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Are you for or against gay marriage?

For 290 49.49%
 
Against 171 29.18%
 
don't know 16 2.73%
 
whatever who cares? 108 18.43%
 
Total:585

last report i saw from US on the topic said that straight black women were at the highest risk of STDs, go figure...



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Michael-5 said:
Jay520 said:

You say you're against homosexuality because it spreads STDs. But there's no intrinsic connection between homosexuality and unprotected sex. What you are against is a specific subset of homosexuals, homosexuals who practice unprotected sex. Based on what you said, you shouldn't have a problem with homosexuality as a whole, because there are plenty of homoesexuals who practice safe sex, and you should be fine with those people.

As for the disorder definition, you probably could find a definition that matches homosexuality. That's not really my point. I'm interested in an inherent quality of homosexuality that makes you "against" homosexuality. The only inherent 'flaw' of homosexuality is the inability to naturally reproduce. I guess you could be against homosexuality for that reason, though I really don't see why you should care about other people's ability to reproduce.

1. Actually there is, Homosexuals have higher odds at carrying most STD's. I could look uo the numbers, but it should be pretty obvious. Bisexuals especially have the highest frequency of STD's per capita.

However, you are correct, I have nothing against homosexuals who practice safe sex.

2. As for your second point, it's not that I see homosexuality as a "flaw" but as a mutation which hurts the fitness of a species. I reaslly don't care if people are gay, we have enough people in the world, but it's still a mutation/disorder/defect, which is nagative towards humanity as a whole.

3. So like you said, I have nothing against homosexuals who practice safe sex. However I am pro looking for a cure because many homosexuals don't wish to be homosexuals, and it's unfair to them that they can't live life in a normal way. People don't choose to become gay, so for now, gay marriage is the answer to their problems. Once there is a cure for homosexuality my opinion on gay marriage might change.

Homosexuality isn't a big deal to me, just like Albinoism isn't, However am I against looking for a cure for people who can't produce melatop in their skin to protect them from the sun? No, I want to help these people out, just like I want to help cure homosexuality because given the choice, many homosexuals would choose to "cure" themselves and become straight.

1. No, those statistics are the result of unprotected sex, not homosexuality. You have a problem with unprotected sex, not homosexuality as a whole. So don't say you are against homosexuality as whole, because that's just not true; you are fine with plenty of homosexuals. Instead, say you are against homosexuals who practice unprotected sex.

2. Please explain to me how homosexuality harms humanity as whole. Do you think humanity is in dire need of more people? Do you think humanity will be noticeably damaged if a small population cannot reproduce? How exactly is homosexuality harming the human race?

3. I never contested against looking for a cure for homosexuality. Sure, there's nothing wrong with wanting a cure for homosexuality for those who don't wish to be gay. In fact, it would probably be an excellent discovery (if possible, of course). What I have a problem with is you saying you are "against" homosexuality as whole. There's a big difference between being against a condition, and wanting a cure for that condition. Big difference.



Michael-5 said:


I told you, I have nothing against homosexuality, I just view it like it is, a disorder/defect. 

Wait, what? You said you were against homosexuality, more than once in this post.

Here it is: 

Michael-5 said:

For someone whose volunteered in sex clinics and mental health centers (CAMH in Canada), I'm againt homosexuality because it is a psychological disorder classified as "Sexual Orientation Disturbance" in the DSG III "Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders.

It was reclassified as "Sexual disorder not otherwise specified" in 1987 due to popitical reasons (Gay people were being killed in the USA for being Gay, while the act of homosexuallity is not dangerous outside of the spreading of STD's). I'm not sure if it was ever removed entirely.

However Gay Marriage, I'm fine with. We have no cure for homosexuality, we don't even know the cause of it, and most treatments supress all sexual urges, not just homosexual ones (however that is begining to change). Since we have no cure for a non harmful psychological illness, then why should gay people be refused marriage? We might not find a cure for 50 more years, and that's longer then most marriages.

