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Torillian on 30 August 2025
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JRPGfan said:
Torillian said:

My recollection is that the reason women get the kids in the divorce most of the time is that men don't fight for it most of the time. If that's a factual disagreement I can try to look it up. 

I'm not saying that women are doing a better job at those roles. I'm saying that women view those roles as acceptable while men don't view women's roles as acceptable by and large. This leads me to think that most people view one role as superior to the other. In a free society I would prefer people get to do what they want over being assigned what they're best at. 

Lost me on the last paragraph. 

^ the system is rigged in favor of women, when it comes to custody battles.
Its not because men don't fight for their kids.... they just arn't allowed to have them, at the same rate women are.
Again, because of gender rolls.

Basically you have be a horrible mother, to lose a custody battle.
While as a man, unless the mother is such... chances are your facing a uphill battle, that's not in your favor.

The law should be equal, but lets not kid ourselves, women get away with alot of sh*t men can't.

What I've found seems to show that when contested men get custody about 35% of the time. That difference could be gender bias or could be because most cases women are the primary caregiver at home and these decisions are done based on what they think is in the best interest of the child. 

https://www.divorcenet.com/resources/divorce/for-men/divorce-for-men-why-women-get-child-custody-over-80-time#:~:text=Custody%20agreements%20versus%20trial%20outcomes,over%2070%25%20of%20the%20time.



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