Maybe not to some people but to some others it would be appealing. Though I dont think that many people go that long. I recall in HS some people puttin gme down because I was a virgin till I was 16, which was completely by choice. While a couple of them regretted who they lost it to I never have. Pretty easy price to pay for me. Plus, while I diffently enjoy sex, it is not the only thing I am looking for in a woman (not saying you are). I just dont get why its such a big deal to someone if someone else choses. to be abstinent till they are ready and with the person they feel they should  be with. Plus, to say that person must has issues really???

Singstar, Buzz and Blue Toad Murder Files. Do those count towards someone being a gamer?

I'm a bit torn over whether I want my sons to date gamer girls. On the one hand they'll have something in common they like to do, on the other hand having a non-gamer girlfriend means their gaming hours will be significantly moderated, and more importantly I'll get more time to game.

How do you know if you enjoy sex if you've never had sex? And don't you think that you'll have trouble when you'll try to have sex (awkwardness, maybe even some psychological barriers erected do to your long period of abstinence and negative views of sex?).

LOL, devious!

Well the word YOU does not apply in this case. Anyways,everyone has a bit of awkwardness there first time. So age does not really make any difference there.Not having sex does not mean have a negative view of sex. Where the hell you get that?  This is not a black or white issue hardly anything is.Plus, how many people end up with very deep issues because they are so in to sex? Who gives a rats ass if someone wants to wait for that someone?

One of my friends is and will come right out and tell you he is a man whore. Not once has he tried to make anyone feel bad for not wanting to have sexual intercourse. IN fact, he was dating this one girl who was a virgin at 19. When he found out he simply called it off because ofcourse he wanted sex.  Not once has he made it out to be some horrible thing that will lead to deep issues. Because maybe it will maybe it wont. Same thing if you sleep around. Maybe it will cause you deep issues maybe it wont. He respects that I choose to be careful about who I sleep with. Just the same as I still respect him and his whoreness. It does not affect anyone else so who cares? Its bullshit for anyone to try to make someone who practices abstinence to feel wrong for it. Its some of the dumbest shit I have ever heard.

Waiting to have sex 'till your 30s is more likely to cause "issues" then sleeping around a lot. Actually, I remember reading a psychological study that found that people who remained virgins after the age of 22 were very likely to develop sexual dysfunction.

And there's a big difference between "being careful about who you sleep with" and "waiting for that someone". That "someone" does not exist.

Now obviously making someone feel bad for being a virgin is not cool, though neither is trying to make people who like to have lots of sex feel bad about themselves.In the end people can do whatever they want, but we are just having a conversation here about this topic.

Do you find that sex is something dirty? Shameful? Would you feel guilty having sex with someone you found attractive, yet had no romantic feelings towards? Do you feel that sex is perverted unless it's "with that someone". If the answer to any of those questions is YES then you have a negative view of sex.

Studies also show that families who strongly teach no sex before marriage are more likely to end up with teenage pregnancies than those who teach condom use. Also, couples who wait to have sex before marriage have higher divorce rates than those who have premarital sex. IMO, the reason is because the people in the first group get married just so that they can have sex even if it's not the right person, because sexual desire can be so high.

I don't think I'm making fun of anyone who chooses to be a virgin, but if you're still a virgin at 30, I guarantee it's not 100% by choice. At some point in your life, you had to have had sexual desires and been turned down or have some kind of psychological problem to cause the lack of sex. 21 is about the limit for those who aren't religious freaks, but everyone has a breaking point sometime where they have tried to have sex and failed if they're still a virgin in their late 20's

I'm back, LET THE FONZ BE WITH YOU. AEYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!

kinda should have went that route. I worded it a little to personal and got a little off topic, You think?  One of those weeks! However I agree with you fully. I seen a lot of my buddies get hurt bad over this and thats why I posted. Also had a lot of the same so called honored virgins or should I say recent virgins come onto me. I'm not saying bad girls either, preppy, smart, cheerleaders and also in later years, buisness types and all. Girls that stayed with there first for a year or so and then just up and left.  Plus I had a few and didn't get to wrapped up cause I was warned not to and they where right to warn me.  However now I have a beautiful girl and she has went through her wild side and doesn't care for any of that anymore. I'm not saying she was a slut but had  around 10 guys or so, partied, had her fun. I kinda of investigated too. Can't help it I know everyone that knows everyone and want to know if people lye right off the bat. I didn't want to come clean with how many girls I had for some weeks after I met her.  I'm picky but on subject.  She knows what she wants and I'm her priority. Mostly sticks by myside playing video games, Dirtbiking and many other things that actually most girls won't do. I Can say my boys that are married are jelouse and others tell me I'm lucky as I know.

