What do you fear the most? Of all things, ever?

Something bad happening to my kids

Something horrible happening to my loved ones.

^ yep. That's pretty terrifying. For sure. I guess I'd say I spend the most time thinking about it but not what gives me the most fearfully feeling. 

I can't understand this only through loved ones that are already themselves. I'd reckon it must be the highest of anxiety being responsible for your kids.... man I can't even think of it cause it makes me so anxious so the reality must be insane. 

May I ask, is this rough or is there something that makes it less of a soul crushing anxiety? I've heard from some friends that you are given both strength and anxiety in equal measure and something I don't belive at all, that it changes who you are in one istance... you are yourself and then another person the second after birth. Is the latter true to you?

Pickles on my burgers.

My good lord, please leave the thread, this is fears and not absolute horrors. 

Yes I became a different person. All of a sudden every decision I make in my life takes the kids into account. It's almost like walking on eggs on how I behave and what I say, because I want to be a good role model. Always asking myself what I do, or not do, how will it influence their development. That sounds like a lot of stress, but the rewards are fantastic too.

That's crazy. Do you think this is a chemical reaction or just happenstance from a protective impulse or what? Or perhaps it's some trigger that is pulled from evolution, as like a chemical reaction but one that's made to fire for us for survival? Or maybe something more spiritual?

I think it's baked into us in order to protect our offspring. I would even go as far to say that parents that don't have a defect of some sorts.

I got my kids in my thirties and somehow it felt that I was a grown up for the first time.