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ohmylanta1003 said:
ctk495 said:

No man your mind is  completely deluded you can't think for youself.. It seems like you can't see that not everyone in the world is like you who simply goes by the mainstream narrative society imposes on you. And if I disagree with you suddently, I am a potential shooter. I am the enemy. You didn't even reply to my point as how I was going by the evidence. You just seem like a terrible human being trying to make me feel bad since I disagree with your beliefs. 


It is very evident to me and everyone else in this thread that you clearly have some issues that you need to work out. Just because I disagree with someone doesn't mean I view them as a threat. But based on everything you've said in this thread, you're a time bomb waiting to blow. And I'm not the terrible human being here. Have you seen the way you carry yourself? As other users have pointed out, you believe that you are MUCH better than everyone else. That's more terrible than anything I've said (and what the fuck are you talking about when you say evidence? I certainly don't see anything concrete). And don't you dare call me mainstream because I have the ability to talk to people.

Mods. I think this thread should be locked. I think you can see the reasons why.


Again you are wrong man. I actually attend counselling regulary and lead a normal life, where I have a support network of mentors who are College Professors. Its you who are saying all this really hurtful and offensive things to me 'ticking time bomb.' My point stands that you are a terrible human being. You show an excessive lack of compassion and are attributing to me all this nonsense. I did give evidence on the concreate example of my close friends telling me of what the international students where saying mean things about me. Yet, unlike in your diluded mind might think I don't go and try to hurt them or do anything bad to them. I am simply polite and distant. 



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Immersiveunreality said:
Yeah there surely need to be more places for the ones amongst us that do not mentally fit into the accepted social norm.Beginning to dislike a certain group of people because you dont fit in isnt really the right thing to do offcourse. :)

I didn't say I 'hated' the international students. I am one of them. I simply maintain my distance because they usually do parties where hazing and bullying take place. It seems you are projecting your ideas to my situation where you don't really understand it. 



ctk495 said:
ohmylanta1003 said:


It is very evident to me and everyone else in this thread that you clearly have some issues that you need to work out. Just because I disagree with someone doesn't mean I view them as a threat. But based on everything you've said in this thread, you're a time bomb waiting to blow. And I'm not the terrible human being here. Have you seen the way you carry yourself? As other users have pointed out, you believe that you are MUCH better than everyone else. That's more terrible than anything I've said (and what the fuck are you talking about when you say evidence? I certainly don't see anything concrete). And don't you dare call me mainstream because I have the ability to talk to people.

Mods. I think this thread should be locked. I think you can see the reasons why.


Again you are wrong man. I actually attend counselling regulary and lead a normal life, where I have a support network of mentors who are College Professors. Its you who are saying all this really hurtful and offensive things to me 'ticking time bomb.' My point stands that you are a terrible human being. You show an excessive lack of compassion and are attributing to me all this nonsense. I did give evidence on the concreate example of my close friends telling me of what the international students where saying mean things about me. Yet, unlike in your diluded mind might think I don't go and try to hurt them or do anything bad to them. I am simply polite and distant. 


I'm not going to respond to you anymore. No reason to get into an argument with someone who is likely clinically insane. I'll never win and I'll only go insane myself. Goodbye.



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ohmylanta1003 said:
ctk495 said:


Again you are wrong man. I actually attend counselling regulary and lead a normal life, where I have a support network of mentors who are College Professors. Its you who are saying all this really hurtful and offensive things to me 'ticking time bomb.' My point stands that you are a terrible human being. You show an excessive lack of compassion and are attributing to me all this nonsense. I did give evidence on the concreate example of my close friends telling me of what the international students where saying mean things about me. Yet, unlike in your diluded mind might think I don't go and try to hurt them or do anything bad to them. I am simply polite and distant. 


I'm not going to respond to you anymore. No reason to get into an argument with someone who is likely clinically insane. I'll never win and I'll only go insane myself. Goodbye.

I am thankful you won't. You rely on personal insults to make your point. You didn't take the time for me to explain where I was coming from. Now you are judging me 'clinical..' when in fact you are not qualified to do so. 