Not only that but we just click and thats why I'm glad I made some rounds and figured out what was best for me and didn't just settle. I actually did try to settle in two other relationships for some time until I ended it because fighting was a every week thing. With my girl now, we barely ever fight and when we do it is over in 5 min. She's not the drama type and doesn't care to make it a all out war. Plus you got these girls  that want to hold sex. My girl is not a nympho but does not hold sex. I had a girl like that, WTF? That was over quick.  I'm not going to go jerk off all the time if I have a girl.  That is a interesting study you and the other guy posted up and actually comes to my aid even though I totally failed at my interpretation of it. In some since that was also what I was trying to get at.  Alright well I'm talking your face off and have went on forever. Peace out.

To all I offended I'm sorry. what I was getting at is that in my experience it has and usually does end up bad for a long term relationship.  I guess you could call me a picky whore. I also don't sleep with anyone but have slept with a lot of girls. Not bragging and in no way do I think, wow what a great achievement. I just happen to be in the dj business for over ten years. I went to 3 different highschools and have a hard time saying no to smoking hot girls that is not a slut but wants to get down or girls I thought I would be into more, then to find out there bad traits. I don't bang slutbags  and tried to make relationships work but I'm picky, trial and error. My deal is that I didn't want to be miserable like most other marriages or couples and so I tested a lot of different waters and watched and learned a lot. I will be 29 in september and just in the last few years found a girl that I'm perfect with.  

I have been around the block a few times and had a lot of bad and good experiences. Oh yea, always, always use protection.  No reason not too. I have usually but when I didn't, I would sweat it until I got tested. Got the clap once and it was pretty Imbarressing. Never got anything else and feel That it was because, one I was picky about who it was and usually always rapped it up. Even if she said she was a virgin, You can never be certain. Yes a girl can be a reborn virgin if she waits long enough, as far as the whole, you know, tight, b----- thing goes. we don't need to go any further then that. Just rap that sh-t.

I also think that sex can kill or make a relationship work. Now it's not going to make it work if you are just not compatible. I have had girls that I just dated for a few months or friends with benefits because the sex was just incredible. There is also the issue If the girl wants to stick whatever, somewhere and your not into that. Well there you go Or if your freaky in certain ways that she is totally not,  There you go.

You may not think sex plays a role now but as you get older it does. It's far from the most important thing but wow do I now a lot guys that hate there lifes because they don't ever get any or she won't do that or this and actually they go and cheat. These are also guys I thought would never cheat. I also didn't want to be that guy either. No reason to cheat if you get what you want.  That usually takes time and it did for me. I have been with my girl for almost 3 years.  I've also seen friends lose and about kill people. I had a friend go to jail for attempted murder for a girl.  Tried to kill the guy she was fulling around with. Yes I've been cheated on and walked away thinking that me finding out so quick was a blessing. 

So there you go, that's why I made some douche bag comments earlier and maybe was amped up because of the week it was, actuall that was a bad week. I found out some bad health news about someone.  So take from it what you want. I can say I have had a shit load of experience, not only in everywhere I went but with my older sisters friends to my years of djing and experiences with different cultures.  My sister used to make the joke that she was going to take me on Jerry Springer for hooking up with her friends.  I kinda of killed some of here friendships but I was young and full of c--. Yep you guessed it.

So thats why I made the virgin and experience comment. Just came out way offensive and exculated quick. There are good girls out there and believe me I have thought I had one and didn't. Point being that was when I got cheated on. I was 16-17 at the time. Yes there are some but thats it, some! Feel lucky if you do have that  and I hope you do.

Let the fonz be with you. AEYYYYYYYYYYYYY!