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So I have a weird trans bathroom related question.

My law school has gender neutral one person bathrooms right next to the men's rooms. I prefer to use these not for any gender related reasons, but because I tend to like as few people around when I'm doing my business. And, since less people use it, the bathroom tends to be cleaner as well... Or maybe people who use it are just cleaner.

At any rate, my question is whether or not it is frowned upon to use these as a cisgendered male? Is it sort of like a handicap stall situation where I may be taking up a bathroom that someone may genuinely need because they feel uncomfortable using the other bathrooms? Or, would most trans people just rather use the bathroom of the gender they identify with anyway? It's not like a big deal, but just something I've been wondering about.



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JWeinCom said:
So I have a weird trans bathroom related question.

My law school has gender neutral one person bathrooms right next to the men's rooms. I prefer to use these not for any gender related reasons, but because I tend to like as few people around when I'm doing my business. And, since less people use it, the bathroom tends to be cleaner as well... Or maybe people who use it are just cleaner.

At any rate, my question is whether or not it is frowned upon to use these as a cisgendered male? Is it sort of like a handicap stall situation where I may be taking up a bathroom that someone may genuinely need because they feel uncomfortable using the other bathrooms? Or, would most trans people just rather use the bathroom of the gender they identify with anyway? It's not like a big deal, but just something I've been wondering about.

You probably shouldn't be using them (You don't wanna be compared to Eric Cartman, do you?), but I totally get it. It's a bit of a gray zone since you're not doing any harm, but you're also sort of abusing the system for a service/accommodation you really don't need. 

But on the flipside, I'm of the belief all bathrooms should be gender-non-specific, as you're really not supposed to be checking out each other's junk regardless of your gender or identity. It's a similar argument I have against the 'you should get your kids circumcised becuase other kids might tease them if you don't' thing. Like, kids will find SOMETHING To tease each other over, and if they're playing with each other's penises, you have more significant problems to worry about than foreskin. Only tangentially related, but meh. 

Probably use the men's bathroom if that's what you identify as and were born as. 



Runa216 said:
JWeinCom said:
So I have a weird trans bathroom related question.

My law school has gender neutral one person bathrooms right next to the men's rooms. I prefer to use these not for any gender related reasons, but because I tend to like as few people around when I'm doing my business. And, since less people use it, the bathroom tends to be cleaner as well... Or maybe people who use it are just cleaner.

At any rate, my question is whether or not it is frowned upon to use these as a cisgendered male? Is it sort of like a handicap stall situation where I may be taking up a bathroom that someone may genuinely need because they feel uncomfortable using the other bathrooms? Or, would most trans people just rather use the bathroom of the gender they identify with anyway? It's not like a big deal, but just something I've been wondering about.

You probably shouldn't be using them (You don't wanna be compared to Eric Cartman, do you?), but I totally get it. It's a bit of a gray zone since you're not doing any harm, but you're also sort of abusing the system for a service/accommodation you really don't need. 

But on the flipside, I'm of the belief all bathrooms should be gender-non-specific, as you're really not supposed to be checking out each other's junk regardless of your gender or identity. It's a similar argument I have against the 'you should get your kids circumcised becuase other kids might tease them if you don't' thing. Like, kids will find SOMETHING To tease each other over, and if they're playing with each other's penises, you have more significant problems to worry about than foreskin. Only tangentially related, but meh. 

Probably use the men's bathroom if that's what you identify as and were born as. 

Yeah, I sort of felt like that may be the case.  Although, I don't know if trans people actually want to use those anyway.  I should also add that as far as I can tell there are no openly trans people in my school.

But I think gendered bathrooms are a good idea in general.  First of all, I'm biased because women tend to take longer and there are huge lines at the women's bathroom and typically none at the men's room.  So the system works for me.

But also... men unfortunately can be really sketchy.  I can see where women may feel unsafe with men in the bathroom, and I don't think that's an insignificant interest.  Where trans people fit into this equation is something I'm not really sure about.  I would kind of be curious to see if male to female trans women commit sexual assault/harassment at a rate similar to cis-males, or cis-women.



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Runa216 said:
HylianSwordsman said:
This thread isn't very active, but my goodness it's a wholesome, intimate read. Thanks for sharing, everybody. Some of my favorite users are in here and it was nice to get to know you all a little bit. The forums need more nice threads like this.

Agreed entirely. the main reason I don't chat too much is that I'm not sure if my kinky tales would be welcome (I write porn for a living, now. Almost all of it hardcore fantasy erotica). 

Wow, that's quite the living. Does that actually pay enough to live off of?



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HylianSwordsman said:
Runa216 said:

Agreed entirely. the main reason I don't chat too much is that I'm not sure if my kinky tales would be welcome (I write porn for a living, now. Almost all of it hardcore fantasy erotica). 

Wow, that's quite the living. Does that actually pay enough to live off of?

Been doing it for a little over two and a half years, now. I'd be doing even better if anxieties weren't getting the better of me! 



Runa216 said:
HylianSwordsman said:

Wow, that's quite the living. Does that actually pay enough to live off of?

Been doing it for a little over two and a half years, now. I'd be doing even better if anxieties weren't getting the better of me! 

if i may ask,anxieties for what? 



Immersiveunreality said:
Runa216 said:

Been doing it for a little over two and a half years, now. I'd be doing even better if anxieties weren't getting the better of me! 

if i may ask,anxieties for what? 

All my clients are friends, there's nothing more stressful than worrying about disappointing them or making them wait. and since it's a creative endeavour, it's very hard to push through projects that don't inspire me, so sometimes people have to wait longer than they should while other, more enjoyable projects get done. 

There is no one right way to do it, which sucks when you're the type that likes complete control over everything in your life. Sometimes you gotta go in order, sometimes you gotta go where the inspiration is, sometimes you gotta do stuff for yourself, and no matter what you do, SOMEONE is going to be disappointed in you. and that sucks. 



At my workplace we've had gender-neutral toilets for as long as I've been there (so since 2014) and I've never heard any complaints, nor do I have any myself.



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HylianSwordsman said:
This thread isn't very active, but my goodness it's a wholesome, intimate read. ...

Whereupon the conversation promptly shifted to porn and bathrooms.