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Turkish on 17 August 2012
dallas said:

I've always had a bit of an aggressive kind of personality, and there is really no great reason for it, people have told me that my testosterone level is way too high, I've been able to grow a beard since I was a senior in HS.  So, the only way that I know to stop doing that is to replace the aggressive behavior with something else, and I'm replacing with a metrosexual persona.  I'm paying waaaayyy more attention to grooming and wearing nicer clothes now.  I'm also acting more subdued more low key, and I think that this is the best way to be in mixed company but I've noticed that when I'm out with the guys, I'll still be my old self and that's just fine.  Any thoughts on this?


You cant change what you are by wearing different clothes.



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Gilgamesh on 17 August 2012

How often are you getting laid?



dallas on 17 August 2012
hsrob said:
dallas said:
hsrob said:
Why are you angry?


Some of it is from dealing with literally crazy family members, but a good part of it is by default I mean ive been pissy-angry for a while and have thought that this is a good way to live or be.  This metrosexual thing is working though, I'm not agressive at all anymore, and when I have a beef I talk about it instead of yell or whatever.  

 

I realize that I might need to see a counselor or whatever for this bc being an angry person can just suck.  I just lost a girlfriend bc of this where we were planning on having sex later on in the day and I was in a really creative mood and such...... She had been texting me that she wanted me to put her in handcuffs and would let me hold her horny ass down.  I said that I'd rape her and she actually said that it would be ok lol.  But then I said that I'll let the demon come out and she just hung up and ended it right there I'm guessing bc she knows my agressive nature and got worried.  I need to quit being this way bc my women shouldn't have to feel this way around me.  I'd rather be quiter and less agressive than what is "needed" than more, I mean it would be better to err on the side of caution and all that.

 

The metrosexual thing is working though for now.... Thankfully?  I also meditate which helps, but it doesn't do enough IMHO 

If this is working for you then that is great but the question for me is whether this is actually making you feel less angry or you are just getting better at masking it.  If by being 'metro' you are actually getting better at dealing with and channeling your anger it sounds like you are on a good path, but if you are simply hiding what you really feel behind more socially acceptable behaviour that's only a short term solution.

uh it really is working, bc anger breeds more anger.  You also learn better ways of dealing with difficult, even crazy people in ways other than using piss and vile.  

 

@ Turkish- that is correct on the face of things, but it would probably be more accurate to say that I am acting out a role rather than just doing a few things.  This is going to be a comprehensive kind of change for me



blkfish92 on 17 August 2012

I hate to say this, but that's dumb, be yourself and if people don't like that well poop for them.



           

Dallinor on 17 August 2012

Aren't you on steroids? Could that be affecting your recent temperament?

Anyway, I definitely think people can change their personality and how they approach different situations. Part of it is from learning from the negative repercussions of your old behavior. If you are able to have some serious introspection and can assess the fundamental root causes for your undesirable actions, you can learn to foresee when something in the environment is likely to set you off, or trigger your anger in this case, even if its seconds or hours away from happening you can control it, shift the anger in another direction or walk away from it. That's how I learnt to deal with my anger anyway.

I've seen people who have changed how they speak,dress, and how they approach social situations completely, to the extent that they are a completely different person. One person in particular I know has seen his circle of friends grow wider and has had a wave of recent success with the ladies, so I'm sure he's far happier with his new self. I would say if it feels comfortable, no matter what it is, go for it.



 

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TheEvilBanana on 18 August 2012

I support this development, you CAN change who you are. I used a slut for gay sex and now I'm straight, for example. But, I think from that one post you need to find a girl who likes it rough and likes to be pretend raped, it will get a lot of your frustrations out.



dallas on 18 August 2012

@dallinor-- i'm on peptides which are a little bit different from steroids....they are a variation of growth hormone rather than testosterone like steroids are and peptides have no affect on mood or behavior whatsoever. So, no, this is all about me, the peptides have nothing to do with it at all.

@evil banana- yeah, haha that would be great