Considering how incredibly well received the Home "duology" is in terms of both critical and commercial success, i'd absolutely question your criteria of "terrible writing", cause its clearly not the case.
Either way I dont care, the best version of the character IMO is the high schooler. I dont want to see the married Peter Parker.
Star Wars Sequels are both well received critically and commercially, do the fans care about that? Nope.
If you want terrible writing then watch the DCEU.
Fixed that for you
And what happens at the end? He accepts his responsibility and understands that he's partly to blame for his uncle's death and moves on as a Spider-Man.
The end? The very ideal of the Spider-Man character, the defining element for literally decades and decades, especially during his college years, was that Peter Parker wanted a normal life with a normal career but being Spider-Man always got in the way. He was supposed to be the opposite of the Superman type character, where the "Clark Kent" guise is the fake element and the "superhero" is the real persona. That's why Spider-Man resonated with so many people in the first place. It's why he never fit in with groups like the Avengers.
Spider-Man is Peter Parker with a mask on.
You should probably check out the Superman films. That sounds more like what you want in a character.
Yeah, I can remember from my dad's silver/bronze age comics that he's always at Morton's fork. No matter what he's doing, he can't possibly please everybody, and some will suffer from it. Uncle Ben, Gwen Stacy and her dad died due to Parker's being forced to choose. And those painful choices did stick, as they stayed dead, unlike most in comicbooks.
The scene before the final battle in Homecoming was exactly what Parker was about all that time: He has to sacrifice all the time and make tough decisions:
Go to the prom with his dream girl, knowing fully well that she'll dump him forever if he doesn't, or catch the villain, who is incidentally also the father of his love?
A similar thing happened in this movie:
He gave Misterio Tony's glasses, and with them, full control over his drones, as he felt the burden was too much for him, that he was too young for such a responsibility. The deaths and destructions in London are the result of this choices.
Spiderman is all about choices and what we make with and about them.