Also because it's a non-threating or violoent, and livable sexual disorder, if a cure were to ever become invented, it's the homosexuals choice to use it or not. So, if a cure comes up in 10 years, there is no reason why gay marriages should not be honored.

So Homosexuality, I'm against, it's a disorder, simple as that.

Homosexual behavior, I am indifferent to, however I do want to push safe sex between these people because not all homosexuals are purely homosexual, and STD's can spread to the heterosexual community.

Gay Marriage, I'm all for, keeps the STD's isolated LOL. No, they can do what they like.



Michael-5 said:
Cub said:
Michael-5 said:
 

First of all the DSG doesn't classify what isn't a disorder, only what is. DSG IV I think removed homosexuality as a disorder, but not because of evidence showing that it isn't a disorder, but because of political pressure.

That said, Gay marriage is fine. We have no cure for homosexuality.


First of all, it's DSM not DSG. Second of all, fine, but it does classify what is a disorder. Finally, no cure needed because it clearly states that homosexuality isn't a pathology, only pathologies need cure.

Political pressure or not, I don't care. They've done what is right.

Yea, I just realized I've been typing DSG, even though I wrote out what DSM statds for lol.

Actually Homosexuality does still classify a disorder. Just not a psycopathic disorder because it lack 1/4 D's (Dangerous). It does fit the other 3 (Deviance, Distress, and Disfunction).

Also there are cures for homosexuality, they are just crap. However there was no cure for schitzophenia 300 years ago, does that mean it's not a disorder?

Homosexuality occurs randomly in the population, there is no gay gene, and this is not a cognative decision made by individuals. You don't become gay because your dad hit you as a kid and you don't trust men anymore. Instead it's believed to be an error which occurs in the copying of genes, similar to schitzophenia.

Mutations are a normal part of evolution. Without them, people don't evolve. Homosexuality is a common mutation, which is determental to the fitness of a species. You could argue all day, do we classify it as a disorder like many brain disorders, or as adefect like Down Syndrome, or do we just leave it as a common mutation, like being albino?

Either way it's not normal, and it reduces fitness (homosexuals cannot reproduce). Homosexuals cannot choose to be heterosexuals, and even with treatment it's difficult to force an individual to do so.

That said, I see nothing wrong with people being gay. It's a non dangerous disorder, it's not their fault. We accept people with down syndrome, why not gays? It's a defect/disorder/mutation which doesn't affect the cognative abilities of an individual, except higher instances of depression (but who wouldn't be when everyone hates you), so there is no reason why we should stop gays from marriage.

So I assume you are against people with Obsessive compulsive , avoidant , dependent etc disorders? 

You do know that lots of these personalities disorders are controversial and for all we know years from now they will not be labeled disorders anymore?

So what if someone's obsessed with the way things are done? "let's change him and normalize his behaviour" is really not the answer to these "disorders". There is nothing wrong with schizoidal people, they don't want a social a life? horray for them , people are stupid anyway.

Also, what if they really do find a cure for homosexuality years from now, you are gonna make your son take it for the rest of his life? You obviously have some clinical experience, have you not witnessed the dangerous adverse effect that, for example, antipsychotic drugs have? am I really better off with these drugs just so I can reproduce? I mean, some of the addverse effects aren't even reversible. How is a drug going to change your stance on gay marriage, I don't get it.....

Also, no! homosexuality isn't believed to be the result copying genes the wrong way or whatever you are trying to say. The cause? unknown, that's the best that can be said about it.

Is it a gentic mutation ? possibly. Is that a bad thing? no, not always. Infertile people are actually SOMETIMES infertile for a reason, I'll expand on that later when I re-read about the subject but in a nutshell interfering with "mother nature" and "force" reproduction of infertile people can result in a blood line that has defective genes that weren't supposed to be passed...

