There's a costume party coming up on the 1st that i'm gunning for. Perhaps too soon to go "with" her, but perhaps convince her to attend if she had not considered it, ask her what sort of costume she would favor (in a non-pervy way, yes).

It's Halloween, there's plenty going on at the moment.

I asked her out 10/1 for coffee after class, she said "not today," so i asked for the next week and she said yes to that. Next week (10/8) comes and she skips class entirely. Following week i got scrambled by this other girl that wanted to talk about what classes she should take next semester, then comes yesterday: class was canceled altogether.

So i *did* have the balls, then a whole shitload of stuff got in the way. My concern is less about getting shot down in the sense that she's just not into me (which would be fine at the end of the day), but more my fear of freaking her out by seeming *too* interested, which is what screwed me over last round.

NiKKoM thinks it would be acceptable for me to post to her wall on facebook, but anything else (like a PM) would be non-kosher. If i were to follow my normal tendencies, i would have simply initiated the conversation via email long ago, but conventional wisdom dictates that i need to do this sort of thing face-to-face at first, which then runs into the problem that i get minimal face-time with her per week.

LOL.. Email? Really? hot damn... email...

And that right there is why i've ignored my inclination to do so

Nope, i read a schedule backwards. Non-issue, carry on.

I'm gonna kill a kitten if it doesn't happen tommorow..

Hence my earlier post. Thought there was a conflict, and there's still an outside possibility of such, but the speaker in question is in our class, and then speaking again to a general audience immediately thereafter. I'm placing my bet that she isn't sticking around for a second dose of the same thing.

Either way, i should at least get a chance to talk to her about the halloween party at the end of the week. Plus i went out for lunch myself today and found noticed a few places that weren't crowded.

Mr. Khan, I think you should consider doing some sort of behaviour therapy too. It might help you a lot. You seem to be very anxious over your social skills and what it is going to happen and I identify a lot of that with what I once used to be before seeking a psychologist myself.

It's really just women. I do fine in social situations, like at the luncheon mentioned in a previous post: staffed with important people, including the dean of my grad school, a distinguished alum, and a few student council members, and i was 10 minutes late. Cool as a cucumber and i hit it off splendidly (as far as i can tell, anyway). Got the alumnus talking about his field of study which happens to be a subject of a paper i'm working on, helped carry a good part of the conversation.

Romance, now, drives me a bit batty, which could be for one of many reasons. Hell, my scheming over this was what made me 10 minutes late for the other thing.

I think he's fine.. Its just women.. I have perfectly normal social friends, with good jobs but women.. Its a mess.. Too nervous.. Too shy in that department.. Different priorities, like Mr Kahn who set his study as number one.. Missed oppertunities they didn't even saw.. A girl asked a friend if he had something to do friday and he was like: "i got to work out friday".. I slapped him

Its not uncommon to lose your cool around a woman.. Men do need to learn from their mistakes and gain experience socialising and dating them. Just don't become like me when last weekend at an expo an ex student of my introduced me as: "This is Nikkom, he's my old teacher while he was my teacher our relationship was never teacher-student from the start but somethng else".. The looks i got after she said that.. -_-"