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Is Kapi a stupid bear?

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Be friends?



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jason1637 said:
Be friends?

If you were hungry and wanted to eat a sandwich... but the sandwich just wanted to hang out... would you sit there and hangout with it until you starve?



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sethnintendo said:

How come it says you are 27 in profile yet you act like you are 15 years old experience wise. Are you one of those kids that doesn't have human interactions in real life and only knows how to communicate through smartphone apps?

How come it says you are 36 in profile yet you act like a complete dick with no understanding or respect for other people's feelings? Judging people based on their age, yeah... a very mature thing to do, always.

Around the 25-year-old range, I have friends who have never been in a relationship, friends who have been in several and they never worked out, friends who have been in one for a while, friends who have kids and a family, friends who have kids and are divorced. Very different experiences for people of a similar age group, but you know what we have in common? We respect each other. That's something you should've learned at some point.

@Ka-pi96 glad to hear you're working it out and maintaining your friendship with her. Wishing you the best.



Ganoncrotch said:

If you were hungry and wanted to eat a sandwich... but the sandwich just wanted to hang out... would you sit there and hangout with it until you starve?

Right, because a woman is just like a sandwich.

My fucking god, the level of misogyny in this thread is insane. No wonder there's no women around here, y'all are toxic as fuck.



sethnintendo said:

Been with older woman going on over 10 years.  No plan on marrying her due to her age.  I plan on upgrading to a younger model in few years.

See post above.



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You could try to maintain the friendship if that doesn't work out you should just abandon the (friend)ship. More times than not friendships lose their dynamics though when one wants to take it a step further and the other person doesn't.



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Ganoncrotch said:
jason1637 said:
Be friends?

If you were hungry and wanted to eat a sandwich... but the sandwich just wanted to hang out... would you sit there and hangout with it until you starve?

A sandwich can't express an opinion. I'd just eat the sandwich if I were hungry.

But in this scenario he likes the girl and the girl only wants to be friends. His options are to be friends or just ignore the girl. Better being friends and as tiem goes on her feelings might grow towards him.



mZuzek said:
Ganoncrotch said:

If you were hungry and wanted to eat a sandwich... but the sandwich just wanted to hang out... would you sit there and hangout with it until you starve?

Right, because a woman is just like a sandwich.

My fucking god, the level of misogyny in this thread is insane. No wonder there's no women around here, y'all are toxic as fuck.

whoa, simmer down champ. It's not misogynstic to say that if you want X and can't get X from the person then you go to someone else, that's a fact, if you tell yourself anything other than that you're dilluding yourself with no positive from doing so.

to close up your mind to the fact that one person wants 1 thing and the other wants something else, to continue the relationship in the hopes that either party will change what they want will just lead to bitterness down the road if either side does change their mind, if the guy changes his mind to the fact that he's alright that she has no interest in him as a partner then it's gonna mean sitting down to nice lunches with her to chat about the good dicking she got from some other guy and if the girl decides she'll give the guy a try with a relationship what happens then? There's gonna be a fairly bad conflict in him trying to be something he isn't to be what she wants from a guy (not him).

Honestly in your head think about it, if he is making posts like this about the girl and she gets herself a partner that isn't him, what are the chances that partner isn't going to tell Kapi to fuck off from hanging about her.



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jason1637 said:
Ganoncrotch said:

If you were hungry and wanted to eat a sandwich... but the sandwich just wanted to hang out... would you sit there and hangout with it until you starve?

A sandwich can't express an opinion. I'd just eat the sandwich if I were hungry.

But in this scenario he likes the girl and the girl only wants to be friends. His options are to be friends or just ignore the girl. Better being friends and as tiem goes on her feelings might grow towards him.

Lol you're saying that he has 2 options 1 is to walk away and find someone else, option 2 is to ignore her feelings and stay near her until she changes her mind.

What about the non big bang theory reality of the fact where she says she doesn't wanna date the guy, and then she doesn't ever date the guy because that was what she wants? I genuinely think that trying to stay hanging about as her friend in the hopes that she'll come around and give his dick a sniff to see what it's like isn't a healthy mindset, there's loads of guys around that she's prolly interested in and the OP could easily find a girl who is interested in him, the world is full of people. To lock into your mind for any lenght of time that "she's the one for me" while she's telling you directly to your face that she isn't, is wasted time.



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Ganoncrotch said:
jason1637 said:

A sandwich can't express an opinion. I'd just eat the sandwich if I were hungry.

But in this scenario he likes the girl and the girl only wants to be friends. His options are to be friends or just ignore the girl. Better being friends and as tiem goes on her feelings might grow towards him.

Lol you're saying that he has 2 options 1 is to walk away and find someone else, option 2 is to ignore her feelings and stay near her until she changes her mind.

What about the non big bang theory reality of the fact where she says she doesn't wanna date the guy, and then she doesn't ever date the guy because that was what she wants? I genuinely think that trying to stay hanging about as her friend in the hopes that she'll come around and give his dick a sniff to see what it's like isn't a healthy mindset, there's loads of guys around that she's prolly interested in and the OP could easily find a girl who is interested in him, the world is full of people. To lock into your mind for any lenght of time that "she's the one for me" while she's telling you directly to your face that she isn't, is wasted time.

Being friends with her is not ignoring her feelings since she wants to be friends. He can still find someone else while maintaining a friendship with his co worker. I just said that if he stays friends with her there is always a possibility that she could catch feelings too.