We need to stop spreading the false misconception that "reproduction" is the only "right" thing to our species. 



Michael-5 said:
Jay520 said:
Michael-5 said:


Actually Homosexuality does still classify a disorder. Just not a psycopathic disorder because it lack 1/4 D's (Dangerous). It does fit the other 3 (Deviance, Distress, and Disfunction).

Deviance describes behavior that goes against how a society feels people should act. First of all, homosexuality isn't a behavior or action; it's a desire. Second of all, homosexuality is accepted in most First World countries; most people don't care about your sexual orientation as long as you don't push it down their throat.

But most importantly, what's inherently wrong with deviance that makes you 'against' it? Are you telling me you're against all behavior just that's not accepted in society? Do you derive all of your values from what society feels should be right? I hope not.

Homosexuality causes distress for some people, not all. And for those some people, the distress is usually caused by society, not by homosexuality itself. Regardless though, homosexuality would only be distressful for certain people, and thus would be a disorder for certain people. For the people who are not distressed with their homosexuality (whom I assume are the majority), it wouldn't be a disorder at all.

People have their own definitions on what qualifies as functional. Some people feel that natural reproduction is necessary for a functional life, and yet plenty of others do not. For those people, homosexuality wouldn't be disfunctional for them, and wouldn't qualify as a disorder. 

 

Do you not wish for there to be a cure for homosexualism? Do you not have sympathy for those who are homosexuals, but wish to be heterosexual?

No, I don't. I don't have more sympathy for them more than I have for someone who thinks he has a big nose and who wishes to get a plastic surgery.

I was one of the ego dystonic homosexuals. Did I want a cure? BADLY, I praid for one everyday, I collected money to visit psychiatrist and took excessive anti depressant doses (they prescribe SSRIs for homosexuals in the middle east, why? no idea, probably cuz they these drugs make you worry about other shit than where your dick is gonna go).

Why did I hate myself? because Islam told me homosexuality was wrong. All I had to do was reading and realising and learning and I am happy with who I am now and the way I life my life. Ego dystonic homosexual should get over themselves the way I did.

I sympathasize with ego dystonic homosexuals the way I sympathasize with people who wants a prettier face when they obviously don't need one. I try to help them and make them realise that they're beautiful.



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Michael-5 said:
Jay520 said:
Michael-5 said:

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Homosexuality is a defect which makes people desire to do acts which are deviant to regular society. Also accepted by many (Many don't accept it, especially in the southern USA and and Asian cultures), it's still different from the normal. People are designed to have sex with oposite genders. The act of homosexuality is deviant in itself.

I told you, I have nothing against homosexuality, I just view it like it is, a disorder/defect. I'd rather there be a cure so that homosexuals can become heterosexuals like they are suppose to be, but the cures which exist now are crap, and they ruin the sex drive among individuals for the most part entirely. I'm fine with gays existing, but that doesn't mean I don't want it to stop.

I don't know the rates of depressions between homosexuals and heterosexuals, but I recall there is a significantly higher occurance. Also, I think all homosexuals are depressed at one point in their life because of this illness.

It doesn't matter what people themselves define as functional. In society you don't need to reproduce to be a functional member of it. However from a genetics point of view, homosexuality is disfunctional. There is no arguement here, people are designed to reproduce sexually, if we were designed to be homosexuals, we would all have some sort of hermaphedite system in us.

Speaking of which, hermaphidites do exist. There are people in the world who are born with either neither sexual organ (and just have a pee-hole), or both sexual organs. Do I have a problem with this? No. Do I want people with these rare illnesses to have the option to be "fixed" of course I do.

 

Do you not wish for there to be a cure for homosexualism? Do you not have sympathy for those who are homosexuals, but wish to be heterosexual?

Homsexuality is not a "defect" as you so bluntly put it. There isn't a gay gene, if it were it would have been probably discovered by now. The most recent epigenetic studies link homosexuality with epi-marks, and "different" expression of genes.

