I'm not looking to complain here so much as to look for advice. I believe this is, in fact, my first visit to this thread so far if it helps put matters in perspective. Further perspective would be that let the record show I have never reported anyone for anything in my years of being here and have no intention of "calling out" or otherwise harming or embarrassing anyone here. I don't want to be seen as one of those annoying people who goes around complaining about everything or is looking to upset the order of things and make the lives of the people who run this site miserable or what have you. But it just seems like, in general, I wind up in some low-level form of trouble around here almost constantly and it's really starting to get discouraging. To that end, I'd like some advice on what, just in general, I can be doing differently in the future to avoid like half my threads getting closed and constantly being warned and threatened by the mod team both in private and in public for various reasons that seem small to me.
Here's an example from today: I was just threatened with a thread ban, which is no big deal (I'll just thread ban myself by not posting there or on the topic of the game in question anymore, problem solved), but it seems like I'm almost constantly getting warned or moderated in some way. Another example would be that earlier this last week, I got a private message from a moderator warning me against joking with a particular user because of said user's propensity to report things without justification...which seems more like the problem there is with him and not me, but I'm the one who gets warned to change my behavior anyway. No big deal, I just won't talk to that specific person anymore, problem solved. Another example would be that not terribly long ago, I promised people I would author a thread with my at-length thoughts about a particular game and 8 people up-voted the post where I made that promise. I later point blank asked the community if it would be okay to follow through and do so. Then I followed through and posted the thread and it was closed after one post. I put a lot of effort into that! I wrote 19 paragraphs and bore a lot of my soul and it just seemed like a lot to just be thrown away like that. It's just lots of little things like that that keep happening and keep happening and keep happening and keep happening and I keep having to impose more and more rules on myself to avoid getting in trouble and it's not even working. I'm starting to feel almost afraid to say anything anymore because it feels like I'm being gunned for; like large numbers of people are looking for ways to get rid of me and to which end are probably reporting me for all kinds of insignificant things and that's why I keep getting in trouble for small things that don't even always seem like they're really my fault at all, to tell you the honest truth.
Like I said, I'm not meaning to complain here, it just seems like these little things are now happening with a frequency that they don't on many other forums that I visit and I don't behave particularly differently anywhere except that I'm, if anything, maybe more cautious here because I know that I don't really fit in or belong; I have enough self-awareness to realize that. I know that I joke around, but that's just like part of how I make friends a lot of the time. I don't seriously mean to hurt anyone or ruin anyone's game or what have you if that's how it's coming across. Do I need to, just at a macro level, change that and try to focus on being more strictly serious when I visit here? Would that help? Am I too political in general; do I say too much that way and that's the root of the problem? Level with me! What can I be doing differently just in general going forward to avoid constantly being in trouble?
Last edited by Jaicee - on 21 July 2020