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I'm not sure how close my situation will relate to yours but might as well share. This was about 9 years ago by the way. So my Mom and Dad and gotten divorced, we had always been fairly poor but now it was even worse. I lived with my Mom, with only one parent we had to move in to a very small 1 bedroom apartment. Well it was kind of a two bedroom, but there was no door for the second bedroom. Hard to explain.

Anyways we were pretty much dirt poor. At one point my Mom had like 11 dollars in her bank account, and that had to last several weeks. God I wish I understood what was going on back then. Well we stayed like that for about a year until my Mom went back to college and got a degree in nursing. She was able to get a job as a nurse in a Veterans Affairs Hospital and we got our lives back on track. With a great job, she was able to get a house a little later on.

Again, I'm not sure exactly what your situation is and how mine could relate. But the point is, things can always get better. Just because you've hit rock bottom doesn't mean you'll stay there. Find a goal, and work towards it. Happiness is out there, you just gotta reach for it. Now that I've brought back those depressing memories, I'm off to play some video games. Particularly ones that make me happy.



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spurgeonryan said:
Didn't you send a resume out a while back? What is your experience and college? Join Military...

I am in my 40s, ended up getting honorable discharged from the U.S Army after failing to get out of training and I broke my wrist which pushed it from uncharacterised to honorable due to delays.  The label is "Unsuitable for military life" and thus no way EVER I end up in the military.  

Even the Peace Corp is out again, due to issues with acid reflux.  And also trying to look into retail.  Due to issues with my back, I am not getting clearance from a doctor to cover lifting.  So, anything retail is right out.  This means also I am not in a place where I can even land a manager trainee position working retail, eventhough I have a really good conversation with a regional manager, who said to call back when I get clearance.

I have sent a large number of resumes out, and still have tried that.  My last hurrah here is part-time phone survey work, if I land that.

Pretty much I am going to set an October window for deciding to pull the plug and hit rock bottom, after I get the doctor's appointment in.  Maybe things break, if not, it is lose everything, like my car (unable to keep it up) and also my bank account (not able to afford to keep making credit card payments.  At that point it is go destitute, and try to live on  $100 a month, without a bank account, on the government dole.  Then take like 5 years to get things built up to where I could possibly get a car again.  My take is, better to do it soon, rather than later, because around 50, I may have a shot at getting something.  55+ it is end game, because really pushing too old.   

Anyone can step in to help would be good, but I don't expect anyone to do anything, outside of "bummer man".  Well, all this happens, I delete my account here, and purge a lot and just vanish.  Some people wouldn't mind this, because at least it is one less thing to shatter their worldview.



It's really hard to give you help because your situation seems to be so tight.

All I can say is that I really hope you can get a job that works for you, soon.



NintendoPie said:
It's really hard to give you help because your situation seems to be so tight.

All I can say is that I really hope you can get a job that works for you, soon.

And that is why I had the ending to the subject be "and no one can help..."  Point here was to post to discuss, and see if I was wrong, but am probably not.  Maybe one thing about the situation is that it could make people stop and think for a minute on things.  



80% of the problem is worrying about the problem that may or may not exist.
Just do what you can and deal with problems as they come.
There's no point in stressing yourself more than the problems already giving you.



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Going off of your last post...honestly, it just seems like you want a pity party. If you don't want or expect help why even ask other then to get attention? You don't even appreciate any of the sentiments people are giving, believing them to be hollow, because who could really relate with you on this forum? I would respect you if you were honestly seeking help, but this just doesn't seem to be the case.



Come to Canada, work in the oil rigs, there constantly looking for people, you need little experience starting off and you get paid a ton of money.



BradleyJ said:
Going off of your last post...honestly, it just seems like you want a pity party. If you don't want or expect help why even ask other then to get attention? You don't even appreciate any of the sentiments people are giving, believing them to be hollow, because who could really relate with you on this forum? I would respect you if you were honestly seeking help, but this just doesn't seem to be the case.

I did not post seeking pity.  I am not in the mood to hear any more, "Sorry to hear the news" and so on.  I would like help.  I post with the expectation I likely won't get any.  Would you rather I lie about this?    There is a place when things seem so bad, that one doesn't have any positive expectations.  I want help.  I probably don't expect any.  Even if maybe I don't get help, maybe something can happen by discussing the issues here, for some reason.  

Please also understand my writing was a mix between I have problems, to also meant to ask: If others were falling through the cracks, could anyone else get help here, or posting anywhere else on the Internet?  And if there is any attention seeking, it is for the issue on the whole, about what is going on now in general.  I am not the only one going through this.  So, do I seek to draw attention to the issues of people on their last legs who may come here?  Yes.  Is this all about me?  No.  Is it partly about me?  Well, yes of course.

What would be more beneficial, if I merely alone get helped, because for some reason I hit a lucky lottery ticket of my issue going viral, or maybe some deeper issues get discussed here, and the end result be that more than myself get helped, or at least some common ground be reached?



Gilgamesh said:
Come to Canada, work in the oil rigs, there constantly looking for people, you need little experience starting off and you get paid a ton of money.

Hey, anyone want to sponsor me?  I also am looking at back issues here, so not sure i will get a doctor's clearance if it involves lifting.



Can`t the unemployment center help you?
My advice is to try and seek a job related to the things you like or are good at. If you like reading, try a library/book store; if you like music, a music store/music company/studio, etc.

For the personnal part, if you want to find peace: "Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own"