Onyxmeth said:
Kasz216 said:
Onyxmeth said:
Euphoria14 said:
I believe it is not a choice and I have my beliefs as to why and those beliefs came from experience.
Growing up in my household was tough at time because ever since my brother was around 3-4 years old he would constantly get caught taking my sisters and/or mothers clothing and wearing them. Whenever this happened he would get yelled at by my parents.
Now some may think that is mean, but it is understandable for a parent to freak out when their son thinks he is their daughter. This continued all throughout his life until he was about 25 years old. That is when he decided to move away and told us it was because he did not feel comfortable living a lie.
We asked what he meant and he told us it was because all his life he has felt like a woman trapped in a mans body. He was upset when he would get yelled at for trying to be who he felt he was supposed to be. Of course we stayed in contact as I love my family regardless of the choices they make or who they want to be.
After years of being away he recently moved back here. He had his named legally changed, took medication to develop breasts and now does modeling.
I doubt he could do all of this because he made a choice to become transgender. He was able to do all of this because that is who he really was. That is what he always felt, and now that he took that leap and decided to live his life the way he felt he was meant to he is now happier than I have ever seen and also much more confident.
Making a choice to just start being gay as opposed to being born that way does not yield these kinds of results. I don't care what anyone says.
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I don't understand this at all. What exactly is feeling like a woman or feeling like a man? I'm a male and I can't identify anything within my mental makeup that sends out signs that I'm a man. Does anyone else have such signals to identify themselves as a certain gender?
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It's more a case of feeling something is off.
Imagine you were put in a womans body tommorrow. You would never really get used to that right? Basically what it's like for a transgendered person.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transgender
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I would never get used to it if I was put in anyone elses' body, whether they were male or female, but that's simply because I'm used to being myself . That's not really a great line of logic. My point is, what is different inside the minds of the two genders to possibly mentally seperate the two? This seems like a type of people that can't deal with the fact they're either gay or don't fit the typical gender stereotypes, or both.
Just to play this game though, if you woke up tomorrow and found yourself as the other gender, what exactly would feel wrong to you that wasn't a result of different physical traits and the chemical differences between men and women?
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A) Not all transgendered people are gay.
B) Physical traits being wrong is an issue among some transgendred.
C) Not so much "Don't fit the typical gender stereotypes" so much as fit the exact opposite gender sterotypes in most cases.
I can get into further detail, but what the Wikipeda link was to show is that there are a ton of different classifications for "trasngendered" people.
Perhaps this will help
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_identity_disorder
"As gender identity develops in children, so do sex-role stereotypes. Sex-role stereotypes are the beliefs, characteristics and behaviors of individual cultures that are deemed normal and appropriate for boys and girls to possess. These "norms" are influenced by family and friends, the mass-media, community and other socializing agents. Since many cultures strongly disapprove of cross-gender behavior, it often results in significant problems for affected persons and those in close relationships with them. In many cases, transgendered individuals report discomfort stemming from the feeling that their bodies are "wrong" or meant to be different."
As for me... what would feel wrong outside the physical differences... well first... why are we discounting the physical differences? I would feel like I should have a penis. Like people born women who think they should be men do.
Outside that... how EVERYBODY treats me. A man and a woman are treated EXTREMLY different. You can bet i'd go out of my way to look like a guy so I could get treated how I used too, and how i feel like I should.
Not fitting into gender norms is not really a trivial thing when you consider external pressure.
As for the "born that way" arguement. Note that twins who are split at birth often develop similar hobbys and similar jobs and in general live similar lives.
