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man-bear-pig said:
Runa216 said:
MoHasanie said:
Runa216 said:.

Porn is not sinful. 

 


Actually it is according to many religions. 

care to show me a passage in any bible that clearly states that viewing images of an explicit and sexual nature is against God's will?  


"Thou shalt not watch porn" - John 9:12


Please don't falsly  quote the bible. 

Back to OP: I agree. anything can become an addiction. As long as you don't get feelings for the pornstar and what not, hey whatever gets you in the mood go for it.



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happydolphin said:
I sometimes look at myself from a 3rd person view and think "I'm watching other people get naked and have sex", and tell myself hat I should get a life.

@Majora. I also get that.

I used to be a desperate porn addict, but now I'm more in Andres' shoes, I try not to look at it because I disagree with it socially, let alone religiously.

And yes, it has been harmful to me, addict or not. It's demolished a few of my most powerful relationships. It toyed with my emotions in my late teens and opened emotional paths for me and a screen that were meant to be shared with a person. It fucked up my life. Now it's just the vestige of a vice.

How did you stop?



Nsanity said:
menx64 said:
I like porn as much as the next guy, but I have read severlal very sad stories about the performers. I dunno honestly. I am not going to lie, I watch porn from time to time, but sometimes I find it disgusting...

Which was?

https://www.thepinkcross.org/pinkcross-articles/june-2010/the-hardcore-story-porn-star-elizabeth-rollings

https://www.thepinkcross.org/pinkcross-articles/february-2010/former-porn-star-alexa-milano-story

 

 several others I do not remember... https://www.thepinkcross.org/



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Nsanity said:

How did you stop?

I watched enough of it to get completely stuffed and bored with it. It's a trick I learned 15 years in. I also learned to be more selective of my porn and realize that there is porn I enjoy, and porn I dislike, and that it's not all good stuff. That one I knew, but I really understood it 15 years in (it took to regularly watch some stuff I consider just bad porn, and then to watch some stuff I consider quality porn, to finally realize it). So, I learned to take it with the goal of pleasure rather than what was usually compulsion. That made me do it less often.

There are other ways that helped me stop but some of those are out of my control. For one, it can make me feel terribly unhappy, and I don't like being unhappy. It would litterally put a sad expression on my face. Someone once asked me "why are you sad", and I knew why I looked like that. It's also put me in very unpleasant moods with my family members. It also makes me sweaty down there, and I don't like that it gives me rashes and makes me feel uncomfortable. The sweating and rash are new, but becoming unhappy I started getting that early on but I'd say about 2 years in. Every now and again it'll push me to the edges of my sanity, does something in my brain I can't explain, makes it feel all cold inside my head, so I stay away from it as much as possible to stay sane for as long as I can. I'd say that though I never took heroine, I'm pretty sure ejaculating has a similar affect to me as heroine would to a heroine addict.

Of course I've learned to deal with it, but to be completely honest, considering the physical harm it's caused me and the emotional sabotage and lost opportunities for potential relationships, I would've prefered it had not been a part of my life.



happydolphin said:
Nsanity said:

How did you stop?

I watched enough of it to get completely stuffed and bored with it. It's a trick I learned 15 years in. I also learned to be more selective of my porn and realize that there is porn I enjoy, and porn I dislike, and that it's not all good stuff. That one I knew, but I really understood it 15 years in (it took to regularly watch some stuff I consider just bad porn, and then to watch some stuff I consider quality porn, to finally realize it). So, I learned to take it with the goal of pleasure rather than what was usually compulsion. That made me do it less often.

There are other ways that helped me stop but some of those are out of my control. For one, it can make me feel terribly unhappy, and I don't like being unhappy. It would litterally put a sad expression on my face. Someone once asked me "why are you sad", and I knew why I looked like that. It's also put me in very unpleasant moods with my family members. It also makes me sweaty down there, and I don't like that it gives me rashes and makes me feel uncomfortable. The sweating and rash are new, but becoming unhappy I started getting that early on but I'd say about 2 years in. Every now and again it'll push me to the edges of my sanity, does something in my brain I can't explain, makes it feel all cold inside my head, so I stay away from it as much as possible to stay sane for as long as I can. I'd say that though I never took heroine, I'm pretty sure ejaculating has a similar affect to me as heroine would to a heroine addict.

