The Romantic Advice Thread

[Mr Khan]

Miguel_Zorro said:

My luck with women got much better as soon as I stopped giving a sh*t whether I got shot down.

Now that I'm married, even though I'm in the worst shape of my life, it feels like women are constantly making themselves available. It's because I don't care if they're into me and I'm not worried about the consequences.

Looking back to my younger days, there were an incredible number of women that I didn't go for because I was waiting for the perfect moment or I just didn't have the balls.  In hindsight, there was no reason for me to act that way.

So stop caring. Just go for it. This thread started on Sept 17th.

I asked her out 10/1 for coffee after class, she said "not today," so i asked for the next week and she said yes to that. Next week (10/8) comes and she skips class entirely. Following week i got scrambled by this other girl that wanted to talk about what classes she should take next semester, then comes yesterday: class was canceled altogether.

So i *did* have the balls, then a whole shitload of stuff got in the way. My concern is less about getting shot down in the sense that she's just not into me (which would be fine at the end of the day), but more my fear of freaking her out by seeming *too* interested, which is what screwed me over last round.

NiKKoM thinks it would be acceptable for me to post to her wall on facebook, but anything else (like a PM) would be non-kosher. If i were to follow my normal tendencies, i would have simply initiated the conversation via email long ago, but conventional wisdom dictates that i need to do this sort of thing face-to-face at first, which then runs into the problem that i get minimal face-time with her per week.