I think this is what VGC really needs. We need a Trouble with girl-/boyfriends/husband/wife/fiancé/fiancée thread.

I start:

It is getting ridiculous. I am in a relationship with my girlfriend for 3 years and 7 months now and we live together for almost 2 years.

Thursday, some of my friends called me to ask if I wanted to go and watch a movie with them on Friday. One of those guys had football practice so they asked about watching a movie at 11pm. I said to my girlfriend 'I don't think I will go, it is too late. Maybe we watch a movie together when I am back from work.' I gave her a kiss and went to work. That was Friday morning. I would have been home about 2am and I was already tired. So later my friends called again to say that football practice was cancelled and we can go at 8pm, which was more reasonable for me.

So I wrote my girlfriend: friends called, movie starts at 8pm and I would like to join them. Her response was nothing like 'Glad you can see them again. Have fun!' like EVERY man would have hoped. Instead she responded: 'No, we had an appointment! We wanted to watch a movie together'. I rolled my eyes (the beauty of SMS and eMails. She can't see it!) and told my friends I can't join them.

That was just the beginning.

We watched a movie at home and everything was fine. We ordered Pizza (of course I paid it) and had a good time. She even said 'I am fortunate to have you by my side' and kissed me during the movie. Later in bed I heard her saying 'Since you are watching football tomorrow (Champions League Final!) I want you to help me cleaning up the balcony.'

I woke up, went in my office in our flat and spend some time on the internet checking VGC, watching youtube stuff. After 1 hour she walked in my room and asked me in a very strict tone if we can finally start. 'Give me 20 minutes' I answered. Apparently that was the wrong answer. Question is, if there even was a right one except 'Yes Ma'am'. She was getting angry and told me I would never help her with the housekeeping etc etc.

So the arguing started. I told her that I just rejected the invitation of my best friends yesterday. It did not help.
Now she went to her mother and I don't even know when she will be back.

The point I just do not get is: I think I did something pretty noble for her by canceling my friends invite. She seemed to appreciate it, but changed her mind in the very same night by telling me to clean the balcony and it culminate in the arguing the very next morning. We still had our freaking Xmas-tree on the balcony untill last thursday (true story!), but now it couldn't wait 20 more minutes.

My thesis is that women can't accept that men can be happy and have fun without them.

You are watching football tomorrow? Clean the balcony first!
You are playing on this Xbox again? Do the laundry!
You want to go out with your friends? Not gonna happen, we had an appointment. How the fuck do we need appointments? We are living in the very same appartment and share one bed!

Please give me your thoughts. What do you think about this story (I still think I didn't do anything bad) and what would you do now?

Thanks!

On your side. Not much you can say about this though other than to wait...

Not on your side. You can't expect to be in a relationship and have free time that isn't agreed in advance.

In both of those situations you promised X in advance and then did Y. No matter how small Y is, it's still different and she still has the right to be annoyed.

You cannot point out to women what they do doesn't make equal sense; a relationship is never on equal terms. You just have to make sure she's happy /before/ you make any decision for yourself, not after. You can't keep score on who's done what either, that's also hurtful.

Even when you feel she is wrong, don't get in an argument. Either give in extremely fast (best option) or if you do absolutely have to make a point, do it in a normal voice and not in a confrontational way. The feel-good part is, after giving in, knowing you're still right but ALSO you managed to not upset her.

Like: "Do it now" "Give me 20 minutes" "AAAAAA" "OK I'm doing it now (neutral tone)"

Hey! I think I've told you enough about your language!

You are still going on with the bolded?!

That sucks about the movie, you'd hope she'd be understanding about that. You really should have avoided saying this one though:

"So the arguing started. I told her that I just rejected the invitation of my best friends yesterday."

I know where you're coming from, but there was no way saying that was going to end well. At the end of the day though it's just an argument over a very minor household chore. It happens all the time, you both just need to take a step back and relax.

I'd suggest you decide which household jobs you each do and leave it at that. Basically, only one of you should be responsible for the balcony, one for laundry, one for cooking etc. Maybe you already do that but if you don't then it's a good idea to start as it stops a lot of arguments before they begin.

Instead you just get the odd moan when you don't do what you're supposed to, but you can always moan back when she doesn't do what she's supposed to

I cannot go through this anymore,I just can't..T__T
Just how many errors are you going to keep giving me,D3?! HOW MANY ?!!! *bursts into tears*

Are you suggesting that I should break up with her.. ?

I think he is suggestion that you should be thrown into a "Crazy House."

You guys just don't seem to understand true love!

This is why I don't have a girlfriend.