NiKKoM said:
Johann said:
NiKKoM said:
How did I miss this thread?
Go for it!!! take the chance.. otherwise your gonna regret it for the rest of your life.. sure she has a boyfriend.. but then she met you.. she is confused.. are you willing to risk that she has a miserable life with a dude she met before you and she just stays with him because she doesn't want to be alone? She met you while she was in a relationship.. that happens.. if your gonna stay true to your principles that's nice but stupid.. love is about feeling... they are just dating.. if you had a relationship and you met someone else who is funnier, compatible and who you love more will you let that girl go because you already have a relationship with another girl?? No you wouldn't.. don't let any girl become your "what if" girl...
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That's just... terrible, terrible advice.
You obviously haven't ever been cheated on. At least not by someone you give 2 shits about. It's not just the fact that it hurts. You feel humilliated and manipulated. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
If you want to date this girl after she has broken up with her bf, I still would not advice it, but at least you wouldn't be going behind anyone's back.
If you still want to take a chance with this girl, be honest with her and make her choose. You're not going to be doing the smart thing, but at least you're going to be doing the honest thing.
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lol.. of course I have been cheated on.. but I got over that.. she didn't love me like I loved her.. IT Happens... that lesson made me stronger and less insecure about my lovelife.. before that I was scared that it would happen.. and when it happend.. I knew it can happen again so I cared less about it.. and I met my current GF when she and I both had a relationship with other people... but don't go waiting for the perfect single never cheating virgin girl when your 21... that's gonna be a long and lonely wait... if ODC really likes this girl he should take a shot.. if he crashes and burns so be it..
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Not everyone is as emotionally resilient as you. Or as incosiderate of other people's feelings.
My point about forcing her to make a choice still stands. It's not about being afraid of taking a chance on her because of her dubious past. It's about doing the right thing and not screwing over someone who has done nothing to harm you.
