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Men choose to remain single and give up on women?

They do not want to becom... 9 7.69%
 
They do not want to change! 12 10.26%
 
They do not need a woman'... 3 2.56%
 
They do not want to conform to society! 5 4.27%
 
They have busy life and d... 9 7.69%
 
They are a man-child and never grew up! 17 14.53%
 
They are regarded as a lo... 15 12.82%
 
Modern feminism double st... 19 16.24%
 
Other! 27 23.08%
 
They choose sex workers instead! 1 0.85%
 
Total:117
Cobretti2 on 29 January 2019
DarthMetalliCube said:
curl-6 said:

Bumble is better than Tinder, but after a year on it and swiping right to tens of thousands of women I've only ever gotten one date out of it. Of the 5 dating apps I'm on I've had the most luck with OKCupid. Plenty of Fish used to be okay but these days it's as dead as the Vita.

I've got mixed feelings about OK Cupid thus far (been using it at least mildly for about a month). My rule of thumb is I only initiate if I've matched (tinder style) with a woman. I've so far matched with about 8-10 women, started chatting with maybe half that number, and have only gotten a few responses. Actually seemed to hit it off with a couple of people but hasn't ended up going anywhere thus far.

Still already better luck than I had with Tinder though (tons of swipes leading to one horrible "date" and one woman who I got to the point of agreeing to meet and she went MIA the day of).

One thing that's a bit frustrating with Ok Cupid is that the app gives you a number of women who have liked YOU, which I've gotten a surprising amount - maybe 30 or so total, but you have to shell out $ to find out who, which I refuse to do.

May give Bumble a try..

From what I was told by my wife's friend is that those that want to just screw around and not get into a serious relationships generally go to free sites. If you want to find someone serious or not a fake bot profile, you need to go to those sites that require you to pay. She reckons because people pay are forced to pay to use the service they actually take it more serious.  That is her experience so i cannot say either way how accurate it is for all who use it.



 

 

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AngryLittleAlchemist on 30 January 2019

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Cobretti2 on 30 January 2019
AngryLittleAlchemist said:
DiaryChartz

I jsut hope E3 is exciting or this thread may keep going for a few more years lol.



 

 

deltazero on 30 January 2019

Something you learn when you are younger, usually from parents. There are times in life where you have to do things you don't want to do in order for a payoff in the future.

Whether you find it boring, tedious or uninteresting you are now in a situation where you will have to do work you don't enjoy. Like you said
"I need to stop caring and be more aggressive and fight for things I want in life."

This is a non negotiable, if you don't want to work, then no relationship, simple as that. If you don't want to do that then either try and be content with your situation or continue to express yourself here.
On the bright side, this topic is a valuable lesson on the reasons why you need to work for what you want



Dark_Lord_2008 on 30 January 2019

I only do what I want and that will never change.
I will not accept advice from anyone younger than me because that is how I was raised.
I will ignore any posts that I do not agree with.
I am a healthy weight for my height and I run and cycle high weekly mileage.
I will not need to do any job I do not want to do.
I will ignore the haters/critics that stand in my way.



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KungKras on 30 January 2019

If you only do what you want, then you will fail in life.



I LOVE ICELAND!

Dark_Lord_2008 on 30 January 2019

I have already failed at life this is just a reflection on where my life has gone wrong thread. 18 to 25 there is still hope but mid 30s and heading towards 40 and too stuck in ones way and no hope of changing. Improvement works for younger people with time but when you are older and have significant issues, time becomes an issue. Time is something we can not get back nor can the past be changed.

There is a clear misunderstanding of mental illness and the social stigma that comes with it. People with mental illness are not accepted in society and treated as social outcasts because Hollywood and TV has pushed false claims that all people with mental health issues are dangerous.



Majora on 30 January 2019

I've read this entire thread, and I'm sorry but it's getting funnier and funnier! 

 

Y'all have the patience of saints, this is insane, yet compelling reading!

Good work! 



COKTOE on 30 January 2019
Cobretti2 said:
COKTOE said:

That's insane. She's gaming the system from every angle it seems, and the social welfare system seems all too willing to let it happen.

Yer she is. I couldn't find the other article sadly, but in that one she was complaining she can't live with her partner because if she does she will get the single parent bonus cut lol. Somewhere there it also said some of the kids live with her partner and some with her mother so they also get the single parent benefits, disability pension etc.  Basically from all the kids plus other bonuses etc it said they racking in about $120,000 AUD extra.On top of this because they are not working, they get cheap housing given to then, I think rent is like 20% market value, free medical, free other things.

Minimum wage is about $35,000 AUD a year. If you have kids you will get some benefits cause you are a low income earner but none as close as good as the people who don't work.

Now at my end of the scale, if my wife and I wanted to have a child, because we are working, we would have to send the child to daycare. Daycare costs $150 a day where I am. You have to pay for all days (even if not there) as plenty of other kids that can take your child's spot. If i were to send a kid to day care for a full year that would be about $35,000 on all the days we work. At this point it makes more sense for my wife not to work and stay at home. But raising a child at home impacts her career later as she becomes useless and unskilled as the world keeps moving with new technology and systems. So you are in a catch 22 situation, work and pay childcare fees or don't work then risk of nto being employable later.

How backwards is that? The government should be providing childcare services to professionals (or at least tax cuts whilst the child is in childcare). Because a working mother (paying taxes) who raises a future tax payers is better than one that raises 9 future dole recipients.

They actually mentioned that in a picture caption in the article you linked to. 

I'm all for caring for those who can't care for themselves, but I can't see what this woman's affliction is. I'm trying to temper my comment here, but she looks like somebody who simply isn't working by choice, and grossly taking advantage of a system ripe for exploitation. I don't even know how to address the 9 kids ( and planning to have more! ) angle without going into meltdown.



- "If you have the heart of a true winner, you can always get more pissed off than some other asshole."

deltazero on 30 January 2019

Guess from your last statement the answer to the thread "Why do some men choose to remain single for life?" in this case is because they expect everything for nothing, keep making excuses for themselves why they don't want to change and yet can't comprehend why people don't find these traits attractive