Stupidity is a disorder as well. Just to point the obvioius...

From GENETIC point of view as you so boldly put it there Homosexuality doesn't prevent reproduction! 



Jay520 said:
Michael-5 said:


I told you, I have nothing against homosexuality, I just view it like it is, a disorder/defect. 

Wait, what? You said you were against homosexuality, more than once in this post.

Here it is: 

Michael-5 said:

For someone whose volunteered in sex clinics and mental health centers (CAMH in Canada), I'm againt homosexuality because it is a psychological disorder classified as "Sexual Orientation Disturbance" in the DSG III "Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders.

It was reclassified as "Sexual disorder not otherwise specified" in 1987 due to popitical reasons (Gay people were being killed in the USA for being Gay, while the act of homosexuallity is not dangerous outside of the spreading of STD's). I'm not sure if it was ever removed entirely.

However Gay Marriage, I'm fine with. We have no cure for homosexuality, we don't even know the cause of it, and most treatments supress all sexual urges, not just homosexual ones (however that is begining to change). Since we have no cure for a non harmful psychological illness, then why should gay people be refused marriage? We might not find a cure for 50 more years, and that's longer then most marriages.

Also because it's a non-threating or violoent, and livable sexual disorder, if a cure were to ever become invented, it's the homosexuals choice to use it or not. So, if a cure comes up in 10 years, there is no reason why gay marriages should not be honored.

So Homosexuality, I'm against, it's a disorder, simple as that.

Homosexual behavior, I am indifferent to, however I do want to push safe sex between these people because not all homosexuals are purely homosexual, and STD's can spread to the heterosexual community.

Gay Marriage, I'm all for, keeps the STD's isolated LOL. No, they can do what they like.

Oh, I see. Well... lol

I'm against Homosexuality as the disorder, but not the people who are homosexuals. I used homosexuality in two different references, sorry.



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Tom3k said:

Homsexuality is not a "defect" as you so bluntly put it. There isn't a gay gene, if it were it would have been probably discovered by now. The most recent epigenetic studies link homosexuality with epi-marks, and "different" expression of genes.

Stupidity is a disorder as well. Just to point the obvioius...

From GENETIC point of view as you so boldly put it there Homosexuality doesn't prevent reproduction! 

I know there isn't a gay gene, I said that above. If there were a gene for homosexuality, it wouldn't be a defect, it would be a gene.

Stupidity is only a disorder if you are born with some retarding mutation. You can become dumb by drinking paint, you can't become homosexual, or bipolar no matter how hard you try. There is an important distinction.

Homosexuality doesn't prevent reproduction? You need two different genders to reproduce, if people are not interested oposite genders, then there is no reproduction



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@Michael-5 umm being gay doesn't CREATE STD's. having sex doesn't CREATE them either. So why you keep banging on about this is confusing? And how are the big bad gays who are causing these numerous evil STD's getting them into the hetero world? Ha, this is another reason anti-gay people infuriate. A LOT of "straight" men have gay experiences and believe me, I think people would be shocked as to how many straight men (with wives, children etc) who have no intention of living a full time gay life, have man on man sex. I myself have been approached many times by business men away from wives and girlfriends lookin for discreet, no strings attached "fun" (which I have declined btw, I'm not into that kind of thing). Human sexuality is so blurred, there is no definite black or white, the entire human experience is one huge grey area, demonstrated beautifully in sexuality.



Jay520 said:
Michael-5 said:
Jay520 said:

You say you're against homosexuality because it spreads STDs. But there's no intrinsic connection between homosexuality and unprotected sex. What you are against is a specific subset of homosexuals, homosexuals who practice unprotected sex. Based on what you said, you shouldn't have a problem with homosexuality as a whole, because there are plenty of homoesexuals who practice safe sex, and you should be fine with those people.

