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being gay a choice vs born that way.

It's a lifestyle choice 120 25.53%
 
Your born that way 250 53.19%
 
no opinion 36 7.66%
 
other---for anything I missed 62 13.19%
 
Total:468
MrBubbles said:
osamanobama said:
Rath said:
 


Out of interest, why do you refer to 'him' and 'he' all the time rather than 'her' and 'she'?

it should be that way because "he" is a "he". no matter how much he doesnt want to be.

his genes says he is a he, his dna says he is a he, his naturally produced hormones say he is a he, his genitalia says he is a he. 

taking hormones and getting surgeries to make your body look different, doesnt change your gender. its very stupid, that on legal documents you can have your sex changed. becasue in reality you cant, you can call yourself by a different name and sex, and look different, but you cant ever change your gender.


by almost every single definition of the word...you definitely can.


err... how.



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osamanobama said:
MrBubbles said:
osamanobama said:
Rath said:
 


Out of interest, why do you refer to 'him' and 'he' all the time rather than 'her' and 'she'?

it should be that way because "he" is a "he". no matter how much he doesnt want to be.

his genes says he is a he, his dna says he is a he, his naturally produced hormones say he is a he, his genitalia says he is a he. 

taking hormones and getting surgeries to make your body look different, doesnt change your gender. its very stupid, that on legal documents you can have your sex changed. becasue in reality you cant, you can call yourself by a different name and sex, and look different, but you cant ever change your gender.


by almost every single definition of the word...you definitely can.


err... how.

Read this.



Chrizum said:
osamanobama said:
MrBubbles said:
osamanobama said:
Rath said:
 


Out of interest, why do you refer to 'him' and 'he' all the time rather than 'her' and 'she'?

it should be that way because "he" is a "he". no matter how much he doesnt want to be.

his genes says he is a he, his dna says he is a he, his naturally produced hormones say he is a he, his genitalia says he is a he. 

taking hormones and getting surgeries to make your body look different, doesnt change your gender. its very stupid, that on legal documents you can have your sex changed. becasue in reality you cant, you can call yourself by a different name and sex, and look different, but you cant ever change your gender.


by almost every single definition of the word...you definitely can.


err... how.

Read this.

so one site says that, most likely to becuase of some agenda.

i can point to many other sites, and sources like the dictionary, that say it means sex.

but if you feel like arguing words, i will just use the word sex.

you cant change you sex.

and by your definition, if some completely hetero sexual male, is somewhat feminine, then his gender is female.

or conversly a masculine women, is then male.

edit: reading the source again, it seems it is saying gender means, just masculine and feminine )arcording to that site).

never once have i heard the word gender be used that way, it always is asking whether, you are male or female, not are you masculine or feminine



Rath said:

@Sapphi_snake. I'm surprised at that opinion coming from you. Basically they don't feel like they belong in the body they were born in. They are (usually) much happier after having a sex change. So why should they not have a sex change?

Indeed...

in a society without gender rolls, there would be few "trans gendered" people.

In a society like this, there are tons... and they are often "beyond repair".

Generally though they do put you through 2 years of therapy and a "trial" run of what it would be like to be that sex where you have to "cross dress" for 2 years before they do operate anyway though.



osamanobama said:
Chrizum said:
osamanobama said:
MrBubbles said:
osamanobama said:
Rath said:
 


Out of interest, why do you refer to 'him' and 'he' all the time rather than 'her' and 'she'?

it should be that way because "he" is a "he". no matter how much he doesnt want to be.

his genes says he is a he, his dna says he is a he, his naturally produced hormones say he is a he, his genitalia says he is a he. 

taking hormones and getting surgeries to make your body look different, doesnt change your gender. its very stupid, that on legal documents you can have your sex changed. becasue in reality you cant, you can call yourself by a different name and sex, and look different, but you cant ever change your gender.


by almost every single definition of the word...you definitely can.


err... how.

Read this.

so one site says that, most likely to becuase of some agenda.

i can point to many other sites, and sources like the dictionary, that say it means sex.

but if you feel like arguing words, i will just use the word sex.

you cant change you sex.

and by your definition, if some completely hetero sexual male, is somewhat feminine, then his gender is female.

or conversly a masculine women, is then male.

edit: reading the source again, it seems it is saying gender means, just masculine and feminine )arcording to that site).

never once have i heard the word gender be used that way, it always is asking whether, you are male or female, not are you masculine or feminine

I'm guessing you've never gone to college then.  They tend to correct that around Sociology 101.



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Kasz216 said:
osamanobama said:
Chrizum said:
osamanobama said:
MrBubbles said:
osamanobama said:
Rath said:
 


Out of interest, why do you refer to 'him' and 'he' all the time rather than 'her' and 'she'?

it should be that way because "he" is a "he". no matter how much he doesnt want to be.

his genes says he is a he, his dna says he is a he, his naturally produced hormones say he is a he, his genitalia says he is a he. 

taking hormones and getting surgeries to make your body look different, doesnt change your gender. its very stupid, that on legal documents you can have your sex changed. becasue in reality you cant, you can call yourself by a different name and sex, and look different, but you cant ever change your gender.


by almost every single definition of the word...you definitely can.


err... how.

