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JWeinCom on 04 January 2013

Porn is very harmful. Chafing is no laughing matter.



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Runa216 on 04 January 2013
Mummelmann said:
"watch porn and get in the mood to go have fun with your partner"

Something I have never understood and never needed. If your partner alone can't turn you on then there's something wrong with your relationship. The vast majority of girls I know would be seriously offended (by rights) if their boyfriends/husbands wound themselves up on porn and then came around to making advances for having watched someone else having sex.
If they watch it together, then its something else entirely, its something mutual and agreed upon.

Mind you, I'm not demonizing porn here but the above statement just always puzzled me.

Who says it's becuase they 'can't' turn you on?  I had a girlfriend who was super hot (ex marine, had a great bod, shared all my fetish loves), but we looooved looking at porn together, and even sharing porn of one another becuase it gave us ideas and kept the sex fresh.  Plenty of new positions, new things we can stuff in one another, and different kinks we'd never even thought of.  

There's nothing inherently unhealthy about using toys or porn or anything else to spice things up, and it's certainly not fair to assume that just becuase you WANT something spiced up, that you NEED it spiced up.  Trust me, we never had any problem getting it on with or without visual aids, but sometimes that's what we were in the mood for.  

Like anything, moderation is key.  Now, if I was not turned on by my girlfriend, or if I was stupid enough to expect her to have a porn starlet body and therefore wasn't attracted to her, or if I was giving up time with her to go fap alone, then that's certainly an unhealthy relationship.  However, that's just not the case, and it never was.  the key to ANY successful relationship, regardless of kinks, is trust, honesty, and openness.  It IS harmful to ignore your girlfriend and just look at porn, b ut include her in it (or vice versa; girls look at porn too), and it becomes something you enjoy. 

Balance.  It's all about balance. 



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bananaking21 on 04 January 2013
man-bear-pig said:
Why are you so passionate about porn?


the question should be "why ARENT you so passionate about porn?"



Gamerace on 04 January 2013

Internet porn to a sex addict is akin to free liquor to an alcoholic - can devastate their lives.

To most everyone else it's about the same as having a beer or joint. Except those are done socially, porn is not.

Porn can be a very isolating and not at all helpful to people who already tend to isolate.

It also exploits many vunerable people who get sucked into the industry, and occasionally some of them die from AIDS or such (but injuries and deaths can happen in other entertainment fields as well).



 

Runa216 on 04 January 2013
wfz said:
Runa216 said:
wfz said:
Porn can be harmful. It's possible to become very physically picky and judgemental towards your gender of preference. It makes real relationships harder as you seek the best physical bodies for sex. Porn makes sex more physical and less emotional.

Of course everyone reacts in varying ways and degrees to all things, but porn can be a negative influence for many.

cleaning can be harmful.  It's possible to dedicate too much time to nitpicking the cleanliness of your house, and if an obsession with cleanliness arises, you can become judgemental of other people's houses, and become mentally unstable.  It's called OCD and can be a real issue to people who are obsessively neat.  Germaphobes are also mentally overwrought.  

Seeing something better and therefore becoming critical of your reality is not exactly the same as being OCD. You honestly don't see a valid point in what I said? If you lived in poverty, but didn't realize it, you would be somewhat okay. If you started watching videos of people who live much more lavishly and have way better things than you, you would instantly become more critical of your reality and be more upset with where you were, causing you mental distress. The exact reaction depends greatly on the person themselves, but the medium supplies fuel to it.

my point was simply that anything in excess can be harmful, and if you take anything too seriously it can dictate and ruin your life.  Porn is no  different.  



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KungKras on 04 January 2013

Porn is harmful to friendships

(When you fall asleep at a LAN party and forget to lock your computer)

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Runa216 on 04 January 2013
Gamerace said:
Internet porn to a sex addict is akin to free liquor to an alcoholic - can devastate their lives.

To most everyone else it's about the same as having a beer or joint. Except those are done socially, porn is not.

Porn can be a very isolating and not at all helpful to people who already tend to isolate.

It also exploits many vunerable people who get sucked into the industry, and occasionally some of them die from AIDS or such (but injuries and deaths can happen in other entertainment fields as well).

the key word here is addict.  



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Gamerace on 04 January 2013
Runa216 said:

There are none.

Well, that's not entirely true, but relatively speaking, Porn is harmless. Sure, porn addiction can be damaging to one's psyche, social status, and physical well-being, but ANY addiction can do that. I'm just getting so sick of people acting like looking at porn is, without failure, going to force you to ignore work, disregard your girlfriend/wife, stop hanging out with friends, and turn into a scrawny unhealthy mess of a person. The ignorance surrounding the subject is baffling, and I would love to pull a hippie moment and remind people that freedom, openness, trust, honesty, and balance will do more to help your overall standings with friends and family than trying to censor yourself or repress your desires.

Porn is not sinful. It is not harmful. It is not detrimental to your health or well-being. Porn is just another part of life that needs to be approached with regulation and common sense. Hell, even water can kill you if you drink too much. So keep that in mind when trying to demonize something as abundant and harmless as porn.

Seriously, people, it's not hard to enjoy a fap session, or watch porn and get in the mood to go have fun with your partner. The only time something is immoral or dangerous is when it harms someone, and porn only harms if you enjoy it at the expense of others; the same goes for any compulsion.   

If your at the point where you need to watch porn to be aroused, then you are already suffering the effects of watching too much porn and should cease completely until normal sexual activities are resumed (that is, being aroused by reality not only fantasy)



 

Baalzamon on 04 January 2013
Gamerace said:

If your at the point where you need to watch porn to be aroused, then you are already suffering the effects of watching too much porn and should cease completely until normal sexual activities are resumed (that is, being aroused by reality not only fantasy)

Or you should just quit watching it altogether when you have a girlfriend...I didn't watch a single second during the 3 months of my last relationship.



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Andrespetmonkey on 04 January 2013

Definitely makes me objectify women. I try not to look at too much.



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