Why are all the good women taken?

[magent_mx]

Dude... You just need to man up.

Seriously, if what you say is true, you just have to break your mold a bit. That is, do stuff you don't 'ordinarily' do, swallow your pride and shyness because YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE. Even if it doesn't come to you naturally, try to be outgoing, you'll be amazed when you actually do so and find someone with whom you just click.

Don't try too hard, don't go out looking for the perfect women, when you meet a girl don't try to make her fit into your 'idealized' figure of a woman I'm sure is stuck somewhere in your mind, get to know her a bit for who she is, even if she is flawed. If at the end she just isn't right, at least you'll have a notch on your blade (hopefully literally :p) and some experience, which WILL build the confidence you are lacking.

You sound like a calm guy that doesn't party that much, strictly you don't 'need' to do so in order to meet a woman, but it is a bit easier if you do. Get yourself a wingman, go out in packs so you don't feel weird. Just grab a few buddies, even if they're shy as you (it makes for awesome laughs) or better yet some friends that know are good with women and just GO OUT, if you find a good catch great if not well it's also great.

This is probably the most important part, DON'T take them too serious, at least not at first, she, whoever she is, is just a person among millions like you. I tell you this because I would think that someone in your position could fall flat for the first one that nears the characteristics you seek, and could end up idealizing and marrying her :p