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Gilgamesh on 10 February 2010

Oh the old women problems being solves by the wits of VG Chartz, it's been a while.

Just tell her if you want to go out then she's got to get rid of her boyfriend, try just cutting her off completely don't talk to her or anything, because right now your just digging a hole deeper and deeper and nothing but a shit storm is going to come out of it.



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Seece on 10 February 2010

Do you really wanna get involved with a girl that's so easily willing to play away and have 0 respect for her BF?



 

numonex on 10 February 2010

Get what you want and break it off. Or just break it off now. Cut your losses.



NiKKoM on 10 February 2010
Johann said:
NiKKoM said:
How did I miss this thread?

Go for it!!! take the chance.. otherwise your gonna regret it for the rest of your life.. sure she has a boyfriend.. but then she met you.. she is confused.. are you willing to risk that she has a miserable life with a dude she met before you and she just stays with him because she doesn't want to be alone? She met you while she was in a relationship.. that happens.. if your gonna stay true to your principles that's nice but stupid.. love is about feeling... they are just dating.. if you had a relationship and you met someone else who is funnier, compatible and who you love more will you let that girl go because you already have a relationship with another girl?? No you wouldn't.. don't let any girl become your "what if" girl...

That's just... terrible, terrible advice.

You obviously haven't ever been cheated on. At least not by someone you give 2 shits about. It's not just the fact that it hurts. You feel humilliated and manipulated. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

If you want to date this girl after she has broken up with her bf, I still would not advice it, but at least you wouldn't be going behind anyone's back.

If you still want to take a chance with this girl, be honest with her and make her choose. You're not going to be doing the smart thing, but at least you're going to be doing the honest thing.

 

lol.. of course I have been cheated on.. but I got over that.. she didn't love me like I loved her.. IT Happens... that lesson made me stronger and less insecure about my lovelife.. before that I was scared that it would happen.. and when it happend.. I knew it can happen again so I cared less about it.. and I met my current GF when she and I both had a relationship with other people... but don't go waiting for the perfect single never cheating virgin girl when your 21... that's gonna be a long and lonely wait...   if ODC really likes this girl he should take a shot.. if he crashes and burns so be it..



 

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Rainbird on 10 February 2010

I agree with NiKKoM. Or his sentiment at least

If you really want this girl, and you trust her to really want you too, you should try to approach her about it. Yes, you might get burned, but it might be the greatest thing to ever happen to you as well.

I believe in second chances, and if you love her and trust her, you're going to regret it if you end up not knowing what it would have been.



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oldschoolfool on 10 February 2010

go for it dude. What's her boyfriend got to do with you. lol



numonex on 10 February 2010

The boyfriend/girlfriend line could be used because she is not really interested in you. Maybe she does not really have a boyfriend.



trashleg on 10 February 2010

im sending you my thoughts by PM :)



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Johann on 10 February 2010
NiKKoM said:
Johann said:
NiKKoM said:
How did I miss this thread?
Go for it!!! take the chance.. otherwise your gonna regret it for the rest of your life.. sure she has a boyfriend.. but then she met you.. she is confused.. are you willing to risk that she has a miserable life with a dude she met before you and she just stays with him because she doesn't want to be alone? She met you while she was in a relationship.. that happens.. if your gonna stay true to your principles that's nice but stupid.. love is about feeling... they are just dating.. if you had a relationship and you met someone else who is funnier, compatible and who you love more will you let that girl go because you already have a relationship with another girl?? No you wouldn't.. don't let any girl become your "what if" girl...

That's just... terrible, terrible advice.

You obviously haven't ever been cheated on. At least not by someone you give 2 shits about. It's not just the fact that it hurts. You feel humilliated and manipulated. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

If you want to date this girl after she has broken up with her bf, I still would not advice it, but at least you wouldn't be going behind anyone's back.

If you still want to take a chance with this girl, be honest with her and make her choose. You're not going to be doing the smart thing, but at least you're going to be doing the honest thing.

lol.. of course I have been cheated on.. but I got over that.. she didn't love me like I loved her.. IT Happens... that lesson made me stronger and less insecure about my lovelife.. before that I was scared that it would happen.. and when it happend.. I knew it can happen again so I cared less about it.. and I met my current GF when she and I both had a relationship with other people... but don't go waiting for the perfect single never cheating virgin girl when your 21... that's gonna be a long and lonely wait...   if ODC really likes this girl he should take a shot.. if he crashes and burns so be it..

Not everyone is as emotionally resilient as you. Or as incosiderate of other people's feelings.

 

My point about forcing her to make a choice still stands. It's not about being afraid of taking a chance on her because of her dubious past. It's about doing the right thing and not screwing over someone who has done nothing to harm you.



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KingFate on 10 February 2010

Not offense man, but it seems like she is playing you. I mean if a chick is gonna mess around with you when she has a boyfriend, that means a lot.

You seem like a nice guy who values loyalty, and if she can't be loyal to another person what makes you think she will be loyal to you? I say cut if off now cause as others have said a HUGE shit storm will ensue the longer you are the this the bigger it'll be.



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