I understand where you're coming from OP. I'm a loner myself. But you ever heard the saying "it's not what you know but who you know"? Having some good friends helps with your future too. I wish i could go back through HS and went to college so i could build some friends. I only have 1 true friend and we are not even on speaking terms right now. So now i sit at home day by day jobless with no friends or girlfriend. My social skills aren't that good. This is something good to read-

http://elitedaily.com/money/entrepreneurship/its-not-what-you-know-but-who-you-know/



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ctk495 said:
Immersiveunreality said:
Yeah there surely need to be more places for the ones amongst us that do not mentally fit into the accepted social norm.Beginning to dislike a certain group of people because you dont fit in isnt really the right thing to do offcourse. :)

I didn't say I 'hated' the international students. I am one of them. I simply maintain my distance because they usually do parties where hazing and bullying take place. It seems you are projecting your ideas to my situation where you don't really understand it. 


Weird you did see the word "hated",i used the word dislike which is something totally different.

I understand some of what you say allthough most will not be able to relate with it,people should not be judged for their social skills because at the root we go to school to study.Besides that it doesnt seem so healthy to be on your own at school,maybe just try harder to become friends with just a few of them?



This thread is going in a very bad direction. I actually got pissed off at how people whose posts I spent a lot of time reading turned out to not only completely ignore the point OP tried to make but act based on prejudice against him.

On the topic, even teachers can't do anything about it, students are bound to socialize if they wish to. Trying to control it is absolutely ridiculous. If they don't wish to socialize, there's no point trying to control it either. If you're in a place where it happens, there we have a problem. You should definately explain it to an specialist, they should help you.

And you should discuss this somewhere people are at least capable of understanding it. Maybe 4chan.org/r9k



Being blunt is pointless, if you aren't trying to build a relationship. Pushing away people nicely saves you the trouble of dealing with people, and leaves a forgetful impression in their heads. People only remember the bad things.



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ctk495 said:

I am an international student, this invalidates most of what you've said. I was actually bothered by how intrusive some of them are, as how they want to force me to be their friend and since I didn't want to they are saying I am not friendly. 


The fact that you are one, then you should understand my original point further.  Humans by nature are a herd mentality people. Need to belong to a group.

Back home they got their friends and family etc... when they come to a foriegn land it can be a scary thing, so naturlaly they gather together where they have something common between them. This also happens with people who migrate countries if you haven't noticed.

Although they may be intrusive to you, they are only doing what instinct tells them too. Some people like yourself can handle the solitude and do not require that attention, but you cannot blame others who do.   Hell I have seen people moving away 200KMS in the same country!! from their home town complaining they loosing their "support network" and how hard life will be lol.

 

The best response you can give these people is something like  " I understand the situation you are in being an international student, although I would like to spend more time with you then I can offer, my alone studies are very important to me as it is the best way for me to retain information and I don't want to dissapoint my parents  with failing subjectes who have done everything they can to send me here. How about we catch up once a week ro two and do something"

 

At least this way you still make them feel needed and spenidng a couple hours a week is not so bad.




 

 

ohmylanta1003 said:
fluky-nintendy said:

I wish I could be like you. I really hate/dread making long time friendships but at the same time am weak to tell people to f*off and go away. I entirely agree that school is about learning, and socializing is a big major problem to me cause it gets in the way of learning. Don't let these people get in the way you think about it.


But you can't function properly in the workplace if you can't socialize.


It will have to depend in the type of socializing you and me are referring to. To me I have tools to socialize in a working place, I can be very team work oriented and speak whatever necessary to get the job done as long it remains job oriented talk.

Any other kind of subject that is not work related is hard and that's what people don't usually perceive as being counter productive and can't sometimes respect other persons point of views about not wanting to be involved as a part of the drama of other people's lives. They may even get offended if someone is not friendly enough to not want to hear their personal issues or want to create bonds that go out of the work/study related scenario that should be only strictly professional imo.



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