Read this.

so one site says that, most likely to becuase of some agenda.

i can point to many other sites, and sources like the dictionary, that say it means sex.

but if you feel like arguing words, i will just use the word sex.

you cant change you sex.

and by your definition, if some completely hetero sexual male, is somewhat feminine, then his gender is female.

or conversly a masculine women, is then male.

edit: reading the source again, it seems it is saying gender means, just masculine and feminine )arcording to that site).

never once have i heard the word gender be used that way, it always is asking whether, you are male or female, not are you masculine or feminine

I'm guessing you've never gone to college then.  They tend to correct that around Sociology 101.

no, i just graduated highschool.

someone should tell the colleges to tell the dictionaries then.

also colleges are very... liberal institutions, so if they vey well may have used the word in that way in order to be more "accepting"

but so we can stop arguing words, i said i would use sex.

and on legal documents it asks for your sex, so even if someone cuts off their testes, and invert their penis, and take estragen, they are still a guy, and nothing they do can change that. their drivers lisence and such should feflect that.



osamanobama said:
Kasz216 said:
osamanobama said:
Chrizum said:
osamanobama said:
MrBubbles said:
osamanobama said:


 


err... how.

Read this.

so one site says that, most likely to becuase of some agenda.

i can point to many other sites, and sources like the dictionary, that say it means sex.

but if you feel like arguing words, i will just use the word sex.

you cant change you sex.

and by your definition, if some completely hetero sexual male, is somewhat feminine, then his gender is female.

or conversly a masculine women, is then male.

edit: reading the source again, it seems it is saying gender means, just masculine and feminine )arcording to that site).

never once have i heard the word gender be used that way, it always is asking whether, you are male or female, not are you masculine or feminine

I'm guessing you've never gone to college then.  They tend to correct that around Sociology 101.

no, i just graduated highschool.

someone should tell the colleges to tell the dictionaries then.

also colleges are very... liberal institutions, so if they vey well may have used the word in that way in order to be more "accepting"


It's got nothing to do with being liberal or conservative... and everything to do with using words correctly.



Kasz216 said:
osamanobama said:
Kasz216 said:
osamanobama said:
Chrizum said:
osamanobama said:
MrBubbles said:
osamanobama said:
 


 


err... how.

Read this.

so one site says that, most likely to becuase of some agenda.

i can point to many other sites, and sources like the dictionary, that say it means sex.

but if you feel like arguing words, i will just use the word sex.

you cant change you sex.

and by your definition, if some completely hetero sexual male, is somewhat feminine, then his gender is female.

or conversly a masculine women, is then male.

edit: reading the source again, it seems it is saying gender means, just masculine and feminine )arcording to that site).

never once have i heard the word gender be used that way, it always is asking whether, you are male or female, not are you masculine or feminine

I'm guessing you've never gone to college then.  They tend to correct that around Sociology 101.

no, i just graduated highschool.

someone should tell the colleges to tell the dictionaries then.

also colleges are very... liberal institutions, so if they vey well may have used the word in that way in order to be more "accepting"


It's got nothing to do with being liberal or conservative... and everything to do with using words correctly.

great input, if you want to drag on the issue with the word, sure go ahead, its rather pointless though.

dictionary definition says on thing, universities say another.

i already said i was talking about "sex" so what's your issue.

you cant change you sex. FACT. legal documents should not allow for you to list a different sex. no one can really have a sex change. FACT



Rath said:

@Sapphi_snake. I'm surprised at that opinion coming from you. Basically they don't feel like they belong in the body they were born in. They are (usually) much happier after having a sex change. So why should they not have a sex change?

Well, I was just saying that if the reason they feel like they don't belong in the body they were born in is because they don't identify with the gender roles that were forced on them since birth, then changing their sex isn't the answer. That would still be bowing down to opressive gender roles. The only reason why they're uncomfortable in their bodies is because they associate thei bodies with the gender roles forced on them, with which they don't identify.



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osamanobama said:

great input, if you want to drag on the issue with the word, sure go ahead, its rather pointless though.

dictionary definition says on thing, universities say another.

i already said i was talking about "sex" so what's your issue.

you cant change you sex. FACT. legal documents should not allow for you to list a different sex. no one can really have a sex change. FACT

Definition of gender:

a : sex <the feminine gender>
b : the behavioral, cultural, or psychological traits typically associated with one sex
Guess you're the one who can't read the dictionary properly.
What Rath and Khasz were saying refers to the concept of "gender" (non-physiological traits associated with masculinity and femininity) developed by social sciences in the 20th century (it's highly unlikely that you would've been taught about this in high school). Studies in fields such as Anthropology show that "masculinity" and "femininity" vary accross cultures, and that they're social constructs, rather than having biological justification.
The reason why it may seem to you that there may be a "liberal" agenda to this is because conservatives have a worldview strongly anchored in cultural myths, therefore reality will commonly oppose their worldview.
(You're right though that sex isn't something you can change, especially on a genetic level)


"I don't understand how someone could like Tolstoy and Dostoyevsky, but not like Twilight!!!"

"Last book I read was Brokeback Mountain, I just don't have the patience for them unless it's softcore porn."

                                                                               (The Voice of a Generation and Seece)

"If you cant stand the sound of your own voice than dont become a singer !!!!!"

                                                                               (pizzahut451)