Let's Talk About the Dangers of Porn

[Runa216]

I think one thing that needs to be pointed out is the difference between professional porn and amateur porn. I almost exclusively watch amateur stuff, though professional can be done right as long as the talent aren't being abused.

I mean, I've seen the 'horrors of porn', and how the directors or oftentimes male leads will treat the females like trash. Basically raping them for money, or verbally assaulting them or telling them they're worthless for being in porn. I have an active problem with that.

But being a person who has done amateur porn for my own enjoyment and for the enjoyment of my friends and the community I was a part of, I can assure you that some people do it because they legitimately enjoy it. some people are exhibitionists and enjoy the idea of people watching them get naked. some people get an ego boost from people calling them sexy (and meaning it) despite being chubby or not conventionally attractive. some people just want to make others happy, and will gladly sacrifice their personal space if it makes others happy. Porn can be beautiful and artistic, sharing your intimacy doesn't need to be something you should be ashamed of. Seriously, There's nothing more liberating than showing off your body, and having people enjoy it, it's a massive ego boost. Not to mention it's a special feeling knowing that you're directly contributing to someone else's happiness.

It's all about balance. I mean, I look at porn, I make porn, I have in the past paid people to do personal porn for me (just friends I met online, not girlfriends or anything) and have even traded videos of myself for videos of them. This social belief that porn is inherently evil or that only the scumbags of the world make or watch porn needs to stop.

Recommended reading: http://sexisnottheenemy.tumblr.com/

It's mostly just VERY NSFW pictures of people who are legitimately enjoying the act of being themselves, bucking trends, and sharing love with their partner(s). It shows that sex, porn, and nakedness can truly be beautiful, even if it's not what society deems hot. Gay folks kissing and holding hands in public, responsible adults enjoying a casual orgy with other responsible adults. Straight guys being pegged by their girlfriends. All of these things express a freedom and happiness with one's own self and while professional porn is usually despicable, MOST porn out there is beautiful self expression.

Chain of Causality. Just because some porn is horrible and demeaning doesn't mean ALL porn is by default horrible and demeaning. And if you truly think it is, then you're totally missing the point and I find you to be just a little judgemental, and not the kind of person I wish to associate myself with.