Ok, either AFC means "American Football Conference", yes I remembered that, or a quick look on Urban Dictionary AFC means "Average Frustrated Chump". If its the latter, I would say I fell into that category until more recently. I dunno, recently I've been having more luck. But yeah, just have confidence. Women love men with confidence. Just watch out how much you let out. Too much will make it to where her friends, or the guy her friend met at the bar, will have to stop her from beating you down. Yes, I had to deal with that. Brownie points for me but still slight buzz kill.

@oldschoolfool

Where do you typically go to meet women? Bars? Clubs? For me, I find that out of the two bars are great places. I typically go to find a place with karaoke and pool. Pool is an easy game to play and a great ice breaker. And don't forget, before you approach, check the fingers. I mean, it won't tell if they have a boyfriend or not but at least you'll avoid the marriage problem. Wish someone told me earlier in my life. Would've saved me some major grief. Dating sites are also good. I could give you a good site but you'll have to message me if you want it, though mention if you're been to few before.

@Rainbow Yoshi

Uh...weird question that you should really only be ask people you know in real life.

You missed my first post, I've asked this girl at my school that I really like. She likes me back (sort of).

Dude... You just need to man up.

Seriously, if what you say is true, you just have to break your mold a bit. That is, do stuff you don't 'ordinarily' do, swallow your pride and shyness because YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE. Even if it doesn't come to you naturally, try to be outgoing, you'll be amazed when you actually do so and find someone with whom you just click.

Don't try too hard, don't go out looking for the perfect women, when you meet a girl don't try to make her fit into your 'idealized' figure of a woman I'm sure is stuck somewhere in your mind, get to know her a bit for who she is, even if she is flawed. If at the end she just isn't right, at least you'll have a notch on your blade (hopefully literally :p) and some experience, which WILL build the confidence you are lacking.

You sound like a calm guy that doesn't party that much, strictly you don't 'need' to do so in order to meet a woman, but it is a bit easier if you do. Get yourself a wingman, go out in packs so you don't feel weird. Just grab a few buddies, even if they're shy as you (it makes for awesome laughs) or better yet some friends that know are good with women and just GO OUT, if you find a good catch great if not well it's also great.

This is probably the most important part, DON'T take them too serious, at least not at first, she, whoever she is, is just a person among millions like you. I tell you this because I would think that someone in your position could fall flat for the first one that nears the characteristics you seek, and could end up idealizing and marrying her :p

Pro-tip from another 31 year old single guy ... Date younger women!

Single women in their early 30's have a lot of baggage, have unrealistic expectations, and are mostly unwilling to spend any time with any man they don't envision getting married to immediately; the reason for this is they have spent the better part of a decade being lusted after and "screwed around" by countless guys, and now have a fast-track plan to get married before it is too late.

exactly what I said, only in an infinitely more classy manner

If I was able to find a woman, you'll be too!
It happens suddenly and unexpectedly, so... watch out!
Good luck!

Dude, i'm sorry but:

No one here should ever listen to advice like this, pepole should aspire and work to achieve theri goals, not wait for chance to give them what they want.

But with love you can work as much as you want, it happens when it happens. Love is a bit different that achieving goals with your career or something.
Of course you can go out and meet a lot of women, but you certainly can't force it.
That's just my experience though. It may be different for others.

Manuel,what a guy!

ok my advice,keep everything nice,when you go out your breath can't smell,take a shower it'll help,don't forget the axe shampoo(lol),girls want a guy whos sweet sensitive or not..girls are all different,just meet a lot of girls and when I say a lot I MEAN A LOT!...but if you don't have confidence...target the things that make you unconfident.

You mentioned that you look like Frankenstein and that kids used to bully you in high school honestly if your old enough and you still carry that,tell those horrible memories to F*** OFF don't let it bring you down you look normal,the thing about high school is that kids get off on making you misserable,do you think they still remember you?If they don't why should you?Start going to the gym I don't go to the gym but I look buff when I go to the store I can see that some girls are looking at me,girls also love someone thats strong and can protect them if the situation comes,when I was in middle school people said I have a big head and it got me annoyed but now that I look back there was a bunch of things wrong with those people.

Go to the gym get muscles,go atleast 1hr a day its summer time man.

if you make enough money...just pay a hooker to be your girlfriend. its just like having a real girlfriend except this one admits that she wants your money when she takes it.