I'm for gay marriage but my inner statician is screaming at me right now.

It would be way to early to conduct that kind of study in any US state.  You'd need a Europeon state where gay marriage has been around a couple decades.

Reason being, most divorces happen early on in a wedding.

So you look at gay couples right.  Just because they haven't been married, doesn't mean they haven't been living togther.  My cousin for example has been living with his partner for I don't even know, might of been longer then I could remember.

While he would of got married likely decades ago, he couldn't, and when the law passes.  He will.    Meanwhile someone who WOULD of got divorced decades ago never got married in the first place.   So essentially you've got decades worth of "Good marriages" messing up the marriage rate.

Honestly, half the divorce rate seems bad in regards to such numbers since it's an "Order of Magnitude" type thing as far as years go, however there may be a bunch of people getting married just because they're so excited they could and rushing marriages sooner.

That is to say if we're talking about percentage of marriages that  divorce within the first year.... and we assume gay and straight couples are the same and we just look at 2 years.   Straight people married for two yerars lets say have a 50% divorce rate.

For gay people, if gay marriage had been outlawed two years ago, and made legal again one year ago... (and wedding rates stayed the same.)  Since that first group who was going to get married is no longer around.   Gay Divorce rate should be 33%.   Just on the basis of a one year difference.

So unless controlled for intellegenetly you'd expect there to be HUGE gaps just based on the above phenomom.

To be honest i'd expect gay marriage divorce rates to end up HIGHER all thigns adjusted.  Not because of anything inherent to gay marriage, but due to all the extra stress put on same sex couples by a general homophobic culture.

Yeah right...

In Sweden and Norway, male same-sex couples have a 50% higher divorce rate than heterosexual couples, and female same-sex couples have more than double the divorce rate of heterosexuals.

Let me clarify, the studies I am referring to regarding are studying divorce rate of all couples leagally married at that marriage time to now.  So for something like 8 years in The Netherlands, and 5 in Massachusetts, as the last revision of the study was a year or two ago.  But they were looking at every year as you described.  But the numbers showed up within, the first year, and haven’t deviated significantly.

The theory is that if a male-male wants to get married, they really want to stay married.  But I honestly don’t know the reason for their lower than average divorce rate.

Yes, I could see how one would think that the divorce rate for a same sex couple would be higher, but sastically it is not the case.  

Here is another big of odd trivia – the rate of domestic assault of woman-woman couples is virtually the same man-woman according to USA police reports.

Right, like I said... that's the problem though.  Right now you have a lot of pent up "good marriage" demand.  So you would expect divorce rates to naturally be lower.    Really "accurate" Numbers wont be gotten for a good 15-20 years... and honestly, by then hopefully they'll be the same only because people will be more accepting of such relationships.

As for Woman/Woman marriages i'm not that surprised.   Domestic violence committed by women is lower, but violence by women is on the rise.  Add in the added stress of homophobia, the added stress of finding a new mate with like 1/10th the dating pool, greater feelings of isolation vs society... 

Yes, I know of same sex couples that have been together over 30 and 40 years that go married.  And a few together over 50 that did not.

But then there were also same sex couples that ran out an got married just because it became legal.  So there is that 'lets do it cause we can Vegas impulse' and I don't know how many of them are successes.  They weren’t all long term couples.

But I know the toll of not knowing if your marriage is legal or not has weighted heavily on many California couples and their families.  It has been so cruel what ‘the National Organization for Marriage’ and other have done to them, their families, and their children by tring to take away that right and their marriages.

My parents marriage (As would have Obama’s) would have been illegal in California because of the laws banning inter race marriages at the time. I really would have not liked that growing up.

You must be referring to the Gunnar Andersson, Turid Noack, Ane Seierstad & Harald Weedon-Fekjær study. Yes, same sex couples have a harder time in Sweden and Norway - but the study you are silting is looking as domestic registered couples vs married hetero sexual couples where at least one is a parent.  Domestic Partnerships are not the same as marriage, and requiring a rising a child for a hetro married couple is not making an equal sample.

All right, I agree those are crucial factors for the statistical outcome.

You know your stuff.