As for the disorder definition, you probably could find a definition that matches homosexuality. That's not really my point. I'm interested in an inherent quality of homosexuality that makes you "against" homosexuality. The only inherent 'flaw' of homosexuality is the inability to naturally reproduce. I guess you could be against homosexuality for that reason, though I really don't see why you should care about other people's ability to reproduce.

1. Actually there is, Homosexuals have higher odds at carrying most STD's. I could look uo the numbers, but it should be pretty obvious. Bisexuals especially have the highest frequency of STD's per capita.

However, you are correct, I have nothing against homosexuals who practice safe sex.

2. As for your second point, it's not that I see homosexuality as a "flaw" but as a mutation which hurts the fitness of a species. I reaslly don't care if people are gay, we have enough people in the world, but it's still a mutation/disorder/defect, which is nagative towards humanity as a whole.

3. So like you said, I have nothing against homosexuals who practice safe sex. However I am pro looking for a cure because many homosexuals don't wish to be homosexuals, and it's unfair to them that they can't live life in a normal way. People don't choose to become gay, so for now, gay marriage is the answer to their problems. Once there is a cure for homosexuality my opinion on gay marriage might change.

Homosexuality isn't a big deal to me, just like Albinoism isn't, However am I against looking for a cure for people who can't produce melatop in their skin to protect them from the sun? No, I want to help these people out, just like I want to help cure homosexuality because given the choice, many homosexuals would choose to "cure" themselves and become straight.

1. No, those statistics are the result of unprotected sex, not homosexuality. You have a problem with unprotected sex, not homosexuality as a whole. So don't say you are against homosexuality as whole, because that's just not true; you are fine with plenty of homosexuals. Instead, say you are against homosexuals who practice unprotected sex.

2. Please explain to me how homosexuality harms humanity as whole. Do you think humanity is in dire need of more people? Do you think humanity will be noticeably damaged if a small population cannot reproduce? How exactly is homosexuality harming the human race?

3. I never contested against looking for a cure for homosexuality. Sure, there's nothing wrong with wanting a cure for homosexuality for those who don't wish to be gay. In fact, it would probably be an excellent discovery (if possible, of course). What I have a problem with is you saying you are "against" homosexuality as whole. There's a big difference between being against a condition, and wanting a cure for that condition. Big difference.

1. I'm against homosexuality, but not gay people (at least not those who practice unsafe sex). I worded that poorly before. I don't think the illness is "okay" or normal. It's a defect, or a disorder, it's not something you choose to have, and current cures are no better then cures for schizophrenia only a century ago. However I don't hate homosexuals, they didn't choose to be gay, and like everyone else they deserve to be happy.

2. Google fitness. It's a term genetecists use to determine the reproductive abilitiy of a species. It should be pretty obvious that two people of the same gender can't reproduce. So it does hurt the fitness of the human race, you even said it in your bullet. However does it matter that a small population can't reproduce? No, not really, thats why I said I'm okay with homosexuals and gay marriage, but why not look for a cure? Not all homosexuals want to remain homosexual. I'm sure a lot of people want to raise their own child, and not an adoptee.

Do you not care about homosexuals who wish to have a monogamous marriage and produce a child using their own genetic material? Do you not want people who wish to live heterosexual lives to have that choice?

3. I am against the condition, I explained myself poorly before. If you look at my previous messages I mentioned several times that I'm not against gay individuals, i'm just against the illness.

However it's not a harmful illness, but it is a defect of some sort. There is no gay gene, people didn't evolve to become homosexuals. It does not benefit the fitness of the species, but unlike every genetic trait that harms the fitness of a species, it doesn't disappear over a few generations. Thus homosexuality is not a genetic trait, and since it's not something that people develop, and people are born gay, then it's most likely an error in DNA replication. Hence a defect, no different from down syndrome, or schizophenea (which is beleived to be such). Homosexuality occurs randomly in the population, and it's very difficult to correct genetic defects, but research has been advancing in these fields.



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