a calm and reasonable manner.

EDIT: In an attempt to put my point in a short, clear synopsis. Teaching your child that an action is wrong is not the same as being bigoted towards individuals or groups who do those actions.



timmah said:
I don't understand why some people automatically assume that if you disagree with somebody's actions or lifestyle, you're automatically a bigot, this makes no sense. I personally think it's wrong to sleep around, but I have close friends who do and I'm not bigoted towards them, it's their choice and not my place to judge them. If they came to me asking for advice, I'd give it to them straight, but that doesn't mean I hate them, judge them, dislike them, am bigoted towards them, or anything else like that. It's very possible to disagree with somebody's personal choices without being a 'bigot', and unfortunately that term gets thrown around way too often to degrade other people's opinions. I even worked with (and was good friends with) an openly gay man for a few years. I never saw it as my duty to judge him or tell him my opinion about his actions, because they are HIS actions and aren't hurting anybody else, so why should I care what he does at home? We even had a couple good discussions about gay marriage and he agreed with me about civil unions.

That's why, while a don't personally believe that homosexual acts are 'ok', the same way I don't think sleeping around is 'ok', or that watching porn is 'ok' (which DOES NOT make me bigoted against people who do those things), I don't think it's right to deny people rights based on that, which is why I believe we should have civil unions with same or similar legal benefits to marriage. Also, if a same-sex couple wants a ceremony, there are plenty of ministers out there who will do that.


You have just earned a shit ton of respect from me :D If only bigots like fordy could have a perspective on society and people like you do :)



Marriage IS a religious institution. You saying to argue without mentoning religion is like asking me to argue why the sky is blue without mentioning qny colors.

 

Marriage IS A religious institution!



contestgamer said:

Marriage IS a religious institution. You saying to argue without mentoning religion is like asking me to argue why the sky is blue without mentioning qny colors.

 

Marriage IS A religious institution!



civil marriage?