Of course I've learned to deal with it, but to be completely honest, considering the physical harm it's caused me and the emotional sabotage and lost opportunities for potential relationships, I would've prefered it had not been a part of my life.

What about Masturbation in general?



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I think one thing that needs to be pointed out is the difference between professional porn and amateur porn. I almost exclusively watch amateur stuff, though professional can be done right as long as the talent aren't being abused.

I mean, I've seen the 'horrors of porn', and how the directors or oftentimes male leads will treat the females like trash. Basically raping them for money, or verbally assaulting them or telling them they're worthless for being in porn. I have an active problem with that.

But being a person who has done amateur porn for my own enjoyment and for the enjoyment of my friends and the community I was a part of, I can assure you that some people do it because they legitimately enjoy it. some people are exhibitionists and enjoy the idea of people watching them get naked. some people get an ego boost from people calling them sexy (and meaning it) despite being chubby or not conventionally attractive. some people just want to make others happy, and will gladly sacrifice their personal space if it makes others happy. Porn can be beautiful and artistic, sharing your intimacy doesn't need to be something you should be ashamed of. Seriously, There's nothing more liberating than showing off your body, and having people enjoy it, it's a massive ego boost. Not to mention it's a special feeling knowing that you're directly contributing to someone else's happiness.

It's all about balance. I mean, I look at porn, I make porn, I have in the past paid people to do personal porn for me (just friends I met online, not girlfriends or anything) and have even traded videos of myself for videos of them. This social belief that porn is inherently evil or that only the scumbags of the world make or watch porn needs to stop.

Recommended reading: http://sexisnottheenemy.tumblr.com/

It's mostly just VERY NSFW pictures of people who are legitimately enjoying the act of being themselves, bucking trends, and sharing love with their partner(s). It shows that sex, porn, and nakedness can truly be beautiful, even if it's not what society deems hot. Gay folks kissing and holding hands in public, responsible adults enjoying a casual orgy with other responsible adults. Straight guys being pegged by their girlfriends. All of these things express a freedom and happiness with one's own self and while professional porn is usually despicable, MOST porn out there is beautiful self expression.

Chain of Causality. Just because some porn is horrible and demeaning doesn't mean ALL porn is by default horrible and demeaning. And if you truly think it is, then you're totally missing the point and I find you to be just a little judgemental, and not the kind of person I wish to associate myself with.



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Nsanity said:

What about Masturbation in general?

Before I got into porn, I didn't have access to it, I used to fantasize about twisted things I can't share with you guys. I've shared a lot but that's getting really personal.

I can remember early on being sad about masturbating about 2 years in, no porn at that point yet. I only started looking at images of porn, it was this website called sinfulmail, I can't remember how I got there, but it used to send me a daily porn pic. I started that when I was 16 I think. I started watching porn videos when I was 18 or 19, that's when I was truly and fully addicted to porn, and not just masturbation.

I think what I said would apply to both, but the being sad part probably got much worse with certain images I saw that I was asking myself "do I really want to see that?"

Even today, I'll stumble upon something and I'll be like "Ok, that one's just gross".



Heavy porn consumption is terrible for people.



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Baalzamon said:
Naraku_Diabolos said:
Baalzamon said:
I really do agree, granted I don't understand people who watch it when they are in a relationship. Is your woman really that unable to satisfy your sexual desires?

Maybe some of us are very religious and wanting to save themselves for their loved one. I know I am. That's how I was raised. Porn is porn, I could care less anyways. It's just two people (or more) screwing their brains out for fun. I find it pathetic sometimes because they could be doing other things other than plunging a meat rod inside a hole (or holes).

Wait, so you are waiting until marriage because you are religious, but you are fine with watching porn, despite being religious?

I don't count Playboy as being porn, more erotic and nude glamour modeling.



The way I see it is guys need to get off 2-3 times a day, not doing so can cause short-tempers, irritability, etc... Many women will feel pain for having sex too often, and most usually can't go more than ~5 nights a week, often less, and rarely more than once a day on a regular basis; other problems can occur too such as the occassional UT infection, etc... Masturbation is a part of life for a male, it's cheaper and far safer than prostitutes and probably won't cause any problems in your marriage. A bit of porn can help as a visual aid, and can help enhance sex lives as well, because if one is in the mood and the other is not, watching other people have sex will always get anyone in the mood.

 

Can it be problematic? Well....

  



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